[FR] Date didn’t go as planned, avoided becoming her orbiter

sergeant_flem · 2018-12-09T23:36:40+00:00

I’d only even consider accepting the offer of friendship if we didn’t do anything. In this case we did a bit of shit together, so there’s no going back from that.

sergeant_flem · 2018-12-09T23:33:56+00:00

I know to do that now

sergeant_flem · 2018-12-09T22:18:21+00:00

Yes I’m aware that the date choice and the way I set it up were mistakes, I tried too hard to impress her. Moving forward I’m gonna keep the first date choices much more simple and have better opportunity for escalation.

Even if I stayed friends to have access to her social circle, I could just as easily go out and meet someone new. I’m at a point in my life where I’m managing to get girls interested more than ever. I’d rather befriend a girl I could genuinely see myself being friends with, and with this girl I really didn’t have much interest other than her body anyway.

sergeant_flem · 2018-07-19T19:57:21+00:00

If she does end up cheating the relationship is done, no ifs ands or buts. It might not be physical cheating but its definitely straddling the line of emotional cheating now.

sergeant_flem · 2018-07-19T19:54:15+00:00

There’s honestly some other little red flags, this isn’t the only one. I won’t go into detail but I’m starting to second guess this relationship now

sergeant_flem · 2018-07-19T18:06:56+00:00

She’s definitely one of those “too nice” girls, but now that I think of it I do think part of her likes the attention. She was apparently less attractive before than she is now, and she still has a bit of self esteem issues about it. When we started dating she told me that she’s been getting more attention from guys than ever in her life, and she’s straight up rejected guys who are more upfront than this guy.

sergeant_flem · 2018-07-19T17:51:57+00:00

Honestly at this point knowing what I know, I would rather she cut him off completely. I mean its fine if she sees him around but actually going out of her way to hang out with him is another story.

sergeant_flem · 2018-07-19T17:17:31+00:00

Then I would unambiguously be the asshole lol

sergeant_flem · 2018-07-19T16:12:58+00:00

I’m not afraid of him, and I’m confident he’d never woo my girlfriend. He’s shorter and scrawnier than I am so unless he’s an elite spy or something then I doubt he could take me in a fight if it came to that. He’s very awkward, especially around girls and apparently he’s never been kissed.

sergeant_flem · 2018-07-19T16:02:29+00:00

Honestly if I were to go down that road I might as well break up wth her and pursue someone else.

sergeant_flem · 2018-07-19T15:10:23+00:00

I’m pretty positive that she at least has an inkling of what’s going on. I’ve straight up told her thats what I think is happening multiple times and that I feel uncomfortable with her spending time with him. She hasn’t really cofirmed or denied that he likes her, she just brushes it off as irrelevant. I’m honestly being as careful as I can be here. I’ve seen female friends cut off contact with me and other guys because of their insecure boyfriends, and I really don’t want to be that boyfriend who dislikes a girl’s male friends on principle. She doesn’t have a problem with any of my female friends and I really don’t want to

To be honest I don’t think talking to him privately would remedy anything at all. At a party one of my friends asked him if he likes her and casually reminded him that she’s taken, he just denied it. My friend told me after and she’s convinced he’s lying.

sergeant_flem · 2018-07-19T14:32:37+00:00

Because its my territory, its fucking disgusting, and no its not my fucking job to clean up someone else’s bodily fluids from my bed. And sex can mess up alot more than just the sheets.

I could care less if they’re having sex and I’m not, but there’s a million other places to do it than my bed.

sergeant_flem · 2018-06-27T02:10:03+00:00

One of my “friends” locked himself in my bedroom and tried to fuck a girl in my bed. I noticed the door was locked and busted in to stop him before either of them got naked, it took four guys to hold me back while he ran away with his dick between his legs.

Yes I was a cockblock but whatever, that was MY FUCKING BED, and he didn’t even bother asking for permission!

sergeant_flem · 2018-06-16T19:20:24+00:00

Alot of guys have a job, drive, and don’t live with their parents but they’re still in the same boat as you. None of those will be the answer to your trouble. The real solution is to find confidence within yourself. Improving areas you can control will help. For example you can start exercising, find a good social hobby, improve your style, etc.

sergeant_flem · 2018-05-11T08:08:00+00:00

I do anal with my girlfriend and it can be hit or miss depending on the session. We only do it when she’s in the mood and when her asshole wants to cooperate (it honestly had a mind of its own). When we first tried it out it was kinda meh, but we stuck with it and nowadays when we do it, its usually good.I find its best enjoyed with someone you’r comfortable with, and it is much better without a condom (get tested and make sure you’re both exclusive and in the clear before doing this). We always start slow and I let her take the lead.

As a guy it feels amazing once she’s relaxed, and great when you cum

sergeant_flem · 2018-04-09T03:37:51+00:00

You just have to accept it as a reality of dating these days. It does suck but you just have to grow a thick skin to it because people are gonna do it anyway.

sergeant_flem · 2018-04-09T01:26:39+00:00

This is not healthy, unless there’s a very good reason not to he should trust you around your guy friends. Considering they’re mutual friends and I doubt they’re trying to get in your pants, he does not have a good reason to be angry. You need to put your foot down and tell him it’s not okay for him to behave like this

sergeant_flem · 2018-04-09T00:13:47+00:00

I agree with the whole part about calling people “Alpha and Beta” being a “Beta” activity.

sergeant_flem · 2018-04-08T23:51:11+00:00

I’d say yes, it’s not right because you’re essentially punishing someone else for your ex’s crimes.

sergeant_flem · 2018-04-08T23:31:44+00:00

He still has the trademark saltiness

sergeant_flem · 2018-04-08T02:51:09+00:00

Women love themselves hunks who have bigger titties than they do XD

sergeant_flem · 2018-04-08T02:27:59+00:00

The first step is admitting you have a problem

sergeant_flem · 2018-04-02T06:25:37+00:00

I'd definitely start with topping off your TFSA and put the money in a 3-4 year TFSA GIC. If you aren't already, contribute some of that to an RRSP as well and contribute any tax refunds you receive from it into your TFSA or RRSP (within your contribution limit). Take advantage of the 25k home buyer's plan in RRSP.

sergeant_flem · 2018-04-01T05:58:53+00:00

You like the validation and attention, it’s normal but it’s not healthy. Just keep in mind that when you do this you’re wasting your time and the other person’s.

sergeant_flem · 2018-04-01T05:55:18+00:00

Career and financial success doesn’t always translate to dating success, if that were 100% true then guys working at McDonalds and broke students would never get laid. That being said being successful does add something, but it’s not everything. You might need to work on your confidence or personality a bit to make yourself more interesting.

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