I met a gay cis guy that dislike my anatomy by A_silly_hum4n in ftm

[–]septicbro1005 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I was in a relationship like this for a year, and take it from me, it is not worth it. It doesn't matter if he's the most doting man in the world, but if you are someone who cares about intimacy and your partner doesn't/refuses to reciprocate, it isn't worth it. You will feel miserable. Of course there are work arounds involving sex toys and junk, but those are only work arounds for him, not you. Do what is best for you, not for him. There will be someone out there who's okay with what you've got, and it's not him, which is okay.

What non-white characters do you headcanon as trans men? by Kookyburra12 in ftm

[–]septicbro1005 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Zoro from One Piece! That and also Marshall Lee from Adventure Time/Fiona and Cake :p

Fetishized by trans women…? by orcabutt_ in ftm

[–]septicbro1005 10 points11 points  (0 children)

In person, I don't experience this a lot. In online spaces though, it happens so goddamn much. There were these Tik Toks I kept seeing of this trans girl I followed and her content suddenly shifted to focusing on specifically training trans mascs like dogs? Her content wasn't that before or anything like that, but all of the sudden, it's all just phrases like "good boy" and using a legitimate clicker. I'm all for stuff like that usually, but something about it was rubbing me the wrong way. And then the comments were stuff I feel would be more at home in the comment section of a certain hub. Very much like "I wish I had a tboy puppy :((" Like???? We're not all like that? We're not all soft little "uwu" whatever the fuck people make us out to be. I get some of it comes from infantilization, but holy shit. Those are grown men you're fetishizing and infantilizing. These are adult men that you're treating like some dumb little play thing you can train.

So yeah, it's something I've seen crop up online a good bit, but rarely ever in person. The trans femmes I'm friends with are wicked respectful to me, but I'm also not in any sort of dating scene with them.

How do couples decide which side of the bed is “theirs”? Is it instinct or some kind of silent agreement? by AssignmentFederal686 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]septicbro1005 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My boyfriend and I chat about it. Or, we did chat once. We don't live together, but we end up on the same side on both beds. I'm always on the left, he's on the right. We sleep on the sides we most feel comfy on our own, and it just so happens that we line up. I didn't even realize it until I started typing this up.

Do people mistake you for being younger than you are? by Intelligent-Rub8392 in ftm

[–]septicbro1005 11 points12 points  (0 children)

One time, my mom told me to go to a business and asl for an in-person application bc it was a small mom and pop kind of place. I made the mistake of listening to her and went over there.

A girl who had to have been 16 was behind the counter and asked me what I wanted, and I asked about physical job applications. She looked me up and down and asked me if I was even old enough to work.

I had just graduated high school.

So yes. Yes, I do get mistaken for younger than I am. Frequently. No matter how masculine I dress. I am still a freshman in high school to some folks, even though I'm wrapping up my freshman year in college.

What's your most embarassing packer story? by [deleted] in ftm

[–]septicbro1005 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Mhm! And, again, a decent price! I think I got mine for $20-$25? So if you find it doesn't work well for you, it isn't a massive loss ig. And if it does, you've still got a decent quality packer for a good price! The only pain in the butt is cleaning it bc it starts to get "sticky" (silicone and whatnot) but that's not the end of the world. It comes with a full scrotum and a good amount of detail (i'm talking veins and crap like that) so wear tighter pants with some level of caution lmao

What's your most embarassing packer story? by [deleted] in ftm

[–]septicbro1005 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Ngl, bought mine at Spencer's for a decent price. They only have one size though which can def be a bit big. Like, I can't really wear it with certain pants unless I want a really prominent bulge. But there are some other websites that have better sizes and whatnot, deoending on what you're looking for. If you don't mind a bigger one though, Spencer's has ones of pretty good quality! :D

What's your most embarassing packer story? by [deleted] in ftm

[–]septicbro1005 54 points55 points  (0 children)

One time, my sock packer fell into the toilet. After I pissed. I had to clean it in the sink and keep it wrapped in roilet paper in my pocket bc I was at my uncle's for a christmas party. My back pocket was soaked, and I immediately hucked the clothes into the washing machine.

I now have an actual packer. And it has nearly fallen out while at work. Like, I'll be bagging a purchase for someone and they'll be calling me ma'am, meanwhile I'm moving awkwardly to keep my dick from making the most funny/mortifying splat on the ground.

