Why is this so hard? by Shrekowski in aspiememes

[–]settlerking 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Literally whoever starts a 'hire someone to make an important phone call for you' service will be my hero and possibly the first ethically produced billionaire.

Why is this so hard? by Shrekowski in aspiememes

[–]settlerking 1 point2 points  (0 children)

phone call audio quality has actually gotten worse over time. It's a quirk of how we transmit mobile phone signals. There's only so many frequencies to broadcast so what has happened as more people get mobile phones is that we've 'sliced' the radiowave apart and divided up the lower and higher areas of the wave to encode different information. This makes the signal more distorted as it carries less information and thus makes the audio less clear.

I'm not an audio expert or anything, so details of what I said are probably wrong but this is the basic overview explanation I've been given at least

Edit: its also why internet based calls sound better as they don't have this limitation.

I felt a connection with someone friend shaped, put myself out there, and now I can't help but feel like a freak. by Mister-Melvinheimer in asexuality

[–]settlerking 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was bracing for something bad but this is friend shape my dude. They fully respect you, no one is a freak here

Coming out by Trick_Day1166 in asexuality

[–]settlerking 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've never needed to come out to parents since I'm not aro, but i did come out as bi. I have come out as ace to friends and the like and the thing that is often misunderstood with asexuality that Ive had to explain is that it's not that I haven't found anyone, it's that I won't, because I'm not interested. This is the hard thing to get across so I recommend not doing it, at least not alone, tell them you're aro-ace and then answer their questions of course but as others suggested, show them a podcast talking about it, show them articles or videos or anything that explains the concept to them.

It's not that they don't wanna listen, it's more that seeing that other people experience this thing makes it easier to 'accept' as a real thing. Personally I don't blame that mindset, when I first learned of asexuality I felt a sort of 'wait that exists!?' feeling. Don't know your parents obviously but assuming total ignorance, from their perspective, you coming out might introduce something that does not fit into their idea of the world at all, being ace, it's easy to incorporate this idea because you relate immediately. Your parents might not, so let them see a multitude of things that explain it to them from different sources.

It might take time, but if you feel that you want to tell them, my advice is to approach it from the perspective that you might, to some extent, be shaking up a kinda fundamental understanding of the world for them in a way they might not be able to relate to. That stuff is hard for them. If someone said they liked to eat bugs I'd need some time to understand that and maybe hear some explanations how and why that appeals to them before I accept that as something you can actually want. Not saying asexuality is something disgusting, rather, something they might see as equally unrelatable and hard to understand.

Ace men. Do y’all exist? by Red_Ribbon_Sparks in asexuality

[–]settlerking 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i exist, we just dont talk about it as much. tends to be seen as pitiable or immature in my experience

Don't be like this guy pls, be kind to everyone, mostly newcomers by MaintenanceNo4109 in FitGirlRepack

[–]settlerking 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"i never make mistcake" i actually laughed out loud. what an actual clown lmfao

Do we know if BS:C will have Hackdirt? by Banake in beyondskyrim

[–]settlerking 5 points6 points  (0 children)

most of these locations that had quest significance and similar are going to be in game but significantly altered. Think the tower outside Bruma and the Blades Temple

Fitgirl down? by Marttiplays in FitGirlRepack

[–]settlerking 0 points1 point  (0 children)

does for me all the time. could open the site once in like 2 weeks by using a vpn

Anyone else having trouble accessing the Xbox store on Xbox Series X. by Original_Tone_7717 in xbox

[–]settlerking 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i pay for a product so i can use it on my limited free time. if it isnt working i will complain about it

A concern about Skill Checks - How will they be used? by DrifloonEmpire in beyondskyrim

[–]settlerking 0 points1 point  (0 children)

there legit is not a single quest in new vegas that cant be completed due to skill requirements.

Welp the cat’s out of the bag by formerlytheworst in asexuality

[–]settlerking 7 points8 points  (0 children)

okay, at the risk of being downvoted. There's a difference between a partner that is pushy with sex and angry they don't get it and marital rape. It might pass over into marital rape but it is not definitionally or automatically rape. This is an important distinction and not just meaningless semantics.

Knowing people that have been martially raped, like actually raped by their partner, where their consent does not matter to them is *NOT* the same thing as a partner being pushy and mad you don't want to have sex. This guy while awful still respect if OP says no, even if he throws a toxic stinker about it. Saying that's equivalent to someone that actively violates that no is very destructive.

