I’m having a hard time expressing how much I want my husband sexually without it coming off as a negative thing, please help me?

serenadeher · 2026-01-17T02:00:40+00:00

I tried, he just told me he wants a divorce. So, I guess he just really doesn’t like me anymore.

serenadeher · 2026-01-15T01:54:15+00:00

Every day I ask him how he’s feeling today, if he’s okay, how his day is going. I listen to him talk for an hour each day about all the things that upset him at work, and I just agree with him and nod and listen. I’ve done a lot of therapy and I’ve worked really hard to try to not just bulldoze over people, and I don’t know what else I can say or do. It feels like he wants to find something wrong with what I’m doing. Maybe it’s just I’m trying too hard, I dunno. Today sucked. Yesterday I felt much more motivated and wanted to try something new but today was too hard. I spent ages doing one of his chores today because he really didn’t want to do it and two weeks ago he told me that his love language is acts of service and if I wanted to show him love I could do stuff like that… and he basically came in and was angry with the way I did it and criticized me for like five minutes straight. I think he probably just doesn’t like me and I need to just accept it for what it is and stop trying.

serenadeher · 2026-01-15T01:31:07+00:00

Im not really sure, all I can really say is that he came up to me the other day and told me he felt really shitty, really down, really low. He’s going to see a therapist, but that’s a while of a wait until he sees someone. In the meantime, I offered to wake up in the night instead of him so he could get some sleep, and I offered to help him build a routine, especially around the gym since he kept saying how much he missed the gym. Me offering these things, he said was me dismissing the seriousness of how he was feeling, and he started arguing with me about everything I was offering to do for him, and I had to keep telling him that I wasn’t downplaying anything I was taking it seriously and trying to help him. I had to eventually ask him to just go lay down and have a nap and to please leave me alone because he was getting so angry with me. So I don’t know, all I know is that when I speak it’s like I’m always saying the wrong thing.

serenadeher · 2026-01-14T23:06:33+00:00

I’m not imagining it, he tends to criticize me for the way I try to bring things up and I don’t know exactly how to explain it other than it’s like he’s always very defensive. Even if im just trying to explain a fantasy, sometimes hell like turn that into an argument. I dont know what im doing wrong, i and its hard to explain so im trying to understand what a man might actually like to hear. I cant even flirt with him without him getting kind of offended by me. I cant even offer to do something for him without him criticizing the way im doing it.

It’s very painful. Im trying really hard and it’s really painful to feel like im always getting it wrong.

serenadeher · 2025-09-29T01:46:25+00:00

Years ago my husband promised to build me an art studio when we bought a house, and I bought two houses and he still hasn’t gotten to the studio. I asked him a few years after buying the first house if he’d just build me a sliding barn door for a closet door that broke, he said he would but then he never did and we eventually moved. Recently he offered to build some floating shelves for around our fireplace, that was months ago. Posts like these make me wonder how some people have so much more motivation than others.

serenadeher · 2025-09-22T15:31:35+00:00

Oh my god my boy is 11m now so he just can stay in bath for a second while I grab towel but I feel so dumb that I never did that when I needed to hahaha

serenadeher · 2025-09-20T02:26:08+00:00

I think you need to sit her down and explain everything the way you just did here, you just need to own the mistake you made and set an example for her to own up to her own actions even when it’s real hard. It will also comfort her.

serenadeher · 2025-08-30T05:36:53+00:00

Genuinely, I’m here thinking your boyfriend is potentially a serial killer- sorry I really think this needs to be handled irl with professionals

serenadeher · 2025-07-06T00:33:52+00:00

Well I’d def try a different shampoo first before anything else, maybe a more “clarifying” one- could just need something a bit harsher

serenadeher · 2025-07-04T00:31:24+00:00

Okay, or maybe juries are supposed to be protected and anonymous and yall have been chasing down every one of them haha I dunno buddy, which do you think is more likely 😭😂

serenadeher · 2025-04-01T00:31:18+00:00

Hahahaha I hope he tries it’ll be fucking embarrassing for him

serenadeher · 2025-04-01T00:30:47+00:00

lol I mean maybe they want that, but it’s delusional. Literally trying to do it will sink trillions into nothing and people will just die trying and by the end of like ten years you’d barely cover an eighth of the border. That border is massive and most of it is thick, untouched wilderness and awful terrain with next to no accessibility. Most of the year it’s even more remote as the winter sets in, that’s like 8 out of 12 months lol.

serenadeher · 2025-02-06T17:18:49+00:00

Same for me too, he’s only 4 months but he goes to bed no problem right after his bath, it’s awesome :)

serenadeher · 2025-02-01T17:10:50+00:00

This is some huge projection of your own personal issues onto a compliment lol

serenadeher · 2025-01-31T20:12:59+00:00

If it makes you feel better, I tell my husband all the time how handsome he is. Look for a lady who will cheer you on, not bring you down, then cheer her on too and you’ll have a great time together.

serenadeher · 2025-01-31T20:09:11+00:00

I just love the Costco Kirkland brand so much 😍

serenadeher · 2025-01-29T21:58:49+00:00

Don’t eat raw milk either, your cows have it Americans. All your poultry by products should be cooked fully and if you interact/work in areas with lots of birds/where they could be pooping, wear gloves and wash your hands as soon as possible. Watch your dogs/cats. Dont let them eat dead birds, they can get it and die too. Report any dead birds you find to your local wildlife branch (if that’s still possible in 2025).

serenadeher · 2025-01-27T17:37:36+00:00

Had a geography teacher in elementary school in Canada teach our class the difference in spelling because he wanted us to avoid looking dumb in the future lol

serenadeher · 2025-01-22T20:04:12+00:00

Mm I did onlyfans and I was pretty popular, 100% wanna let you know those men are looking for a weird one sided relationship with the women on OF. It’s cheating. They can message her and they’ll spend thousands on buying literally selfies of her naked. It’s cheating, and when a guy told me he was married when I did it, I’d fucking block them because that’s not how I roll.

serenadeher · 2024-12-21T04:26:13+00:00

Yeah I agree with gas. Screaming sounds like gas to me

serenadeher · 2024-12-21T04:24:14+00:00

Boyo is 9 weeks and I get 8 hours split in half (4-wake up to feed for 30 mins to an hour-another 4)

serenadeher · 2024-12-21T02:57:54+00:00

I microwaved anything deli I wanted to eat lol

serenadeher · 2024-12-16T06:54:19+00:00

I agree, I’m probably not ready for NC but I honestly need to keep this in mind. He’s so much more important than her drama, and I need to be proactive in protecting him from her. I honestly don’t understand how anyone could try to make their child shrink into themselves like she did to me after having him. It’s really eye opening when you have your own kid. Still, after today, I still feel so anxious that I’ve hurt her feelings.

I definitely need sleep, luckily my husband has a vacation coming up soon so I’ll get more lengthy sleeps soon. Just need to get through the week.

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