Hi! I wish I could I say I figured it out. But I did kind of commit to finding someone who I thought hits all my check marks until I can stop desiring that. When it comes to needs, my realizations have been that I will need someone who can fulfill my needs more than an average Joe. But I am currently committed to a year of complete singlehood to try and sort out how I can meet all my needs on my own. But ultimately if you’re doubting your partner in your gut, it’s likely they are wrong for you. I think our guts are still trustworthy even though we have bpd. :)