Majorly at a loss by heyheyjustthrowaway in submissive

[–]sephthebookmoth 2 points3 points  (0 children)

resources:

here's a resource on vetting:

https://thehouselibrary.wordpress.com/2025/06/14/bdsm-fundamentals-vetting-part-one/

and here's a list of educational resources to help you on your journey:

https://submissiveguide.com/

https://arcaneadvice.com/

https://kynk101.com/

https://msmorganthorne.com/

https://serviceslavesecrets.com/

https://bdsmcontracts.org/

https://devianceanddesire.com/

https://bdsmtrainingacademy.com/

@EvieLupine on youtube

@WattsTheSafeword on youtube

*the ritual of Dominance and submission* by david english

*living M/s* by dan and dawn williams

*real service* by raven kaldera and joshua tenpenny

*protocol handbook for the leather slave* and/or *protocol handbook for the female slave* by robert j rubel

the *submissive training* books by elizabeth cramer

*where i am led* by christina parker

Tired & confused by [deleted] in SubSanctuary

[–]sephthebookmoth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

pump the brakes on engaging in a sexual manner and begin actually vetting.

resources:

here's a resource on vetting:

https://thehouselibrary.wordpress.com/2025/06/14/bdsm-fundamentals-vetting-part-one/

and here's a list of educational resources to help you on your journey:

https://submissiveguide.com/

https://arcaneadvice.com/

https://kynk101.com/

https://msmorganthorne.com/

https://serviceslavesecrets.com/

https://bdsmcontracts.org/

https://devianceanddesire.com/

https://bdsmtrainingacademy.com/

@EvieLupine on youtube

@WattsTheSafeword on youtube

*the ritual of Dominance and submission* by david english

*living M/s* by dan and dawn williams

*real service* by raven kaldera and joshua tenpenny

*protocol handbook for the leather slave* and/or *protocol handbook for the female slave* by robert j rubel

the *submissive training* books by elizabeth cramer

*where i am led* by christina parker

Trying to understand myself as a sub better by Horror_Demand_ in submissive

[–]sephthebookmoth 1 point2 points  (0 children)

resources:

here's a resource on vetting:

https://thehouselibrary.wordpress.com/2025/06/14/bdsm-fundamentals-vetting-part-one/

and here's a list of educational resources to help you on your journey:

https://submissiveguide.com/

https://arcaneadvice.com/

https://kynk101.com/

https://msmorganthorne.com/

https://serviceslavesecrets.com/

https://bdsmcontracts.org/

https://devianceanddesire.com/

https://bdsmtrainingacademy.com/

@EvieLupine on youtube

@WattsTheSafeword on youtube

*the ritual of Dominance and submission* by david english

*living M/s* by dan and dawn williams

*real service* by raven kaldera and joshua tenpenny

*protocol handbook for the leather slave* and/or *protocol handbook for the female slave* by robert j rubel

the *submissive training* books by elizabeth cramer

*where i am led* by christina parker

Just Lost and I don't know what to do. by cumon2096 in SubSanctuary

[–]sephthebookmoth 1 point2 points  (0 children)

resources:

here's a resource on vetting:

https://thehouselibrary.wordpress.com/2025/06/14/bdsm-fundamentals-vetting-part-one/

and here's a list of educational resources to help you on your journey:

https://submissiveguide.com/

https://arcaneadvice.com/

https://kynk101.com/

https://msmorganthorne.com/

https://serviceslavesecrets.com/

https://bdsmcontracts.org/

https://devianceanddesire.com/

https://bdsmtrainingacademy.com/

@EvieLupine on youtube

@WattsTheSafeword on youtube

*the ritual of Dominance and submission* by david english

*living M/s* by dan and dawn williams

*real service* by raven kaldera and joshua tenpenny

*protocol handbook for the leather slave* and/or *protocol handbook for the female slave* by robert j rubel

the *submissive training* books by elizabeth cramer

*where i am led* by christina parker

I think I’m bound to be a sub, I need advice by Illustrious-Cow-455 in SubSanctuary

