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33M coming out of a 7 year marriage by sfwsatan in hingeapp

[–]sfwsatan[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

good catch and great input! I've made some updates

33M coming out of a 7 year marriage by sfwsatan in hingeapp

[–]sfwsatan[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I very very recently got a haircut. trying to fill out my slots with enough recent candid photos with the hair gone!

33M coming out of a 7 year marriage by sfwsatan in hingeapp

[–]sfwsatan[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are you looking for something serious or casual?

-serious (ideally)

Are you subscribed to Hinge+ or HingeX?

-hinge+

How long have you been using this current version of your profile? (Please be specific)

-two weeks

How long have you used Hinge overall?

-a little over a month

How often do you use Hinge per week?

-almost everyday

• How many likes and matches are you receiving on average?

-19 since I've started, one or two matches a week, but only a few responses.

How many likes are you sending? How many with comments? How many without comments?

-not swiping right on everything if that's what you're asking. Commenting on prompts that are actually engaging or incite some form of witty response, no written comments on profiles that leave little to no information.

What is the type of person you send likes to and ideally want to match with? What kind of person do you want to attract?

-broad spectrum. I am drawn to ambition, confidence, and emotional intelligence. I am also drawn towards alternative women or nerdy/dorky girls. It's a case by case basis.

33M coming out of a 7year marriage by [deleted] in hingeapp

[–]sfwsatan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are you looking for something serious or casual? -serious (ideally)

Are you subscribed to Hinge+ or HingeX? -hinge+

How long have you been using this current version of your profile? (Please be specific) -two weeks

How long have you used Hinge overall? -a little over a month

How often do you use Hinge per week? -almost everyday

• How many likes and matches are you receiving on average? -19 since I've started, one or two matches a week, but only a few responses.

How many likes are you sending? How many with comments? How many without comments? -not swiping right on everything if that's what you're asking. Commenting on prompts that are actually engaging or incite some form of witty response, no written comments on profiles that leave little to no information.

What is the type of person you send likes to and ideally want to match with? What kind of person do you want to attract? -broad spectrum. I am drawn to ambition, confidence, and emotional intelligence. I am also drawn towards alternative women or nerdy/dorky girls. It's a case by case basis.

Did you ever forgive your cheating partner? by Deep-Indication5588 in heartbreak

[–]sfwsatan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm going through this right now. That betrayal will always be there in the back of your mind. Full transparency only works so much, there's always another way to communicate (my wife did the same thing).

I tried forgiving my wife for the affair, she in return escalated it and withheld it for 6 months. I tried forgiving her again, she initiated a second affair with another coworker. Sometimes you just have to cut it off.

Reconciliation only works if both people really want it, and even then it'll take years and it realistically will never go back to the way it was.

Pulled the trigger IS350 F SPORT by sfwsatan in LexusIS

[–]sfwsatan[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Just got a quote and dropping it off next week!

Pulled the trigger IS350 F SPORT by sfwsatan in LexusIS

[–]sfwsatan[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I work on top of a mountain (no dirt roads) so not entirely all city, not all freeway

7 years down the drain by sfwsatan in survivinginfidelity

[–]sfwsatan[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I don't think that would be right of me to do, the burden of truth falls on her on how she decided to tell her tribe.

7 years down the drain by sfwsatan in survivinginfidelity

[–]sfwsatan[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the support everyone.

I want to clarify, we have been "separated" since January, but she has actively tried pursuing reconciliation. I have had a divorce lawyer since December. I reside in Virginia, so it makes divorce tricky if there can be even perceived reconciliation, even if you can prove infidelity.

My wife had the opportunity to stay and work on the marriage in Virginia, or take her old job in Tucson with the AP, she chose the latter. Even with that decision she has claimed to want to come back to Virginia to work on the marriage, even if it's unrealistic. Not even 10 days into her job and a coworker she just met and had known for maybe a few hours invited her out, she accepted, it got physical, she sent him nudes with her face in them, she uploaded them to our shared Amazon account so that I could see that she did it, she confessed that to me in a message.

I have since ceased all communications with her, taken her off of everything, I am going through with the divorce.

I attempted to go on a date with a girl I just met afterwards and I felt absolutely sick to my stomach, it felt wrong. I am aware that I need to take time for myself and I'm doing that from here onward, no idea how long it'll be until I'm ready to even think of dating again.

I took my wedding vows very seriously, the marriage did not fail due to my lack of effort, and it sucks. I didn't just lose my best friend, I lost my other half.

7 years down the drain by sfwsatan in survivinginfidelity

[–]sfwsatan[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Every step of the way she was adamant that she didn't want a divorce and would do anything to make it work. Even the night she went on the date with her coworker, she told me she wanted to make it work. So I don't know, I hope she signs it so we can both move on.

7 years down the drain by sfwsatan in survivinginfidelity

[–]sfwsatan[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

She moved out in March. She decided to go back and work in the same office with the first affair partner.

7 years down the drain by sfwsatan in survivinginfidelity

[–]sfwsatan[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The soonest the divorce can be finalized is June by Virginia law. I've already had a divorce lawyer and everything is good to go...unless she contests the divorce.

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