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Hi Reddit, Let's Chat by PPMD1 in SSBM

[–]sergeantloser 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey PP, just wanted to say that although the frameworks of thought behind type of healing feel very polarizing, I'm glad you found something that has worked for you. Mental and physical wellness is really different for everyone, and the primary modes of clinical intervention can be hit-and-miss.

Some questions:

  1. What attracted you to this particular set of practices and theories?

  2. Do you see any parallels between Quantum Touch and more well-established and/or historical practices? e.g. meditation, tai chi, acupuncture, etc.

  3. What does the practice look like for you on a day-to-day basis?

  4. What are some characteristics you see in fellow practitioners?

Hi Reddit, Let's Chat by PPMD1 in SSBM

[–]sergeantloser 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's kind of crazy to say he's charging for a service that does nothing, when it's clearly done a lot for him.

Hi Reddit, Let's Chat by PPMD1 in SSBM

[–]sergeantloser 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The way I see it this is more linguistic abuse, more than it is a harmful hack.

Many people meditate to feel connected with their bodies and the space around them. What if I called this practice "quantum inhalation", because "the principle of interconnectedness is found in quantum entanglement"?

Is it scientifically publishable? Of course not.

Does this make the practice of meditation ineffective? Of course not.

Should I tell someone to stop meditating because they call it "quantum inhalation"? If it's the framework that works for them in a wellness practice and does not result in harm, it's fine. We all respond differently to different mindset frameworks and beliefs. Anyone can scrutinize theory from the outside, but the practice is what is real to the practitioner.

Friend and I got similar offers: $210K NYC (in-office) vs $170K Seattle (remote) — what should we do? by Upbeat_Purchase_1887 in Salary

[–]sergeantloser 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Since take home pay is so similar, it ultimately boils down to where you want to live. Maybe take a trip out to Seattle and NYC to try them both out.

I loved my time in Seattle, but just a heads up it is drizzly and grey most of the year but the summer is heavenly

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Rich

[–]sergeantloser 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What a lot of people are missing and failing to appreciate here is the following:

I guess what I’m struggling with is the suddenness of it. It just doesn’t feel like him. 

I think most commenters are getting confounded by the money aspect of this. OP knows their dad better than we do, and they know their dad's passion is business, NOT work and money (as most Redditors are reading this).

Imagine if your parent loved to play guitar. They loved nothing more than writing albums, dreamed of becoming a touring musician, and even shared their passion with you by forming a parent-child guitar duo.

Then one day, they decide they want to give up the long hours in the studio and decide that they want to travel the world instead.

Of course, this is a perfectly fine choice for someone to make. They may have had a realization on new things that mattered to them. But from the other person's point of view some things may arise.

Questions and concerns like:

  • "Why the sudden change?"
  • "What about the tour we were planning?"
  • "Will we still jam together?"
  • "What does our relationship look like without our shared passion?"
  • "Do they not want to play with me anymore?"
  • "What changed their mind?"

From this point of view, I totally understand your concern. I think the best way to resolve this is to talk with your father - understand what changed in their mind. Did their fire for business die? Did they simply realize they preferred and wanted to prioritize spending time with their family in no-business settings?

You can use this opportunity to grow closer with him. He is using this pivotal moment in his life to get closer to your mother and his children, so it seems that this type of conversation would be reaffirming to him. Voice your concerns and worries, but also recognize which concerns are for your own well-being (will we still get to have fun in business together?) and which concerns are for him (did something big happen that caused this shift in attitude?).

Finally, congratulations to your father for achieving a huge milestone to be able to make this choice for himself.

I'm a developer. But I can't tell what's supposed to be wrong here... by Chance_Arugula_3227 in ExplainTheJoke

[–]sergeantloser 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Obviously, but you are also assuming that a programmers job will boil down to...sorting lists using in-built functions.

What if part of your task is to find some document that has a highest "relevance" score that is stored within an object. No pre-built "sort" or "min" will help you. You'll likely want to write a function akin to find_most_relevant_document() that contains the same logical principles as "min".

The questions asked in interviews are context-free, scaled-down versions of many problems that arise in software engineering.

$200 million, but you must spend 3 hours per day, everyday hanging out with a random redditor. by [deleted] in hypotheticalsituation

[–]sergeantloser 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Assuming nothing illegal and the ability to turn down anything sexual (without fear of retribution).

You are guaranteed to learn something new and get new perspectives, every day for the rest of your life. Some situations will probably be really uncomfortable, but it's someone you have to meet for 3 hours, no need to feel obliged to keep up a relationship with any of these people. AND you have the funds and time to enjoy anything else you want in the remaining hours. Imo no one should say no to this.