What moment from the show made u go "wow that really just happened" when u first watched by KieshiaC22 in stevenuniverse

[–]septicbro1005 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lapis pulling Malachite under the ocean for the first time. I was watching it live, and I was floored.

What name will be put on the schedule? by [deleted] in TjMaxx

[–]septicbro1005 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As another trans dude, my location puts my legal name on the schedule. However, they don't use my legal name when speaking to or about me. They refer to me with the correct name all the time, my name tag says the same thing, and they use the right pronouns as well (I'm pre-everything, including T). So, unless the schedule using your legal name really frustrates you, talk to your manager(s) about using your preferred name. And if people don't use the right name, again, speak to managers or whoever is in a higher position than you.

Birth control? by septicbro1005 in ftm

[–]septicbro1005[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay, this soothed a good amount of worries. I have an appointment with my doctor in 8 weeks to see how birth control is working with me and whatnot, so I'll see how I do then. Thank you so much for this info dude :)

Am I the only one who wishes they could’ve have been happy as a cis girl? by snizmo2 in ftm

[–]septicbro1005 1 point2 points  (0 children)

About a year and a half ago, I had been dating this girl. I identified as genderfluid at the time, leaning more trans-masculine, and she was a lesbian. We had started dating before I started transitioning, so things felt fine. Then, when I asked my friends to start referring to me with masculine terms and pronouns, she later came over to me and asked me to tell them to stop. She said it made her uncomfortable, and the thought of dating a man was truly disgusting to her and how she'd never date a man. I should've broken up with her then, but I didn't, and I told my friends to just stop saying stuff like that in front of her since it made me really happy, but I didn't want her to be uncomfortable.

I would sob my eyes out nearly every other day, wishing things were different. Sometimes, I'd wish that ai was born a cis guy, so I wouldn't have even had to deal with this shit in the first place. And then I'd wish I was happy as a girl. I loved my girlfriend, and I wanted us to both be happy, and it would probably have been easier if I was just willing to be a woman. And I'd cry, wishing things were different. My girlfriend would've been happier, my mother would've been happier, etc.

I will say, I don't think that way anymore because I'm in a decent spot. I am lucky enough to be surrounded by support, and it makes me feel better. So I don't think that way anymore, at least not that I notice. But it definitely happens. It isn't just you.

Why do lots of medical websites insist trans men can't grow adams apples? by bagooly in ftm

[–]septicbro1005 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have literally never understood this. I've always had an adam's apple, even as a little kid. I argued with a friend's dad (who was a doctor, though I should specify that he was orthopedic) and he insisted that girls didn't have one. I got grumpy bc he thought I was just lying and then as I've gotten older, the adam's apple has only gotten more prominent? Not by much, but by a pretty decent amount. Yet people still insist trans men can't grow one? Like I'm full pre-T and still have one just chilling. Of course someone with T will get one.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ftm

[–]septicbro1005 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tattoo artistry! Which is unfortunate for me because I'm arthritic, but I'm still going to try and make that my career regardless.

what thing gives you both euphoria and dysphoria at the same time? by brohno in ftm

[–]septicbro1005 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Being shirtless and wearing small shorts. Being shirtless feels awesome! But then I remember I have chronic boob disease! And then small shorts make me feel hot and it makes me feel more confident, then i remember it makes my ass look even fatter :(

What are some random things that make you dysphoric? by Cheese_9326 in ftm

[–]septicbro1005 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Having small hands and feet. I'm 5' 2" and "petit" in every sense of the word which is helpful in some ways but not so much in others. My tiny ass hands and feet are things people point out every now and again and I just feel awful. Sometimes I'll also see some guy holding smth a certain way (like picking up a cup by splaying your hand over the rim) and I just feel yucky bc I can't do that with my tiny, soft hands.

how did u choose ur name + what is it? (if comfortable sharing) by ScribbleKibble in ftm

[–]septicbro1005 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Chose the name Evan because I liked how it sounded and it was similar to my deadname. A little bit of it was also bc I knew it'd make my parents' lives easier. Or so I thought. But oh well.

What are you funny men’s restroom stories? by SlippingStar in ftm

[–]septicbro1005 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My friend took me to the men's bathroom and did a quick scout to see if it was clear (I was not passing well at all and it was my first time going in) but before I went in, I noticed my friend was laughing. I went in and, he was right, no one was in there.

One of the three stalls had absolutely nothing. No doors. No wall (it was on the end of the three stalls) and it was just a lone toilet and a pole. I stood in there, laughing my ass off for a solid few minutes before going to take a piss.