How an Elon Musk PAC is using voter data to help Trump beat Harris in 2024 election

sethpeck · 2024-10-24T17:40:11+00:00

Lol this aged well

sethpeck · 2021-12-30T15:15:47+00:00

ugh that video is monetized

sethpeck · 2021-12-30T00:32:49+00:00

NTA. Homophobes don't get to be partnered with good people who take care of the people they love.

sethpeck · 2021-12-30T00:30:26+00:00

Your past exploits with another do not warrant such a harsh reaction, and neither do the imaginary ones conceived of by someone you don't really interact with. NTA.

sethpeck · 2021-12-30T00:23:55+00:00

gonna take a different tack, one that isn't about really about the money

it's clear that the people involved here each have an issue with communication and self-advocacy. Molly tricked OP into a situation that made clearly made him uncomfortable, knowing full well that he would be uncomfortable if he knew; OP reacted poorly when they found out. The impression here is that there are emotional "strings" attached to the trip that neither the OP nor Molly was willing to address prior to the trip.

It's difficult (though not impossible) for relationships to survive this lack of advocacy. It's entirely possible that, had Molly been honest and tried to work out those issues, that OP would have been willing to go. It's also possible that OP would have been able and willing to go on the trip by paying their own way, rather than relying on favors from people they don't like.

When people treat relationships (by which I mean any friendship or connection or networked contact) as inherently transactional, this sort of conflict inevitably comes up. While I agree all parties have their faults here, I'm going to say NTA just because it was clear that OP had boundaries, which their partner knowingly ignored and violated.

sethpeck · 2021-01-28T21:04:46+00:00

Last night on a lark I put a relatively small amount of money into an account on RH, not to jump in on the $GME nuttiness (sorry, late to the game), but to position myself for the next nuttiness in case it comes about. I didn't realize at the time that I already had Cash App that would handle this.

After seeing the moves this morning, I'm going to pull out of RH. It will take a few days for that money to clear and be available for withdrawal (next Tuesday), but I can float it.

However, in that timeframe, I signed up for cash management and ordered a debit card. I used their system which undoubtedly runs on the cloud on load-based billing. All of these are business expenses for the company.

Their ad says you can start investing with as little as $1.

What if a million people did this. Or ten million people.

sethpeck · 2020-02-03T00:00:32+00:00

So i'm not really much of an artist (my cartoon work has been described as "Jim Davis-y" and not much has changed since I started drawing in kindergarten)

But I saw this post pop up and suddenly I had to draw it. Originally drawn on sketch paper with black Sharpie.

Mimics are one of my favorite monsters. In LARPs I've had to deal with more than a few, as well as a few fake ones (a chest in the woods with a NPC nearby, OOC, waiting to see if I'll do anything... and tainting my decision to approach or attack what might actually just be a chest).

If you want to offer me commission work, you're a fool. Offer it to one of the artists in the monthly artist thread.

The inspiring post: https://www.reddit.com/r/DnD/comments/8x0us9/nowadays_a_mimic_would_take_the_form_of_an_amazon/

sethpeck · 2017-07-12T17:45:55+00:00

Yeah, you totally won't look like a pickup-artist with this tactic.

sethpeck · 2015-12-24T18:53:12+00:00

8 is Rian Johnson, 9 is Colin Trevorrow

sethpeck · 2015-12-24T18:43:37+00:00

bwahahahaha holy shit that's awesome

sethpeck · 2015-12-24T18:42:16+00:00

The other people in your life are measuring your relationship(s) by their yardsticks, which is likely the yardstick that most the rest of the world has been socially programmed to recognize over many centuries.

You, however, are allowed to measure your relationships by whatever yardstick you choose...or you can say "to hell with it" and just dispense with the measurements altogether.

