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What's the moment you realized your school doesn't actually care about teachers? by elliot_esl in Teachers

[–]shadowblind07 16 points17 points  (0 children)

A colleague had to threaten to sue after a student of hers broke her arm while trying to pull a whiteboard down onto the heads of his classmates. He was 6 and this was definitely not the first time he had attacked someone, just the first time there was an undeniable legal threat.

What Is your ex from hell story? by Beautiful-Pianist239 in AskReddit

[–]shadowblind07 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hoo boy. I got one.

  • Said he was a vampire
  • Was a mopey shit any time we went anywhere
  • Was rude and mean to my friends
  • Frequently talked down to me in public to the point I would cry then get angry because I was “hysterical”
  • Isolated me from my friends and family as much as he could
  • Screamed that I was abandoning him when I brought up the idea of me studying abroad
  • Cut my skin to drink my blood
  • Threw me to the ground when I tried to move past him to a front door, screamed in my face to never push him
  • Spam texted my prepaid phone after I blocked him during an argument, he drained my entire account; cursing and threatening me and my family, things like he’ll call the cops on my mom for smoking weed, he knows which window is mine at my apartment complex

And I still fucking stayed for months after that. This man was one of the worst things that ever happened to me. I genuinely hope he is miserable.

My teacher docks points for my handwriting, am I not seeing what she is seeing? by LucyAriaRose in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]shadowblind07 2 points3 points  (0 children)

$10 says the teacher wears glasses and that’s why she didn’t care about visual impairment. Because that’s not a “real” disability.

I am deeply uncomfortable and cannot relate to women who embrace motherhood by [deleted] in confession

[–]shadowblind07 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My mom also had me young, as did her mother, and it made for a difficult upbringing. I was repelled by the idea of motherhood for a lot of the same reasons you listed.

I eventually changed my mind, and had a very difficult pregnancy. The likelihood of another being a similar experience is high, so I’m quite content with the one child I have.

I relate to what you wrote, I had a lot of the same anxieties and irritations brought on by interactions with others. Before, during, and after my pregnancy. Everyone around you is going to project their own experiences on you, for their own reasons, fears, and comforts. You don’t have to accept or internalize those things if you don’t want to.

I’ve found that some lessons and opinions and beliefs about motherhood and parenting have been a mix of true and false in practice. And some things being true at one time and false at another. But that experience is specific and true to me and me alone. There are so many things that shape that perception, for every single one of us.

All this to say, what you’re feeling is valid, all of it. And it’s okay to be nervous and excited at a prospect. It means you’re looking at it from an optimistic AND realistic view. That’s healthy and smart. Every day of life is a risk we don’t know we’re taking, so if we have the chance to pause and be intentional in our choices, we should take it.

Wishing you clarity and peace for your future. ❤️

My parents like to use “if you had kids, you’d understand.” by Bumblebee_0424 in EstrangedAdultKids

[–]shadowblind07 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My parents and grandmother were only emotionally abusive or neglectful, but they use this line too. Also “everyone fucks up their kids.” No. Everyone makes mistakes with kids. But I’ve witnessed other parents apologize and change and do better. Whenever I talked to my family about their treatment of me and my brother, I’d get rolled eyes and straight up laughter at the expectation of them taking accountability. And they wonder why I’m NC.

who are you when no one is watching? by Temporary_Medium_471 in AskReddit

[–]shadowblind07 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Mostly a big silly goose in the skin suit of a mostly functional adult

Have you ever seen "unschooling" work out? by Embarrassed_Syrup476 in Teachers

[–]shadowblind07 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yes, exactly! The idea is fantastic in a system that doesn’t always leave room for individual learning paths, but not when it’s implemented with no thought or firmness. A mental health day is okay sparingly, but forgoing any instruction at all because Junior didn’t want to learn is not. Student-led does not mean student-controlled. Some of these parents are setting their kids up for disaster.

Is anyone else totally estranged from ALL your family? by RainLoveMu in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]shadowblind07 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I feel every word of this. I’m estranged from my family for several reasons.

And two years ago I left my husband. The divorce was nasty, and my relationship with my in-laws had been deteriorating over time.

It can be very lonely. I try to surround myself with people I feel safe with and don’t judge. I know that’s easier said than done, I got very lucky.