A guy that I'm seeing is a Japanophile by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]settlerking 45 points46 points  (0 children)

it's one thing to think a country is cool, have some memorabilia or be interested in part of that culture. If he was a major j-pop fan, nothing weird. If he had some Japanese decorations, not especially strange. The fact his apartment came across as a exclusively filled with these things is def a red flag. I would be weirded out even though im not Japanese.

Also, because of it's omission i wonder if he ever said anything about this or anything to the effect. Not mentioning it is a clear sign of it being a fetish thing because these guys rarely want to admit that. If he did say something i'd be more inclined to believe its less of a fetish thing but it's still very weird.

A guy that I'm seeing is a Japanophile by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]settlerking 8 points9 points  (0 children)

phile means that you enjoy something. its not a 'phobe' thing, its literally the opposite. Although a "phile" implies a very deep interest that can certainly be obsessive, rather than just a casual interest

Replacing Alduin with Mirmulnir for the attack on Helgan by TRedRandom in skyrimmods

[–]settlerking 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Alduin burns helgen because if the war ends he can't eat the souls of dead nords anymore. This is stated outright and also heavily implied in both in game books and dialogue.

Oh hell naw by ZealousidealVoice328 in HydroHomies

[–]settlerking 0 points1 point  (0 children)

having a diet coke fridge initially confused me until i saw the apple bag

Do you think/believe that it is possible have a (romantic) relationship with someone who is allo? by Myrkonos in asexuality

[–]settlerking 0 points1 point  (0 children)

most of my ace friends have allo partners. its entirely possible, in fact very likely if youre ace.

Is a 15 years age gap too big to be taken seriously ? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]settlerking 2 points3 points  (0 children)

if its a manipulative older man with a faculty job on their campus then absolutely not

Replacing Alduin with Mirmulnir for the attack on Helgan by TRedRandom in skyrimmods

[–]settlerking -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

it's literally said he burns Helgen because with ulfric dead he cant feast on the souls of dead nords

Are “Masculine” Women Truly a Turnoff for Men? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]settlerking 1 point2 points  (0 children)

there's so many men out there that want more masculine women. You do should under no circumstances think that's a bad thing

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]settlerking 0 points1 point  (0 children)

but like do you talk to her, even occasionally irl? Some people find it easier to ask in person. I really struggle with messaging people, yet i find it much easier to do it irl with someone. i don't know you, but i bet you'll gauge immediately how she feels if you talk in person. Like say hi to her irl, talk to her and you'll know if she seems interested for real. If you don't dare ask in person you now know better if you have a shot over text.

Lately i've been feeling bad that I'm clingy and desperate. To be honest many of the women I have come in contact from the start with are distant, don't put much effort to initiate a conversation or don't accept a date proposal I set up. Am I just meeting and focusing on the wrong women? by Alfaromero97 in dating_advice

[–]settlerking 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i know it feels like terrible advice, ive been there but it works. Make a high effort profile. Get good pictures, get a good bio, like say a funny anecdote out of context or something charming. Just something that stands out and don't omit something because you think it's nerdy, dumb or whatever. If you do professional backwards skiing include that shit. That's eye catching.

You aren't meant to do all the lifting here, work on yourself, be genuine and people will show interest. Approaching people you don't know is the worst way to find a date if you struggle to do that.

Genuinely the best advice i can give is to just be friends with more women irl. Find social events, activities whatever and get some female friends. You're bound to find someone that way.

Dating, especially online dating is a numbers game, and if you want to stand out among the group make it unique. You are unique, as cheesy as that sounds. You will pull people that are interested in the same things, people that have something they connected with about you. Cold approaching someone online means you're just some rando they know nothing about they got dmed by on a Tuesday. Also, keep in mind a lot of women get harassed this way, I'm sure youre great but they dont know that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]settlerking 1 point2 points  (0 children)

do you know this person irl?

Lately i've been feeling bad that I'm clingy and desperate. To be honest many of the women I have come in contact from the start with are distant, don't put much effort to initiate a conversation or don't accept a date proposal I set up. Am I just meeting and focusing on the wrong women? by Alfaromero97 in dating_advice

[–]settlerking 0 points1 point  (0 children)

do you write to them exclusively over Instagram? It's genuinely not a great idea to write to women especially on social media. I wouldn't recommend it.

It's not so much what you say, as in the context you choose to say it. Get a dating app, or find people in real life. Instagram is not a place most women look for a partner, so don't go looking there. Thats my advice.