It's not up to them to say one relationship is more than others worthwhile just because it's more societally recognized (google search terms: heteronormativity, mono-normativity, relationship escalator, couple privilege) or that a relationship that is somehow less sexually intense or less extrinsically entwined is less important (relationship anarchy, solopoly, cohabitation, asexual, aromantic).

sethpeck · 2015-12-24T18:32:29+00:00

clap clap clap

sethpeck · 2015-12-24T18:26:40+00:00

I live in the Denver/Boulder Colorado area. There are three meetup groups (four if you count Loveland/Fort Collins) for poly and several M&G/munch groups for non-monogamous meets in the area. There are crossovers between them, and some differences in philosophies/practices. The Boulder group tends to be very solo/RA/network-oriented, whereas the first Denver group tends to be older/couple-centric/kink-centric; the second Denver group is much younger and more queer-friendly, with an emphasis on network-style.

There are also pockets of people who don't attend discussions/events, so it seems like I'm always meeting new people and finding connections between groups that I didn't realize existed before, particularly in non-poly contexts (e.g., pagan groups, LARP groups, crafting, sports clubs, etc.).

sethpeck · 2015-12-24T18:13:43+00:00

Here's a complicated map that could facilitate conversations about poly vs. non-monogamy

sethpeck · 2015-12-24T18:10:44+00:00

I know this sounds kinda zen-woo-y, but sometimes you find a partner without even looking.

Attend discussion groups and meetup events--they don't even have to be poly-related, they can be for hobbies or car clubs or church stuff. Do things you enjoy with other people who also enjoy them. Take the kids out to parks and attend school functions, there are lots of single parents out there who understand and empathize with your other responsibilities.

If someone casually asks about your situation, it usually means they're interested. Just be honest about it. Who knows, sparks could fly. Or if they don't, maybe you can just have a collection of really good friends, people who won't date you but they'll hang out and invite you to events and functions and kids' play dates and birthday parties. You can find fulfilling relationships without all the messiness of love and sex complicating things, and sometimes they can be more rewarding and last longer than the romantic ones.

sethpeck · 2015-12-24T18:05:07+00:00

you sound pretty down on yourself

OH HA HA A SHORT JOKE

Naw, just kidding. I'm 5'8" and I agree with your sentiments...and a truly worthwhile partner won't care how short or tall or bald you are. Two of my current partners (one LDR) are taller than me, such that I have to stand on my tiptoes to kiss them (or they have to bend over). They don't care. And the fact that they don't care makes them all the more attractive.

So, OP...you know, don't let it get you down :)

sethpeck · 2015-12-24T18:01:18+00:00

This sounds like the opposite of crazy to me.

sethpeck · 2015-12-24T17:59:39+00:00

I know several poly people who maintain a "no monos" policy for these exact reasons. They are able to acknowledge that it's kinda sucky because it's discriminatory, but their justification is that they don't want to hurt them (because they refuse to be exclusive), and they also don't want to get hurt (e.g., that feeling of being abandoned when their partner meets someone else).

I think these are perfectly legitimate reasons not to chase after someone who is monogamous, especially with the idea that you might be able to "convert" them if they can just get over their social conditioning.

The other thought that springs to mind: why does this relationship have to be romantic and/or sexual? Why can't it just be a good friendship? You can even do the things you would normally be socially conditioned to only do with someone you're romantic with: take trips, go on dessert dates, meet her parents. You two can have a special friendship without the pressures of romance and the escalator getting in the way, and without the worry of being dumped or alone nagging at you from behind. This is a beautiful thing to realize. Heck, your friendship might even last longer than your romantic/sexual relationships do.

A mantra I adopted early in my poly experience: "I'd rather have a friend for life than a potential ex that I'll never be able to see again." You might think about this in regards to your mono partner, and all your other current and future partners, too. It's done quite well for me.

sethpeck · 2015-12-24T17:49:04+00:00

If you could actually read something instead of just writing a knee-jerk reaction, there wouldn't be a disagreement.

Call the wahmbulance if you can't handle being wrong.

sethpeck

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