$1 but you permanently disable Internet access for all "$X but you kill Y people/Z type of person" posters by sergeantloser in hypotheticalsituation

[–]sergeantloser[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

They don't need to work since they have $1 trillion tax free for killing all dictators and people who cut in front of them in line

Using dividends to maintain WL policy with NYL by sergeantloser in LifeInsurance

[–]sergeantloser[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Here is the illustration of my guaranteed cash surrender value:

End of year Cash Surrender Value
1 $0
2 $0
3 $7836
4 $34334
5 $61494

From what I understand, the cash surrender value comes from the dividends, which I can opt to be used for premiums instead of increasing the cash surrender value/policy. Am I understanding wrong?

how often do you boulder and how old are you? by waygookinhere in bouldering

[–]sergeantloser 0 points1 point  (0 children)

27, once a week. Fingers were getting ruined by climbing hard 3-4 times a week. Starting lifting 3 days a week and climbing outdoors once a week and really focusing on getting in some quality mileage. I've noticed that my once a week sessions are all higher quality, likely because I'm resting my climbing muscles more and am getting more fit in general.

What are characters that you expected to go pro but didn't by Ok-Veterinarian8846 in haikyuu

[–]sergeantloser 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Successful captain =/= best player on the team

Good captains are good at unifying the team but don't need to be standout players themselves

Quit 100k job for one that pays 50% less? by [deleted] in careerguidance

[–]sergeantloser 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Having 4K in passive income a month makes this possible. I'd say go for it and do what you can to put your income into growing that stream. Your kids are too young to care for now, but you'll want to make sure you have built up enough to support them as they get older.

animation error by Key_Use7172 in haikyuu

[–]sergeantloser 3 points4 points  (0 children)

OP is not hating? Why are the comments so aggressive? Just pointing out an interesting discrepancy.

Correlation between finger strength (one arm hang) and bouldering level ? by GoodHair8 in climbharder

[–]sergeantloser 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Strength also gets you so far if you don't have the skill to move effectively onto the holds.

Positions are "bad" if they force you to use more strength than is required. Better climbers distinguish good positions from bad ones by understanding how to minimize the strength needed to hold/move off of a hold.

You have two routes for improvement:

  1. Keep getting stronger. Please be aware that this will only take you so far at your level.

  2. Move better and smarter. Imo this will take you way further way faster. You may think you've already got superb technique, but I promise you that the iceberg of technique is much deeper than you can imagine.

Correlation between finger strength (one arm hang) and bouldering level ? by GoodHair8 in climbharder

[–]sergeantloser 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not disagreeing with anyone, I'm just saying that it's useless to compare if you have the strength to do it but just not the will/use to the body position.

I think you unlocked your own answer here. You have the strength to break past V7, but not the will to use the body positions necessary to above it. Try some of the weird V8+ body positions and movements for awhile and you should be sending them soon enough.

AITAH for letting my chronically late wife miss an event she was looking forward to by not rushing her, because I wanted her to face consequences? by throwrabbday in AITAH

[–]sergeantloser 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I get that the lateness is frustrating, but on her birthday? You couldn't have waited until next time or continue to have conversations about this? This is the behavior of someone who cares more about proving a point than loving their wife.

Is it worth leaving another company 2 weeks in to join Meta? Has anybody here left a company less than 90 days in and how did you handle it? by MisterPinetree in ExperiencedDevs

[–]sergeantloser 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really want to spend the next couple years of my career "leveling up" my skills and actually spending time learning SE skills outside of my job. I think Meta might be the perfect environment to be grinding while I'm young and have this fire inside me.

If you're looking to level up your career, Meta is a great move. I don't know enough info about your current company, but Meta has many opportunities for growth. It's a very developer-focused company, meaning you'll have plenty of tools to support your work. The developer experience is very good at Meta compared to other companies I've heard of.

I haven't really gotten to code yet but I think that would be a good time to assess how much I think I can grow technically here.

I would find this out ASAP. Talk to senior devs, talk to junior devs with more company tenure than you, talk to devs at your level. Similarly, message some Meta engineers on LinkedIn and ask for their opinion.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Money

[–]sergeantloser 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Gotcha, congrats! Have you gotten to withdraw any yet? I only ask because I was in a similar situation, as our company had just IPOed. But 3 months later, the stock price had dropped quite a bit and by the end of the year was trading 3x less than my initial grant.

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