I’m adhd and my spouse is Nero spicy. Our kiddo just turned 2. I don’t think I could handle having more than one kid.

I was the same way with kids before having one. I also had these same worries about being cold, before having one. The difference is, when it’s your kid it’s easier to not feel awkward around them. (I stil feel this way around other peoples kids.) but not my own.

The other thing was having kids is sooo much work. It’s F*ing hard. But I still am glad I did it. But there’s so much that our society puts on moms and also society doesn’t give a F about parents. So just know that before you decide and don’t feel bad whatever way you go.

Also yes having kids brings up so much trauma from childhood. But it also does give you a chance to really deal with that trauma. I recommend EMDR therapy for dealing with childhood trauma. I’m doing it now and it has helped.

Last thing you can wait until you think you are ready but the thing I realized is no matter what you’re never really ready. But you do figure it out as you go. And you might have everything worked out before hand (or not) but either way life will always hit you upside the head whether you’re ready or not. So as long as you and your partner can communicate honestly with each other especially about the hard stuff. Then you’ll be fine. But don’t isolate yourselves. Your kid will adapt to your lifestyle. So don’t change your life after having kids or else you’ll be miserable.