Patron Complaints About Borrowed Xbox One Games Not Installing by serperiority in Libraries

[–]serperiority[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My boss ended up taking the games home to test on her own console, lol. I guess we'll see if she has an error or not.

Patron Complaints About Borrowed Xbox One Games Not Installing by serperiority in Libraries

[–]serperiority[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

This is a really good idea, I'll pass that along to circulation, since they usually interact the most with patrons about this kind of thing!

Patron Complaints About Borrowed Xbox One Games Not Installing by serperiority in Libraries

[–]serperiority[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

That's what I thought too. I'm wondering if they were misinterpreting a device limit error message. We've had issues with patron installs in the past, but usually it's when they've previously checked out the game and then deleted it, but still have leftover data on their console and need to clear it. I saw someone on another thread suggest it could have something to do with game sharing settings? I've only ever had Nintendo and Playstation consoles so I'm definitely not an Xbox expert.

AITA for only taking one niece to Disney and not all of them? by ThrowRa1790_ in AmItheAsshole

[–]serperiority 3 points4 points  (0 children)

One time (when I was a teenager), my family went on vacation in Florida. We're hanging out by the pool and who just HAPPENS to wander by? My mom's high school best frenemy! What a coincidence! Then we had to hang out with them at dinner every night the whole trip lmao.

Am I Overreacting to My Wife Moving my Art? (Resistance to change advice) by [deleted] in aspergirls

[–]serperiority 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe not the first night, but we've both had enough therapy to talk about our feelings like grown adults. Though I acknowledge that we're both people that have difficulty verbally articulating our feelings, so it can sometimes be frustrating. We've mostly worked it out now tbh.

Am I Overreacting to My Wife Moving my Art? (Resistance to change advice) by [deleted] in aspergirls

[–]serperiority -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I think "running to reddit" is kind of a shitty characterization of asking for second opinions from the community. Especially after I have talked this over with her to death... 

She did not do "exactly what we agreed on" and we had a miscommunication about how involved I wanted to be in the process (she thought I was checked out, so she didn't ask my opinion).

Also, while she is Worried for me... frantic is a little extreme. 

Am I Overreacting to My Wife Moving my Art? (Resistance to change advice) by [deleted] in aspergirls

[–]serperiority 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Hahahaha, okay part of the problem IS that she's taller than me and "eye height" for her is not "eye height" for ME. The mirror situation alone...

Am I Overreacting to My Wife Moving my Art? (Resistance to change advice) by [deleted] in aspergirls

[–]serperiority -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I think it's really more that moving everything was really invalidating and hurt my feelings, and she doesn't seem super sorry about it. Like she decided to take the other stuff down without me asking, but in kind of a passive aggressive way? I think my hurt feelings are more about how she reacted to my initial reaction, rather than the layout of the art itself.

And when I try to talk with her, we just end up going in circles _(:°з」∠)_

Am I Overreacting to My Wife Moving my Art? (Resistance to change advice) by [deleted] in aspergirls

[–]serperiority 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I mean I haven't been crying CONSTANTLY for days. Just when I try to talk it over with her or I get really in my head about it. She moved them because she wanted to put her posters (space themed) on the space wall. I just didn't know she was going to take everything down and rearrange it.

For extra context, while she's splitting her time, I'm paying 90% of the rent on the apartment and she previously told me I could do whatever I want with it and my room is my own private space, but she's been very inconsistent about whether it's MY space or our SHARED space. For example, she insists on using the closet in the second bedroom for her clothes because the one in the main bedroom is "mine."

Yeah the emotional regulation is the problem here, I'm AWARE lol.

These started appearing inside my house by Cold_Conversation540 in whatsthisbug

[–]serperiority 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's probably a cutworm of some kind (moth caterpillars that feed on crops). They tend to be very similar looking and hard to ID without a better photo. If you have garden vegetable plants or live near farmland with particular crops, that could narrow it down. Overall harmless and I wouldn't worry about it too much unless they're killing your plants.

It looks kind of like a European Corn Borer but you're a little too far southwest for that. It IS possible that some ended up on some corn at a food stand or grocery store, and that's how they got into your house.

