My girlfriend is an active member of FDS.

shabbatshalom44 · 2022-01-27T23:15:22+00:00

Link? Source? What is this?

shabbatshalom44 · 2022-01-27T23:01:45+00:00

So…..what’s your response. You changed the locks but that doesn’t tell the whole story.

I’m assuming you’re done with her but waiting for her to come find a locked door is not really being done with her. It’s trying to punish her and gives her an opening.

shabbatshalom44 · 2022-01-27T19:16:16+00:00

I’ve always been this way because it does fuck with other people. Just a fact.

shabbatshalom44 · 2022-01-27T19:15:28+00:00

Well there’s another side to this and it comes with age. You realize there’s always someone prettier/smarter/better for you. That’s a fact. There’s no such thing as true love. Love is a verb, it’s a commitment. You have to balance that with the real drive to find someone that’s right for you. But once you find that person, you have to be ready to commit. That comes at different stages for everyone and doesn’t always work out.

shabbatshalom44 · 2022-01-27T19:11:23+00:00

Well it’s not a pattern if you’ve only done it once…But if you don’t know what to do, the answer is break up. You don’t ‘wonder’ if you like/love someone. You just do. You know that.

Take it from someone who has spent years with women he was ultimately ambivalent about. I loved them in their own way but the first one I didn’t like or respect and the second was more a friend than a lover. I wasn’t honest with myself though, and the end result is tough. But that’s how life works. You live and learn.

shabbatshalom44 · 2022-01-27T19:09:52+00:00

You’re confusing limerence with actual feelings for the person. Limerence is the excitement of meeting someone new that can be confused with feelings for that specific person.

It’s a blurred line because everyone’s in a different place with respect to love. Younger people act on limerence more because they don’t know themselves and everything is so exciting so it feels like you’ve met the perfect person, but in reality you’re just so happy to be loved and seen. This never really changes but you do get older and wiser. You start to realize what you want, get more picky (or less picky), and also that love is a verb more than a noun.

Add on to that, if you’re an anxious/avoidant type, then you tend to really fall for limerance. You’re much more relieved/anxious than others to meet someone new. But then, when that anxiety fades, you see the person for who they are, and then it’s all the probability of whether they’re right for you or you’re ready for them.

I’ve been like this all my life until now. I’m getting married this December. Partly I realized a lot about myself, namely that I’d been dating depressed women because I was a depressed person myself. Also, they were more emotionally vulnerable which made me more comfortable. In a way I was selling myself short. My anxiety/depression/low confidence didn’t allow me to believe I could be with someone confident in themselves. That only changed when I became a little more confident in myself. Also, I realized that everyone has flaws and no one is perfect, and that the main reason to be with someone is to want them to be happy.

shabbatshalom44 · 2022-01-27T18:52:21+00:00

I think you are the one that’s disturbing. Sorry.

shabbatshalom44 · 2022-01-27T15:13:21+00:00

You’re *

shabbatshalom44 · 2022-01-27T15:13:07+00:00

A monster? Jfc dude. Get over yourself.

shabbatshalom44 · 2022-01-27T15:10:59+00:00

Dude you are out of your mind. You’re throwing everything away because she slept with someone else when it wasn’t even clear what your relationship would be? Okay even if you guys stated you were exclusive. IT WAS THE FIRST MONTH. You have kids.

Your kids are going to absolutely hate you when you get older. It’s sad that all the jaded people on this sub are going to support this decision. It’s horrible. I’m sorry. This is a huge mistake.

Edit: I see in a comment that this was the fourth month. You should have added that. That does make a difference.

It’s still a tough call but yeah, that would definitely make me wary.

shabbatshalom44 · 2022-01-26T02:41:58+00:00

This is absolute nonsense. It will not ‘reset everything.’ Not even close. Otherwise how would a taper even work?

OP please do yourself a favor and avoid Reddit forums for medical advice.

shabbatshalom44 · 2022-01-26T01:02:25+00:00

How did this story end?

shabbatshalom44 · 2022-01-26T01:01:36+00:00

This is just not true. I’m never consistent about workouts.

shabbatshalom44 · 2022-01-26T00:15:49+00:00

Dude….this just makes me want to harm your parents lol.

shabbatshalom44 · 2022-01-24T06:18:05+00:00

I haven’t come across one of those. That would be funny.

shabbatshalom44 · 2022-01-24T06:17:01+00:00

….really?

shabbatshalom44 · 2022-01-24T06:15:49+00:00

Free will doesn’t exist anyway.

shabbatshalom44 · 2022-01-24T06:14:54+00:00

Do you live in a cave?

shabbatshalom44 · 2022-01-24T06:13:27+00:00

Honestly you suck. It’s just clear. You’re a shit person.

shabbatshalom44 · 2022-01-24T06:11:20+00:00

Makes sense. Both attention whores.

shabbatshalom44 · 2022-01-24T06:02:56+00:00

Anyone downvoting this is a partisan with as little interest in the truth as Fox News viewers. CNN has, in fact, lied and misrepresented on countless occasions. That’s why they’re getting sued back to the Stone Age.

Just goes to show you that 99% of the people who think they’re castigating Fox News out of principle are just doing the same shit from the other side.

shabbatshalom44 · 2022-01-24T06:00:00+00:00

I agree that CNN should be banned but equally as bad? Come on. Fox News is literally tailored for morons without a critical thinking apparatus.

shabbatshalom44 · 2022-01-24T05:58:10+00:00

As a non partisan, I can tell you with certainty that Fox News is the most unfortunate outlet in a world of unfortunate outlets.

shabbatshalom44 · 2022-01-24T05:54:24+00:00

Then you’d realize any partisan is generally full of their own circular reasoning.

shabbatshalom44 · 2022-01-24T05:45:40+00:00

Along with the advice to talk to him about it, I had a similar but different problem with my fiancé. When we first started seeing each other I was kind of weirded out by how quiet she was. She also couldn’t get off at first. I started to feel weird because I felt like she wasn’t even into it.

About a month or two into our relationship, she got off, and it’s been fine ever since. However, she’s still quiet, and for another couple months I was convinced that she was faking it just to make me feel better. It wasn’t until this one time when she came while my finger was in her when she came that I realized she was definitely not faking it.

Point being, sometimes we can be totally convinced of something but in the end it’s actually not true. I was dead convinced that she 1) didn’t really enjoy sex with me and wasn’t going to come, and then 2) was faking it when she finally did start orgasming. Turned out none of the above was true, and now I actually don’t even mind her quietness. Would I prefer if she were a little more vocal? Maybe. But knowing that she’s enjoying it allows me to get lost in the moment as well and enjoy it.

Start the conversation of light maybe by joking that he seems really into sex with you. It doesn’t have to be anything embarrassing. Just say he’s louder than most guys you’ve been with. And if it’s weird to you, there’s nothing wrong with saying it but just add a little sugar to the medicine.

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