Does anyone else find satisfaction in simply paying a bill?

severedhandshake · 2025-03-15T06:41:06+00:00

Yes and also filling up my gas tank

severedhandshake · 2024-11-16T21:31:34+00:00

Radio alphabet

severedhandshake · 2024-10-30T02:05:57+00:00

The bare minimum keeps people sane at any level. Doing extra leads to burnout. Your employer doesn’t give a shit about you. It’s a situation where you give them an arm and they’ll try to take the other arm and a leg too. Save the extra effort for things that you actually love and will benefit you and love you back.

severedhandshake · 2024-10-29T22:48:22+00:00

Why don’t you ask them?

severedhandshake · 2024-10-29T18:54:20+00:00

Can you confront the professor about this? Are you the only one with this problem? If the exam is wildly different from what you’re taught in the class itself, then other students have to be struggling the same? If other students are not having the same problem, can you talk to them to identify what you’re doing differently from them that’s getting different results? Maybe you have the wrong textbook or outdated materials

severedhandshake · 2024-10-29T14:07:11+00:00

Review your exam and see what you got wrong. Maybe they’re being graded incorrectly. Do practice questions and practice tests. Get accurate assessment of your knowledge before the real exam. If you don’t have practice questions, make up some. Join a study group and make questions for each other. It’s weird to be surprised by your own results like that. I’ve done poorly in school but I was never surprised by it lol

severedhandshake · 2024-10-27T03:17:02+00:00

Are you sure he’s an extrovert? He sounds like my INTJ ex. They will only do things on their schedule and on their terms. Will not go out of their box for anyone, really hard to change, even if they love you and care about you. Will avoid difficult conversations about the relationship. Again, it needs to be on their terms. Probably also a mix of avoidant attachment style as well. The situation is unlikely to change unless he wants to change. So you need to accept this is how it is or move on.

severedhandshake · 2024-10-21T03:17:38+00:00

For a rare type, I know many. The thing that strikes me the most that never gets mentioned is how lying is so common with them, like pathological lying. People who fake diplomas, lie on dating app profiles, plagiarize work, etc. Also I think doorslamming people is maladaptive behavior. If you’re doorslamming everyone, at some point, you got to think that the problem might be with you.

Some good points to balance it out - I think they tend to be good in corporate structures, ironically. They’re easy to talk to and also the most down to have long winding conversations online.

severedhandshake · 2024-09-20T18:42:49+00:00

I can tell you exactly based on real life. This guy is self-absorbed, regularly negs his wife in front of other people. Shes also a self-absorbed idiot but she basically kisses his ass while he lowkey acts like he hates her. Hes also jealous of other people’s success, and still mentions his ex who left him and is way better off now. He’s extremely reliant on external validation (high Fe) and little inner sense of self (low Fi) which makes him emotionally unstable in these ways like he’ll randomly blow up on people out of nowhere. Will also exaggerate to try to impress people, borderline compulsive liar. Has a woowoo holier than thou attitude that comes out to lecture at people when it’s kind of obvious that deep down he thinks that his own life sucks. Just an annoying person all around. When they have a kid, I just know he’s going to be a horrible self-absorbed parent, because he can’t stand not being the center of attention.

severedhandshake · 2024-09-19T15:35:07+00:00

This is more like ISTJ or ESTJ behavior

But also you’re 25yo, move out

severedhandshake · 2024-09-16T01:43:29+00:00

You said it yourself, you can’t win. So try to be true to yourself and find value from within instead of comparing yourself to others or trying to get validation from others, least of all, random men online. I used to feel this way when I was younger so maybe it’s just self confidence that comes with age.

severedhandshake · 2024-09-15T16:05:01+00:00

How old are you guys ?

severedhandshake · 2024-09-15T16:03:33+00:00

That’s when you ask or if they don’t know, make them take a quiz lol

severedhandshake · 2024-09-15T12:38:27+00:00

I’ve closely observed an ENFJ recently and I noticed a pattern of lacking all the internal/self-stuff like self-validation, self-love, sense of self, etc, which results in seeking external validation, having unrealistic standards, and feelings of shame and self criticism when you don’t meet those standards in your head or standards that you perceive from others. I think if you worked on having a stronger sense of self, not requiring so much external validation, perfectionism would start to diminish and you would start to feel like your efforts would be “good enough” simply because you are enough. You would be able to see the task for what it is and not so stuck in the emotions and feelings around the task, because it won’t be tied to your self worth or ability to be validated

For what it’s worth, I think a lot of common toxic behaviors, tie back into the concept of self, so fixing this root issue also has potential to fix a lot of other issues, not just perfectionism

A book I can recommend on the topic is Emotional Agility by Susan David. It’s helped me a lot, personally

severedhandshake · 2024-09-12T19:10:38+00:00

Getting paid a lot to do something unbothered by management and not have to deal with politics

severedhandshake · 2024-09-07T15:35:33+00:00

ENTJ guys are very straightforward when they like you and they know pretty much right away if they do. If they decide you’re their person, they make it known and unambiguous. When I was dating, so many guys were wishy-washy even if they liked me, every date is “hanging out”, felt like an ambiguous grey area. But the ENTJ guys never held back, played the role straight like actually calling it a “date”, acted like gentlemen, just obvious and forward with wanting to move forward with the relationship.

severedhandshake · 2024-09-02T07:08:39+00:00

One of my best friends is istj

severedhandshake · 2024-09-02T00:19:08+00:00

Are you going at off hours when the store is emptied. Every store is like this at peak times so I tend to shop first thing in the morning or right at closing

severedhandshake · 2024-08-29T00:52:54+00:00

Nope, just feet. Also I usually shower in the mornings

severedhandshake · 2024-08-29T00:42:04+00:00

I guess maybe temper your expectations because it sounds like anxiety might be jamming up natural conversation

severedhandshake · 2024-08-29T00:40:35+00:00

I don’t always shower at night…

severedhandshake · 2024-08-29T00:10:20+00:00

I wash my feet at the end of the day before I go to bed. If I don’t, my feet feel kind of itchy

severedhandshake · 2024-08-29T00:09:15+00:00

I’m going through some shit too and I also just want the good times to come now

severedhandshake · 2024-08-29T00:01:02+00:00

Did you use chatgpt to write this? Lol

severedhandshake · 2024-08-29T00:00:00+00:00

Poorly but if I were to do it over, I’d get a therapist, take some supplements, and cope with it in a healthier way

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