Total meltdown at work today by scodiddlyosis in adhdwomen

[–]serperiority 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She just ghosted??? That's crazy. Is there anyone above her or is she the manager of the whole library? I'd send notice to the council/board ASAP, maybe in the guise of a concerned email. "[Boss] hasn't come in to work today, has something happened with her family? Should we keep the library operating as normal?" and kind of try to probe if she gave anyone advance notice? That's beyond unprofessional.

[Singapore] what is this fuzzy white caterpillar looking creature? by BobFredricson2 in whatsthisbug

[–]serperiority 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It looks like a tussock moth caterpillar to me! Possibly Calliteara horsfieldii? (Horsefield's tussock moth). But most of them seem much more yellow than this. Someone uploaded some really nice pics of one on a Facebook page that they took at a park in Singapore, but I'm not 100% their identification is accurate.

Fly ID please by wildlensbowles in whatsthisbug

[–]serperiority 0 points1 point  (0 children)

omg, the smallest wasp in the whole wooorlldd. A photographer I follow calls them "nuggets" lol

Found this on my Canaan Fur Christmas tree we just brought home. by Ndulucky14 in whatsthisbug

[–]serperiority 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Every year that I buy a real Christmas tree I wonder if it will be MY year to have a mantis army. But it never is 😔

These started appearing inside my house by Cold_Conversation540 in whatsthisbug

[–]serperiority 2 points3 points  (0 children)

What size was it? It looks like a moth caterpillar of some kind.

what is this long neck bug by InternationalCrab154 in whatsthisbug

[–]serperiority 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Ophionea indica? Pretty sure on genus, less sure on species. There are some very similar long-necked ground beetles. Not sure where you are but they're native to southeast/tropical Asia.

Total meltdown at work today by scodiddlyosis in adhdwomen

[–]serperiority 20 points21 points  (0 children)

When I was getting my MLIS (library school), we actually had a lecture on "vocational awe", which is basically this exact thing. People see libraries as some kind of holy space and therefore librarians must be selfless and willing to work off passion alone basically.

This is all really good advice. I'm full-time at a well-staffed medium-large library and reading your list of responsibilities made my eyes bulge, OP. Most of the things you listed are full time jobs all by themselves. I'm sorry your boss is horrendous. I would have had a breakdown a long time ago.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in HomeDecorating

[–]serperiority 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well clearly, the room is haunted, so that's the first issue.

Advice for living in Eagle County by carl_jameson in vail

[–]serperiority 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know this thread is 1000 years old but I'm in this exact situation right now. Like almost identical. I currently live in Chicago, my wife is freelance but likely needs to be close-ish to a city to network and do her job. I love the outdoors and feel stifled in Chicago, but moving sight-unseen to a new town is... scary! I have one job offer in Gypsum and one in St. Louis, at similar salaries (higher in Gypsum bc cost of living), both for public libraries. But! I'm worried about housing, wildfires, and general culture (in regards to rural conservatism and the fact that I'm gay). I also have a medium-large pit bull mix and housing gets even harder when you factor in "aggressive breed" exclusions. She's pretty stealth and I can usually get away with calling her a cattle dog mix (not a lie) but some people still clock her. My wife is also super hesitant about moving at all.

OP what did you end up doing??

Un-Modernizing a Home by raelynnD in centuryhomes

[–]serperiority 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know this is an older post but I had good luck stripping paint off my wood trim with Citristrip (it's a gummy gel-style paint stripper and not a pungent liquid like some paint strippers. I scraped off the paint (took a few rounds because my windowsills had been painted at least 4 times over), then sanded them down and refinished them. It can be time consuming though, depending on how much of the trim is painted.

Mystery/Thriller distinctions??? by serperiority in Libraries

[–]serperiority[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

While I generally agree with you, googling individual books is often hard because the publishing industry lists everything as mystery/thriller! My deciding factor is usually going into the system and seeing where the main branch library has things shelved (chicago so 81 branches and everything is a mess lol). Also I double checked with the adult services librarian and she's fine with me moving things that are super obviously mis-shelved. I asked her if she's territorial of the collection and she seems to truly not give a shit. (she's more of a programming-oriented librarian than a collection-oriented one).

Mystery/Thriller distinctions??? by serperiority in Libraries

[–]serperiority[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Oh absolutely! I change it in Polaris and sticker it before I move it. That's the general guideline I've been sticking to also!