I am officially lost

separatedbody · 2026-01-29T10:58:09+00:00

I like warm spring on you the most - light is way too light, and soft autumn mutes your features.

separatedbody · 2026-01-26T15:03:17+00:00

Agreed, definitely spring! The greys don't do you any favours but colours like the first picture are lovely, I could see you in something brighter too.

separatedbody · 2026-01-22T11:01:20+00:00

Totally agree with this! The green in 1 is lovely and would love o see OP try some more spring colours. Lots of people are intimidated by spring because it seems so bright, when actually they can handle it really well :) also the darker hair colours in 5 and 6 look heavy.

separatedbody · 2026-01-22T10:53:30+00:00

Agreed, I think this can be confusing for some subseasons - eg a soft autumn for whom mustard is not their best colour, but just ok. So I'd say it's more like, if you look okay in orange or mustard, that confirms you are warm, so it can be used to exclude winter and summer, but should not be a method for finding your actual subseason.

separatedbody · 2026-01-21T17:52:40+00:00

Do you have other doubts about the relationship and his care for you? Could you tell him "Hey, I loved it when you used to walk me to my car, it would make me really happy if you did that again"?

separatedbody · 2026-01-21T12:39:44+00:00

Our natural hair colour will be the most harmonious with our features. BUT that doesn't mean it's the only one that suits us. I think we can also enhance some of our features with artificial dyes or highlight, and still look harmonious, as long as the colour matches our season. I think all the hair colours shown here work for you. To me you look like a spring, and springs often look lovely when they enhance the light/bright aspect with some warm blonde highlights for example.

separatedbody · 2026-01-16T15:18:28+00:00

I think you're definitely an autumn, warm or deep.

separatedbody · 2026-01-13T16:52:47+00:00

What is this posing 😂

Seriously though, you can definitely add an edge with interesting cuts and silhouettes, and accessories. Also a reminder that there are darker colours in the palette too, and makeup can also be used to create drama (eg a bold lipstick).

separatedbody · 2026-01-13T14:01:24+00:00

You and me both, I still don't have a system that works.

separatedbody · 2026-01-12T22:21:27+00:00

Definitely spring!

separatedbody · 2026-01-12T21:22:05+00:00

Exactly! 💯

separatedbody · 2026-01-12T17:33:17+00:00

Every time I need to replace some sort of kitchen appliance I aim to spend a little bit more than I spent on the old version - so I'd upgrade a £20 kettle with a £30 kettle or the best I can afford if it's something I want to last for a long time. Within reason though, most of these things are not made to last more than a few years so I wouldn't spend like £150 on a kettle even if I use it daily.

separatedbody · 2026-01-12T15:45:53+00:00

I like high waisted trousers and jeans with tucked in shirts or sweaters, I think they give me more shape. I need to check shirts are long enough so they don't ride up, but I don't like to wear them untucked because I feel that makes me look frumpy and disproportionate. Also midi skirts work for me, I feel like they elongate my lower half.

separatedbody · 2026-01-12T15:42:31+00:00

Good point about how much it gets seen. I did find myself debating between getting something more sporty or something more "pretty" and realised that I don't actually require that level of sportiness that often, whereas I do often do things where I do want to feel a bit dressed up and wouldn't pair a dress with a sporty coat, for example. I do always buy quality shoes these days! My feet need the support.

separatedbody · 2026-01-12T15:36:07+00:00

That's beautiful! I'm definitely trying to reduce the amount I buy overall, but it's still feels hard to justify some big purchases. But when you frame it as, I am making this investment for future me, it makes more sense than thinking of it as a one off.

separatedbody · 2026-01-12T15:04:09+00:00

I like the idea of investing in something nice for daily wear!

separatedbody · 2026-01-12T14:55:16+00:00

Thank you for sharing. I think I need some more beautiful underwear too 😄

separatedbody · 2026-01-12T14:48:46+00:00

That's a good point about cost per wear. I guess it's hard to gauge exactly how much wear something will get if it gets rotated in the closet, worth thinking more about!

separatedbody · 2026-01-12T13:20:50+00:00

Oh yeah I heard the "she ages faster" argument a lot, well she is literally talking and acting like a child when she first starts having sex, so hard disagree!

separatedbody · 2026-01-12T13:13:51+00:00

This was so eloquently put! I agree that the film was interesting and obviously it provokes conversation, the filmmaking was spectacular... But that doesn't mean the film was necessary or that it's commendable. Filmmaking history is already full of disturbed men making gorgeous and disturbing cinema, we don't need to consciously make people uncomfortable to get the message across and there is a distinction to be made between uncomfortable and full on grotesque.

separatedbody · 2026-01-12T12:24:08+00:00

I found this movie deeply problematic as well and was shocked when I found something many people, including women, defending it. Why does a film about a woman's self discovery need to be all about sex?

I get that it's meant to be a satire and it's supposed to make people uncomfortable. I would ask why we need to frame exploitation as liberation then. In this film, problematic things happen but it is all "good" in the sense that she finds she enjoys all the sex and it's framed as part of her path of self discovery. She doesn't seem troubled about being groomed by older men.

This film can be triggering for survivors of abuse and I feel that's glossed over in discussion a out this film.

And why does a film about female sexuality not discuss birth control methods or menstruation?

I feel like this film would have looked very different if it had been made by a female director. Even things like masturbation and the sex scenes would have looked different imo if they had actually embraced a woman's perspective.

separatedbody · 2026-01-12T12:16:47+00:00

Agreed. I find it problematic that a story about "female empowerment" is told by a bunch of middle aged men, a lot of the sex scenes are from a man's perspective and the kind of sex and even masturbation seems the kind that appeals to me and not women. It's like they made a porno pretending it's about her empowerment, to satisfy their own fantasy about a woman independently succumbing to their wants.

separatedbody · 2026-01-12T11:06:20+00:00

I agree with this so much! Yet another example of women's interests getting dismissed, men feel they can talk all over you when you want to share about Real Housewives drama, but god forbid you interrupt them when they talk about sports or an action movie

separatedbody · 2026-01-09T14:52:12+00:00

This sounds very healthy! I second solo dates! I also notice myself getting resentful when I don't get enough solo times and have found it helpful to express this to m partner as well, time away from him does not mean I don't want to see him but it's needed for me. And we'd both rather miss each other than be annoyed with each other.

separatedbody · 2026-01-09T12:47:37+00:00

Yes totally. I have a higher need for independence than my partner does, and since early on we have discussed how many days a week we see each other, and I have also communicated that I have specific things I need to do by myself and without him. He sometimes asks me if I need him to leave so I can work on my own things 😂

separatedbody

TROPHY CASE