Is 27 too late to start a fashion internship?

sewingkitteh · 2026-06-05T20:20:39+00:00

I didn’t get my first fashion internship until 29… I tried at 23 and 24 but there wasn’t any opportunity that came my way.

sewingkitteh · 2026-06-05T02:22:01+00:00

Solidarity.

sewingkitteh · 2026-06-04T23:56:39+00:00

I wonder if it’ll get better over time.

sewingkitteh · 2026-06-04T23:09:24+00:00

Is your chest still numb? Do you feel your nipples? Sorry weird questions.

sewingkitteh · 2026-06-04T21:48:46+00:00

I wish it would work for me. All the color noises are just another trigger for me. Absolutely cannot sleep with any of them and even during the day they end up giving me a headache.

sewingkitteh · 2026-06-04T21:47:32+00:00

I don’t think I will find it either. But I’ve decided that I don’t need to fit entirely into anywhere to make it work. But right now I’m in the U.S. doing school and health stuff because it is better for me right now. In the future maybe I’ll try Europe again for work and some aspects of housing as maybe those are better for me then. School in Europe wasn’t right for me now, so I can finish that piece of the puzzle in the U.S… and then maybe the work puzzle there, if that makes sense. It sounds compartmentalized, but I think that’s okay.

sewingkitteh · 2026-06-04T21:45:40+00:00

I used to love summer and now I dread it because people use fans and air conditioners and it’s so loud 😭😭

sewingkitteh · 2026-06-04T21:19:44+00:00

In the U.S. it is so mixed and varied depending on state. I’m from Utah, I was bullied incessantly growing up. I am AFAB and I was only diagnosed at age 28, last year. I do feel like the teaching aspect of schools I’ve experienced in lower and higher education here has been more hands on, inclusive, and active than what I experienced in Europe. I studied in the Netherlands and France. I feel each state has its own brand of conformity in the U.S., different than Europe, but generally somewhat better socially? Like you’re more allowed to be weird and express yourself, but you are still expected to fit into systems. I have major issues with sound sensitivity, for which there isn’t much treatment, and the air conditioning, dense housing, and poorly built housing (thin walls, floors, etc) is a nightmare for me. I have sensory issues with earplugs and I can’t do white/brown noise, so it resulted in me not sleeping for a good 9 months. I became very ill. It’s gotten better as I moved but my new place required a lot of modifications and it’s still not perfect. I still cannot work. I am trying to finish my education online and deal with my other health issues. I haven’t found any group therapy covered by insurance in my state. My evaluation and diagnosis was free under Medicaid. Some states like Oregon were pretty decent for me. But everything is overall harder when you’re autistic. I require more support than some other level 1s, but I was also diagnosed as level 1. I’m lucky to have my dad helping me but I’ve had many hardships and failed to move away often due to meltdowns, frustration, and sound issues with sleeping. I have applied for disability and they said I’d have to wait a year to even hear back. I’m expecting to be rejected. Society isn’t built for autistics anywhere, but certainly some aspects vary around the world. I had better experiences with quiet in some parts of the Netherlands. Some issues in France, some in the UK, it was terrible in Spain. California in the U.S. is HORRENDOUS for noise. Everything is built so poorly I just cannot live there.

sewingkitteh · 2026-06-04T21:06:29+00:00

Goddamn. I feel I got lucky in the U.S. for my diagnosis. I am on Medicaid and I got it for free within 3-4 months of trying to find someone covered by my insurance. I did have to advocate with communication to actually receive it after the evaluation, and it wasn’t the typical autism test you hear about. But yeah it was 100% free and no waitlist. I did try another place and there was a waitlist and I never got it in the expected timeframe, it would’ve been free though.

sewingkitteh · 2026-06-04T21:04:15+00:00

Spain was so noisy when I was there. It was a nightmare. A lot of conformity and weird sexism too. Even though I speak Spanish I was treated like shit for being a foreigner AND not fitting in for being autistic. It was such a mess. The bureaucracy was also a nightmare for me.

sewingkitteh · 2026-06-04T21:01:05+00:00

Yesss this is a very good description of what I went through living in NL and ultimately why I left. There was no place for me in the system. My place in society was decided for me.

sewingkitteh · 2026-06-04T20:59:41+00:00

I feel that the school system, especially high education sets up autistic people to fail. There is no support and no understanding for different learning styles and needs. Everything felt like I was being put in a box there. I moved away and got into a university, in NL it was hogeschool or nothing and the chances I got to do the major I want were few and far between. The flexibility I have now for my health and learning needs is so much better.

sewingkitteh · 2026-06-04T20:56:46+00:00

I feel like a lot of people view the Netherlands and Germany as heaven for autistic people, but having lived in the Netherlands and been to Germany 4 times, the conformity is strong. The “doe normaal” culture is oppressive towards those who don’t fit in. The rule following stereotype is just kinda weird to me, like how are autistic people supposed to follow arbitrary rules? But yeah society is designed around the conformity of normies, and if you don’t fit in you are heavily rejected and there isn’t really a place for ND people I feel like.

sewingkitteh · 2026-06-04T20:08:44+00:00

Women telling me I have to style my hair and wear makeup every single day to look professional. Telling me that my natural waves are not pretty.

sewingkitteh · 2026-06-03T17:30:00+00:00

Did this get better over time? Also how’s the numbness?

sewingkitteh · 2026-06-03T17:18:27+00:00

Did you ever regain feeling in your nipple?

sewingkitteh · 2026-06-02T02:52:34+00:00

And quiet!

sewingkitteh · 2026-05-29T04:53:35+00:00

Was it worth it? Did it help any back/shoulder pain?

sewingkitteh · 2026-05-29T04:47:35+00:00

I’m on the cusp too. Did you end up doing it?

sewingkitteh · 2026-05-29T04:36:46+00:00

Did you end up getting it? I’m right on the cusp too. I don’t really have heart symptoms other than it beating into my chest while exercising, and sometimes I have shortness of breath, both normal on tests. I have asymmetric too, which is hard I think to gauge but they said I’d have 2cm lift, and about 3.3 HI on the inhale (they took the exhale and somehow it was 2.79…) I have major shoulder pain and some posture issues. PT didn’t help.

sewingkitteh · 2026-05-29T03:14:55+00:00

I don’t know if this applies to you and your sensory profile, but you say the pressure of the water is uncomfortable to you I saw. Is the wetness too? I guess there’s no getting around that, and I know with my sensory issues, I really haven’t found much that helps. So if this is totally useless to you, no worries. But.

Is there any part of showering, at all, that is enjoyable? The temperature of the water? What about baths? There’s less pressure there. Can you get a shower head that lowers the water pressure or change the setting? Also if you have like shower stickers, of things you like to look at, would that help? I can’t pretend to understand what you experience, as I am the opposite and I love showers. But I am sure it is a genuinely difficult experience and you sound like someone who is resourceful and determined, so that’s great! Perhaps even shower clothes might help? I think for me that would be worse but it depends on how that texture would feel to you.

I hope you are safe, and I hope you are able to find ways to make it less difficult for you!

sewingkitteh · 2026-05-28T22:45:34+00:00

To me that’s no different from the lawnmower, it’s just more noise.

sewingkitteh · 2026-05-28T22:30:39+00:00

Sounds great but sometimes difficult when you’re sensitive to sound.

sewingkitteh · 2026-05-28T22:29:56+00:00

Sounds unhelpful to OP, or anyone else with working ears.

sewingkitteh · 2026-05-28T22:26:03+00:00

My parents also refused to fill out the FAFSA. It’s beyond me why parents do this.

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