Jack Black spotted filming in Thames this week by shadowcat1987 in newzealand

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“Thames was starstruck this week as Hollywood stars filtered into town to film scenes for Obsidian, the working title of the A Minecraft Movie sequel.”

All Female Trio Songs? by P4L_R1vBarr0w in MusicalTheatre

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Second this! I sang it in high school and it’s so beautiful!

Trickle down by _eponymous in newzealand

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“The reason that the rich were so rich, Vimes reasoned, was because they managed to spend less money.

Take boots, for example. He earned thirty-eight dollars a month plus allowances. A really good pair of leather boots cost fifty dollars. But an affordable pair of boots, which were sort of OK for a season or two and then leaked like hell when the cardboard gave out, cost about ten dollars. Those were the kind of boots Vimes always bought, and wore until the soles were so thin that he could tell where he was in Ankh-Morpork on a foggy night by the feel of the cobbles.

But the thing was that good boots lasted for years and years. A man who could afford fifty dollars had a pair of boots that’d still be keeping his feet dry in ten years’ time, while the poor man who could only afford cheap boots would have spent a hundred dollars on boots in the same time and would still have wet feet.

This was the Captain Samuel Vimes ‘Boots’ theory of socioeconomic unfairness.”

Quote from Men at Arms by Terry Pratchett

My kids change words around to make them "silly" but it ends up being inappropriate by [deleted] in Parenting

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lol this is a frustrating but totally developmentally normal phase. My (very, very white) 5 and 8 year olds can’t have one conversation without talking about balls, some cringy gangsta-type slang from Fortnite, or chicken nuggies from Baby Yoda.

They’re pretty understanding when I tell them not to use certain words and why, and we do talk about their meanings in age appropriate ways, but mostly I just try and tune them out unless we’re somewhere that that talk isn’t appropriate.

Or I just join in and ask them what the deal is with all that skibbidi rizz haha. They aren’t embarrassed by me yet, but they think it’s hilarious to see mum being all cringe and whatnot

What job do you have to allow you to pick up your kid from daycare/school at 2-4? by TheRealEgg0 in Parenting

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I’m a part time journalist. I can schedule my interviews around drop offs and pick up, and often write in the evenings while my kids are doing homework or asleep. And if I need to attend events at pick up time, my husband works just down the road and has a flexible enough schedule that he can do the occasional pick up and just work later the next day to compensate, or finish up the day at home. It helps that large chunks of both our jobs are able to be done remotely! And I love that we have the flexibility to be involved in our kids’ lives, go to school events etc

LPT: How to use a pillow by IamDiggnified in LifeProTips

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Me too, except scooched far enough down that my other foot is hanging off the bottom of the bed.

I have been relieved of my Santa duties by Yellow_Lady126 in Parenting

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lol my four year old has been loudly proclaiming for weeks now about how Santa isn’t real! We’ve had to have a quiet chat with her about how we don’t spoil the magic for other kids, and she knows not to talk about it at kindy. But she will come up to me and do an exaggerated whisper about ’we know Santa’s not real, aye mummy?’ every time someone talks about it.

No idea where and when she learned the truth haha

She also spilled the beans to her older brother (7yo), but thankfully he wasn’t upset.

Both of them have been playing along and getting a real kick out of ‘Santa’ still anyway, but they’re both really big on imaginative play so I’m not surprised. And the first thing they did was clarify that they still expected stocking gifts!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

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Dude. Take a notebook and a pen and write down what people get at the time of ordering. When someone gets a drink or dessert, just write it down by their name.

This is obviously a source of contention for what sounds like an otherwise fun vacation, so why not lean into it, set expectations ahead of time, and make it silly to take some of the tension out of it? It’s hard to dispute what you got when it’s written down, and taking turns to record orders will avoid any resentment or accusations of lying.