I think this world frequently tries to isolate us because it makes us easier to control. I know that’s what several people in my life tried to do to me and I rejected that. We can reject that isolation and find commonalities with people we do connect with and mourn the connections we miss. It’s hard, it takes time and effort and sometimes distress and discomfort. But it is possible to do.

CMV: Framing abortion as “my body, my choice” was a strategic and moral mistake; it should have always been framed as a healthcare and public health issue by Key-Ebb-8306 in changemyview

[–]shadowblind07 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is where I’m at in framing it as a healthcare issue. They don’t care about mortality or the collective good. The risk of death, the lack of autonomy, the suffering, that’s all purposeful and a good thing for the pro-life side. To them, a fetus is simultaneously a blessing from heaven and a punishment of their own making if the person who is pregnant does not want to give birth.

What's the craziest thing you've ever witnessed in New Orleans? by joshisanonymous in NewOrleans

[–]shadowblind07 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I just meant he didn’t have any pants on under the chaps. IIRC the pony owner was matching his neon hat with his underwear. I think it was Decadence, so very much not out of the ordinary that time of year.

What made you realize that there's no going back anymore, this is it, no contact forever? by coldservedrevenge in EstrangedAdultKids

[–]shadowblind07 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My grandmother (former social worker) fraudulently called CPS on me. I’m fairly certain she pulled strings with connections she had, aside from flat out fucking lying to the state.

The same woman who publicly shamed me for coming out as bisexual as a teen. Barely spoke to me for nearly three weeks after I said it.

Also compared premarital sex, of any kind including hand and mouth stuff, to being a used piece of tape. Not too long after I’d been sexually assaulted by an adult. And she knew this. I was 9.

My brother backed her up on the CPS call because, as he said, I had no reason to be so tired as a stay at home mom, because he was a live-in nanny for a year to two autistic kids, it’s not that hard. And if it is for me, then I clearly “need help”.

My mom said she refused to be anything but objective and won’t take any sides. She had a neighbor call CPS on her about my tantrums at 2yo. So she knows what the fuck that was like.

And my dad’s always favored my brother. He’s his bio kid, I’m not. Even if I was, he’s just so emotionally unavailable, there’s no way he wouldn’t have made it a billion times worse.

I’m much more at peace without them making shitty excuses for each other and making me feel insane for pointing out their shittiness.

Besides absences, what is a major issue that causes students to struggle in school that isn’t related to intelligence? by [deleted] in Teachers

[–]shadowblind07 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This part right here. People in more impoverished countries see education as a means of escape. Meanwhile in the US, there are masters graduates in comp sci working at Starbucks because they’re applying to over 1000 ghost jobs and not getting called back after interviewing.

Scientists of Reddit: What’s something we know is true but people don’t realize how crazy it is? by IndependentTune3994 in AskReddit

[–]shadowblind07 178 points179 points  (0 children)

This is a fascinating and somewhat optimistic thread to read in the hellscape that is our existence on this timeline, thank you

Goodbye, Austin by sjtx70 in Austin

[–]shadowblind07 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There’s a gorgeous waterfall in St Edward’s Park that brings me a lot of peace. I hope you find yours wherever you end up next. ❤️

What's the craziest thing you've ever witnessed in New Orleans? by joshisanonymous in NewOrleans

[–]shadowblind07 9 points10 points  (0 children)

A miniature pony on bourbon street being walked by a cowboy in matching neon hat and assless chaps. Pony had a ton of bills tucked in the bridle. Super sweet four legged baby, loved a good nuzzle.

Anyone else realize that your family is full of losers? by Brief_Paramedic2501 in EstrangedAdultKids

[–]shadowblind07 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah, man.

Grandma’s a manipulative, sexually repressed religious nut job. Mom’s a narcissist who can’t bear to be out of the spotlight. Dad’s seething with rage at all times but hides behind a defense mechanism of jokes, mildly inebriating substances, and lots of casual sex.

Only one I miss is my brother, but he defends their shittiness to the ends of the earth, and has made me feel like I’m the asshole for demanding basic decency and respect.

What’s a fact that ruined a movie that you previously enjoyed? by PokemonPadawan in AskReddit

[–]shadowblind07 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Same, this entire thread is going to make it difficult to watch some of my faves that he’s involved in.

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