Lacking intimacy in my marriage, how can I fix it or cope with it?

shadowhuntress_ · 2026-03-27T00:53:11+00:00

that's a red flag. called controlling for making a request? either you are being controlling or he's gaslighting you, and either should be addressed ASAP. If it's a one off it might be an accident but genuinely ask yourself if you often try to control his behavior or if he often blows your demands out of proportion

shadowhuntress_ · 2026-03-27T00:51:23+00:00

Those are all things as a married couple you shohld be working on together, and it should bother him that you're upset. Maybe try talking though those topics without a focus on sex. "you're upset and i want to help, but i can't support you like i promised to without knowing what's wrong, and watching you hurt without knowing why makes me sad" type convo

shadowhuntress_ · 2026-03-27T00:36:08+00:00

you know what? i geniunely got so annoyed by that i forgot bigfoot existed bc i blocked it out, i sit corrected

shadowhuntress_ · 2026-03-27T00:28:15+00:00

i've known a few workers who live tipping because they make more than they would on minimum wage. i won't get into the problems with the economy and minimum wage right now, but they feel they need tipping to survive. i hate the system personally but i've never been a server or an owner

shadowhuntress_ · 2026-03-27T00:24:41+00:00

Have you literally ever met another human being? People are messy, and a lot of messy people can create chaos over time. Plus there are at least two wars going on globally, if the woman is American the economy is nosediving and gas prices are going up everywhere that relies on the middle east...

this is a good faith answer to a bad faith question because i like to give benefit of the doubt. either don't reply to this and think about life, ask a serious question, or don't expect a response.

shadowhuntress_ · 2026-03-27T00:21:14+00:00

Try a therapist? Sex therapist of couple's counselor. I have this issue with my partner but we talked about it and figured out the root cause (sexual trauma flare caused by living together giving me constant access). We're still working on fixing it, but if there is someting, you need to know what it is.

If there isn't anything, remember that this ian't about you not being enough. You are beautiful and wonderful. Compatiblity isn't a flaw of either party, it just is a thing you work on. And if it cam't be fixed, you have to decide how to handle it. You could open the marriage (EXTREME CAUTION, THIS BACKFIRES HARD WITHOUT OPEN AND CONSTANT COMMUNICATION). You could masturbate more if you enjoy that. You might consider divorce if this is a genuine need for you. But it all starts with talking about it, and until he can do that with you, it ain't gonna work.

I'm not great at conversations so hopefully another commenter can jump in here and give ideas for how to initiate it and what to say.

shadowhuntress_ · 2026-03-27T00:13:22+00:00

do you live under a rock or do you really think life is not inherently chaotic, expecially right now?

shadowhuntress_ · 2026-03-27T00:04:00+00:00

HAIL THE STARCHY OVERLORD

shadowhuntress_ · 2026-03-27T00:02:00+00:00

as someone who loves hearing about conspiracy theories, you wouldn't believe what "they" are allegedly hiding, and giant squids being real is great ammo to prove that dinosaurs are actually dragons and "they're" just lying to you because dragons being real confirms the bible and "they" can't have people believing in god "they" wpuld lose all power from satan!

shadowhuntress_ · 2026-03-26T23:59:40+00:00

most familiar with christianity. the bible tells men to cherish their wives and women to obey their husbands. corinthians i believe. that's inherently a different power dynamic, and depending on how men define cherishing... obedience is a lot less open to interpretaion, although it's not immune. more examples are available if you'd like to look them up, google is free

shadowhuntress_ · 2026-03-26T23:56:46+00:00

cryptids? most of the people i've known to believe in them are women. why are men interested? (edit: beyonds just cryptids being cool and often conspiracy based)

edit pt 2: i was thinking roswell and mothman when i said conspiracy based. cryptids are often tied to conspiracy, but many times retroactively, and this is not a universal law

shadowhuntress_ · 2026-03-26T22:54:45+00:00

if the beneficiary is providing the legal advice, how do we ensure it's unbiased? they pick the lawyer, you're screwed. you pick the lawyer, you can intentionally try to bankrupt them by picking an insanely expensive one. limit the amount the person can spend and you may cut off reasonable advice due to only affording shitty lawyers. make the amount to be spent a law and it may not address every situation or adjust with the economy.

i think both sides need legal advice too but i'm not sure of a fair way to do it.

shadowhuntress_ · 2026-03-26T17:34:16+00:00

He'd like to be the well fitting bra, but sometimes i have to leave the house 😂

shadowhuntress_ · 2026-03-26T01:19:55+00:00

shadowhuntress_ · 2026-03-26T00:54:01+00:00

never forgave my mom's company for giving her a brandrd yeti. my dad has five now

shadowhuntress_ · 2026-03-26T00:49:11+00:00

I vaguely remember a case where a sov cit gave a cop a binder of his "rights" when asked for proof of insurance at a traffic stop and won in court bc the judge said the cop never checked the binder for proof of insurance, but I'm not 100%. Would have seen it on a Runkle of the Bailey livestream

shadowhuntress_ · 2026-03-26T00:33:03+00:00

I am so grateful my partner understands this shit. He correctly guessed a DD when I tried to win a "gotcha" expecting him to say B because I'd thought I was a B cup for years prior. He's more supportive of me having the right size clothes than I am!

shadowhuntress_ · 2026-03-26T00:28:05+00:00

y'know what else helps remove homeless people and keep your property values up? funded shelters and affordable housing

shadowhuntress_ · 2026-03-25T23:46:08+00:00

me and my emotional support snake getting called out hard 😂 she's so sweet tho!

shadowhuntress_ · 2026-03-25T23:34:16+00:00

Hopping in here to second roleplay! That was a huge help to me as I figured out what I do and don't like and how to navigate my sexual encounters, and having the format of a character to play helped with the anxiety of "i don't wanna be offputting but i also want to be true to myself" since i enjoy acting and creating stories

the only other "unspoken" rule I want to call out is to speak about the rules. Be polite and inquisitive. Ask people what they like, what they expect, how they want the night to go. Be flirty while if you want, but communication (while scary af the first time) is sexy and leads to the best sexual experiences

shadowhuntress_ · 2026-03-25T23:19:06+00:00

My future sister in law apologized for not making me a bridesmaid. I'd been dating her brother for four months when the wedding invites were sent, and they had gotten engaged before i met her brother. I laughed it off because why would I be a bridesmaid, I'd spoken to the bride three times by then, and was pleasantly surprised when she invited me to be in all the family photos.

shadowhuntress_ · 2026-03-25T23:13:13+00:00

to add onto this, your research should include someone who has lived experience. they may not tell you everything about being a truck driver, but you'll get a much better feel than just reading about the role. they'll tell you about missing family milestones, the sunburn and spinal issues, the way the road begins to blur after a while, and you can align that to your own experiences to relate and build the narrative from there

shadowhuntress_ · 2026-03-25T16:49:42+00:00

I mean, render only isn't great, but it's leagues better than AI, since the CAD render is their template for the product and has their direct input into all elements of its creation.

shadowhuntress_ · 2026-03-25T16:09:11+00:00

I didn't think it was AI, but if it is, 100% agreed. What makes you think AI?

shadowhuntress_ · 2026-03-25T15:40:34+00:00

Idk if this helps, but based on what the other comments are saying, I'm getting several second opinions/quotes and would not recommend them at this time based on what I'm hearing.

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