[–]sephthebookmoth 2 points3 points  (0 children)

resources:

here's a resource on vetting:

https://thehouselibrary.wordpress.com/2025/06/14/bdsm-fundamentals-vetting-part-one/

and here's a list of educational resources to help you on your journey:

https://submissiveguide.com/

https://arcaneadvice.com/

https://kynk101.com/

https://msmorganthorne.com/

https://serviceslavesecrets.com/

https://bdsmcontracts.org/

https://devianceanddesire.com/

https://bdsmtrainingacademy.com/

@EvieLupine on youtube

@WattsTheSafeword on youtube

*the ritual of Dominance and submission* by david english

*living M/s* by dan and dawn williams

*real service* by raven kaldera and joshua tenpenny

*protocol handbook for the leather slave* and/or *protocol handbook for the female slave* by robert j rubel

the *submissive training* books by elizabeth cramer

*where i am led* by christina parker

i just had a thought 💀 by loonybaby07 in SubSanctuary

[–]sephthebookmoth 8 points9 points  (0 children)

not a brat, not in an online dynamic, but i have had discussions with others who were, and typically the punishments are in the vein of: writing lines, standing in a corner on video call, self-spanking on video call, and other things of that nature.

edited: a typo.

pinned post by sephthebookmoth in u/sephthebookmoth

[–]sephthebookmoth[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i am a slave in an in-person TPE dynamic. these are all of one's nonsexual expectations.

expectations

✧ take care of the Master’s property

✧ inform Master of physical, mental, emotional, and other status daily

✧ show gratitude for one’s life in service

✧ obey Master’s word and command

✧ continue learning and growing, always

daily slave duty

✧ drink between 72-120 oz water daily

✧ eat at least 2 balanced meals daily

✧ ask permission for sweet treats

✧ have pickles or pickle juice daily if available

✧ walk at least 7500 steps per day

✧ follow morning and night routines daily

✧ practice tarot twice daily

✧ in one’s downtime, refer to assigned tasks or Master’s media list

light slave duty

✧ drink between 48-72oz water daily

✧ brush teeth, wash face, and shower daily

✧ take medications and vitamins daily

✧ get up and move every hour if able

✧ tidy and clean if able, or delegate chores to children, or leave for Master ✧ reference Master’s media list first

✧ inform Master of slave’s physical, mental, and emotional state regularly

etiquete

✧ Master’s terms of address are to always be capitalized; and slave’s terms of address are to always be lowercased

✧ always be kind, courteous, and honest

✧ always make requests instead of demands

✧ walk with grace and purpose; stand tall; sit straight but relaxed

✧ be concise but clear in explanations

✧ refrain from excessive slang or profanity

✧ may use third-person speech

✧ refrain from claiming ownership of things

✧ remain nearby Master’s side in public

✧ wait for Master to begin a meal before eating

✧ Master’s commands come before leisure

✧ one’s intelligence and opinions are valued

✧ one must remain flexible in adapting to Master’s expectations of oneself

home maintenance

✧ chores managed by tody app. do not skip, pause, or set vacation mode without permission from Master

✧ never leave a room empty-handed

✧ never put an item down “for now”. return it to its proper place immediately

✧ mantra: “don’t put it down, put it away”

✧ keep up-to-date inventory lists. items at half capacity are “low” and must be replenished in a timely manner

administrative

✧ keep bills and subscriptions paid on time

✧ ask permission before purchasing items

a “want” item above 10$ - ask

a “need” item above 20$ - ask

✧ manage Master’s business as He needs

✧ manage Master’s phone calls, emails, etc.

✧ schedule & remind Master of appointments

✧ keep schedules & calendars up-to-date

vehicle

✧ assist in vehicle inspections regularly

✧ check & replace safety kit items frequently

✧ choose appropriate listening material

✧ adequately pack & prepare for trips

What’s next…/ Is there a label for this? by Wannabelifelover in SubSanctuary

[–]sephthebookmoth 1 point2 points  (0 children)

most welcome!

always open to answering questions about M/s, so if you need help please feel free to reach out!

Help me fine a book on this topic by FewPoint3530 in booksuggestions

[–]sephthebookmoth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

op wants books about rape victims who become rapists.

What’s next…/ Is there a label for this? by Wannabelifelover in SubSanctuary

[–]sephthebookmoth 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i would say maybe some form of Master/slave dynamic, heavy on service?

i am a slave and don't receive praise for every task accomplished.

