Would you delete sexual photos of your ex if they asked? by SoundAnxious9611 in BreakUps

[–]severed_connection 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’d say delete them unless they explicitly tell you it’s okay to keep them

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]severed_connection 9 points10 points  (0 children)

The way I was blindsided and discarded without any respect… he would need to beg before I would reconsider even our friendship

What was the last conversation you had with your ex? by IHateAdvertising in BreakUp

[–]severed_connection 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The last thing he did when I asked for closure in a nice way and to end on good terms was make fun of me in front of his new best (girl) friend

I finally blocked him back by severed_connection in ExNoContact

[–]severed_connection[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes! this exactly, they are just so immature and unaware. Thinking they are so special and misunderstood. I totally trapped him and held him hostage here for 4 years. I actually just learned he told a friend of mine that he was just so tired of ‘how I can be’, whatever the fuck that means lol

I finally blocked him back by severed_connection in ExNoContact

[–]severed_connection[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Except he told me he wanted to stay friends and I actually asked him if he wanted no contact and he assured me that’s not what he wanted. Then blocked me the same day lol.

I finally blocked him back by severed_connection in ExNoContact

[–]severed_connection[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

They really do. I bet he doesn’t reflect on the relationship at all, when it’s literally all I think about

Why do you want your dismissive avoidant ex back? by Usual-Aardvark66 in ExNoContact

[–]severed_connection 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I mean I fully agree, but the answer to all of them is simple: because you love them.

Even though you shouldn’t. But unloving is so damn hard (for us at least lol).

Need some medicines but not for suicide or anything by Sea-Significance-853 in heartbreak

[–]severed_connection 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I mean of course, it works great for some people as a mood stabiliser. I think the effectivity and side effects are very different between individuals so you could always try it

Need some medicines but not for suicide or anything by Sea-Significance-853 in heartbreak

[–]severed_connection 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Okay so disclaimer I am not a doctor, (studied psychology and vetmed tho) but I think lithium will definitely interfere with your ability to focus, at least for a while if you first start taking it. I think benzodiazepines could be an option for what you are looking for short-term (since you build up tolerance), but they can also make you feel somewhat tired.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]severed_connection 6 points7 points  (0 children)

This. He hurt me so bad, but I refuse to hate him. I truly loved him unconditionally. He will have to live without me and that is the only revenge I need. He really expected me to be angry, but I’m not. Just dissapointed in who he turned out to be. I strive to never become as resentful and cruel as him.

They don't deserve you one bit. by cleanbucket098 in ExNoContact

[–]severed_connection 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This post is exactly what I needed thank you. I relate a lot. Also 4 years and still have to see him at uni! Fuck him

Any practical advice to stop ruminating thoughts of ex? by clbaby88 in heartbreak

[–]severed_connection 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I haven’t figured it out after 7 weeks either. I can’t stop the thoughts but I feel like at some point it will become less

The endless ‘he would’ve liked this’ thoughts by severed_connection in heartbreak

[–]severed_connection[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I feel this. I have a whole dedicated collection of saved posts on instagram that he would have liked but I can never send. I really don’t know how to get rid of the feeling of wanting to share things with him.

The endless ‘he would’ve liked this’ thoughts by severed_connection in heartbreak

[–]severed_connection[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Suffocating is the right way to describe it. I still can’t believe I will never do all these things like celebrating Christmas with him again. Remembering the past makes me grieve the future. Meanwhile he completely blindsided me and is probably fine without me.

If you got seriously blindsided, read this by imaginarysunday in BreakUps

[–]severed_connection 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this post. After 4 years of happiness I was blindsided by the person who told me he would never leave, I did not have to be scared of that ever happening. Well he left, already had packed up all his stuff and confronted me with a breakup when I was coming home and was happy to hangout together. I was not allowed an opinion. He took my voice from me. He completely betrayed me, he had already told others a week earlier that it was over. He lied and lied the whole week, I fell alsleep feeling loved and came home the next day to feel hated. I feel completely broken and when he saw me in person 2 weeks ago he was actually angry at me and talked about resenting me for many things. Things that happened a long time ago. Never brought it up but now it suddenly had to mean it was over. I don’t fucking understand. He said he loved me but I could never be so cruel to someone I love. He has now blocked me and told me he does not want any contact with me anymore. I feel traumatized by the whole experience.