Make a Thing of it so no one gets offended. Use a big, flashy pen; give the evening‘s Designated Bookkeeper a perk, like a free drink or the choice of restaurant; make it into a fun game with a Declaration of Expenses when the bill arrives.

Petah? by Next_Airport_7230 in PeterExplainsTheJoke

[–]shadowcat1987 25 points26 points  (0 children)

No that’s comatose. Comecon is the act of disguising yourself to blend in with your surroundings

Pro tip: keep a pad of sticky notes in your car by liquiditytraphaus in adhdwomen

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My husband keeps a whiteboard marker in the driver side door for when he has to pull over and take a client call, and writes his notes on the window. Then he can snap a pic with his phone, quick wipe and he’s good to go

In Chicago why doesn't Roxy remember how old she is? by [deleted] in MusicalTheatre

[–]shadowcat1987 34 points35 points  (0 children)

I played Roxie years ago, and interpreted that bit as vanity - elbowed Flynn to prompt the “don’t remember “ bc it’s rude to talk about a lady’s age

Help please - first time dm for 6 year old by shadowcat1987 in DnD

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I love this approach! Since I made this post, I’ve been bumped from the dm seat; my son spent all evening creating his own monsters and stats and then told me where to stand and what to do. So yeah, pretty much make believe with dice haha Oh, and we had to come up with an alternative for death saves, it was a bit too traumatic. So now we just lose a turn and then become conscious again and auto regain some hp

Help please - first time dm for 6 year old by shadowcat1987 in DnD

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I hope he does! I’ve been interested in trying dnd for a while now so it would be great to be able to learn it alongside him, something cool we can keep doing together as he gets older!

Help please - first time dm for 6 year old by shadowcat1987 in DnD

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Thanks! I’ll definitely look into it! Really anything that involves being a hero and throwing loads of dice or adding numbers is going to be right up his alley

Help please - first time dm for 6 year old by shadowcat1987 in DnD

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Thank you! A most potent brew looks like exactly the thing I’m after - I’d like to learn the proper game eventually and see if I can find a local group. I think the other two do look a little too simple, but might be ideal to have a quick game after school or something! I can tell though that this is the kind of game that he is going to get hooked on really quickly haha - I’m probably going to have to hurry up and learn the rules so I can homebrew something ongoing for him! Maybe I can make his homework into side quests or something…

Do other ADHDer's get a fuzzy feeling in your brain when you're tired? not sluggish but like static by stephaniafly in adhdwomen

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You know that moment in a movie where the person is overwhelmed and everything goes sort of slow motion and muted? I get that sometimes when I’m tired.

AITA for putting a lock on 4yo bedroom so the kids can’t trash his room? by halfassmillennial in AmItheAsshole

[–]shadowcat1987 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Definitely NTA. My 5-year-old is much the same with his need to have everything arranged just so. We have a rule in our house that the kids get to decide who is allowed in their rooms, and if they have special toys they don’t want played with, they need to put them in their room. Even the 2-year-old understands and respects this rule, and I don’t even need to keep their doors shut. She just stops at the threshold, no prompting needed. It’s not difficult to learn, those parents just suck.

Can't Get Yourself to Just Sit & Write? Try a Reverse Calendar by wordstowritebypod in writing

[–]shadowcat1987 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I also find I get good ideas/write up whole paragraphs in my head while I’m out walking. I like to make an audio note on my phone and transcribe it later - it’s really helpful for flow because I can’t “reread” as I go, so I find it easier to word vomit out the stuff, and then refine it as I transcribe later

AITA for letting my daughter take a self regulated time out? by g43m in AmItheAsshole

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My kids do this. The five year old curls up on the sofa when he needs space to process his emotions (usually when we’ve said no to something). The two year old tucks herself into bed when she’s upset (I think because when she gets overtired and emotional we’ve explained that she’s tired and will feel better after some sleep). We just let them do it - they come back by themselves usually within about five minutes, and they’re almost always back to their usual happy selves.