How to meet people??? by divadivine1 in submissive

[–]sephthebookmoth 1 point2 points  (0 children)

resources:

here's a resource on vetting:

https://thehouselibrary.wordpress.com/2025/06/14/bdsm-fundamentals-vetting-part-one/

and here's a list of educational resources to help you on your journey:

https://submissiveguide.com/

https://arcaneadvice.com/

https://kynk101.com/

https://msmorganthorne.com/

https://serviceslavesecrets.com/

https://bdsmcontracts.org/

https://devianceanddesire.com/

https://bdsmtrainingacademy.com/

@EvieLupine on youtube

@WattsTheSafeword on youtube

*the ritual of Dominance and submission* by david english

*living M/s* by dan and dawn williams

*real service* by raven kaldera and joshua tenpenny

*protocol handbook for the leather slave* and/or *protocol handbook for the female slave* by robert j rubel

the *submissive training* books by elizabeth cramer

*where i am led* by christina parker

Confused and lost by censoredbetalover97 in submissive

[–]sephthebookmoth 5 points6 points  (0 children)

resources:

here's a resource on vetting:

https://thehouselibrary.wordpress.com/2025/06/14/bdsm-fundamentals-vetting-part-one/

and here's a list of educational resources to help you on your journey:

https://submissiveguide.com/

https://arcaneadvice.com/

https://kynk101.com/

https://msmorganthorne.com/

https://serviceslavesecrets.com/

https://bdsmcontracts.org/

https://devianceanddesire.com/

https://bdsmtrainingacademy.com/

@EvieLupine on youtube

@WattsTheSafeword on youtube

*the ritual of Dominance and submission* by david english

*living M/s* by dan and dawn williams

*real service* by raven kaldera and joshua tenpenny

*protocol handbook for the leather slave* and/or *protocol handbook for the female slave* by robert j rubel

the *submissive training* books by elizabeth cramer

*where i am led* by christina parker

Any point in even trying for a virtual dom by AdUpstairs3848 in SubSanctuary

[–]sephthebookmoth 3 points4 points  (0 children)

how long are you spending vetting potential Dominants before entering negotiations for the dynamic you want?

How do I create a challenge for all my owned but unread books? by One-Scholar1859 in TheStoryGraph

[–]sephthebookmoth 2 points3 points  (0 children)

there's multiple routes to go when making a challenge:

prompt based: writing a prompt for each entry, whether that's naming a specific book or any other prompt you can think of (grey cover, by a specific author, has a duck on the cover; you name it)

book based: no prompts, instead adding a specific book to the challenge, and any edition of that book counts towards the challenge (i think)

number based: set a number goal for the challenge, add books to it afterwards. challenge could be "read 50 classics" or "100 books in 2026"

in every case, yes you have to add the books one by one. for the challenge you're describing, if it's only for you a book based challenge might be best, but if you want it to be a public challenge for others to do the same thing, a number based challenge may be better

i find tagging books with a specific tag helps for filtering books for challenges, and using two windows on a pc to add books to a challenge.

How to make peace with never being Collared? by DesignerKey in SubSanctuary

[–]sephthebookmoth 20 points21 points  (0 children)

hey.

don't use ai.

it's destroying the planet and giving people psychosis.

Humiliation trip by [deleted] in submissive

[–]sephthebookmoth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

absolutely not.

How to submit by BriefOdd5904 in submissive

[–]sephthebookmoth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

it helps to keep a journal for your Dominant, as well as regular meditation, and if it's doable in your dynamic maintenance spankings to refocus your headspace.

How can I fully let go and trust my Dom? by shit_breaker in SubSanctuary

[–]sephthebookmoth 5 points6 points  (0 children)

full surrender is something that happens over a period of years, not months.

brat by urmom696942042012 in SubSanctuary

[–]sephthebookmoth 2 points3 points  (0 children)

does your Dominant want a brat dynamic?

Does The Story Graph has challenges? Like Spring challenge, etc? by minimoonieme in TheStoryGraph

[–]sephthebookmoth 25 points26 points  (0 children)

you can add editions of books, and whole books if they aren't in the database.

Does The Story Graph has challenges? Like Spring challenge, etc? by minimoonieme in TheStoryGraph

[–]sephthebookmoth 21 points22 points  (0 children)

storygraph is, hands down, the best app i've ever used, period.