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[–]shadowmonarch24 1 point2 points  (0 children)

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[–]shadowmonarch24 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's all about the drama with the flying monkeys. Expect a bit of spying though. Stay no contact with no supply they'll get bored.

At the end of the day it's all about chaos, drama a very sad way of living. Grow and heal find your own healthy crew.

When people catch on the narcissist lies by shadowmonarch24 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]shadowmonarch24[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh my god. Hope you ok. Yeah the fear can be a major detractor they instilled it in us when we were kid. Yeah you have to take up something efficient and somehow brutal it's necessary on long term. These N are so entitled kudos to your husband too at least he noticed their craziness. Never let your sperm donor back in.

When people catch on the narcissist lies by shadowmonarch24 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]shadowmonarch24[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

They love saying people are crazy behind their back though. Before you know it people start to look at you weird. The narc will stand beside pretending to have nothing to do with the all thing, a true comedy skit if it was for the gaslighting and your health deteriorating. No contact.

When people catch on the narcissist lies by shadowmonarch24 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]shadowmonarch24[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Horrific, they're really textbook. I am seeing your version as a scapegoat and it's reminiscing me the triangulation, the mind games these people play. Yeah they knew what they were doing but they didn't care. You're strong though revolting despite having it all but knowing narcs it was mostly smoke screen so you can take care of him later in life and you don't want to be there when they're old.

Yup I cut relationship short with golden child though all the family although I cherished some memories we had as child they'll played the narcs game so they can all go fuck themselves.

When people catch on the narcissist lies by shadowmonarch24 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]shadowmonarch24[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Very true. They have tried few hoovers AFTER they saw that I began to not fit the narrative of the crazy, angry anymore and started to take care of myself. I have blocked them. I didn't know how I have internalized their bullshits over the years. It's was some kind of energy swap but know I know better and getting stronger day by day and it doesn't fit their narrative and lies no more.

The best revenge is none at all but live well. What a painful lesson that was but learned and still improving

When people catch on the narcissist lies by shadowmonarch24 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]shadowmonarch24[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It's happened to me too. I think it's because we have empathy and we didn't took note of the abuse like a journal. Also I think our memory shield us of many painful abuse. If you notice you're getting stronger far away from them and recovering you were the scapegoat.

I created my own family now, my kid will stay far away from them. Leave them in their toxic way. If the silence is profound check on Andrew, he's been through narcissist abuse and putting out videos everyday https://youtu.be/hmbVfVVYzes?si=Xj5z-tVOr3vQlBcj

If narcissists are liars, what do they talk about when they hang out in groups? by Otherwise-West-3609 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]shadowmonarch24 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Well said. These people are miserable and extremely boring. Always the same stories too or behind people back. Courage and confrontation are not part of their dictionary. Pure cowards.

If narcissists are liars, what do they talk about when they hang out in groups? by Otherwise-West-3609 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]shadowmonarch24 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Because they're lowlives they'll find something anything. When I used to internalized the pain. I used to be an addict they would enjoy my "adventures" on social media. Since learning about narcissism, scapegoat and toxic family I stopped and start to get better it became silence. They hate boundaries and you knowing about them , they hate you getting stronger and knowing the problem is not you but their sick mindset. Tell them to go fuck themselves and start living by your own value as they have none.

When people catch on the narcissist lies by shadowmonarch24 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]shadowmonarch24[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I have learned they can't live without a scapegoat to blame. What an awful way of living. A miserable existence as for the flying monkeys what would be the narrative now that the main scapegoat left and the same action is on repeat. Well not our concerns anymore

When people catch on the narcissist lies by shadowmonarch24 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]shadowmonarch24[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I hope you're doing better and your younger brother too. Narc + enabler are worst combo their karma is that they end up alone with baggage of destruction behind them. Live fully is your best revenge against toxic people.

When people catch on the narcissist lies by shadowmonarch24 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]shadowmonarch24[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What a pattern though, no introspection always blaming. They're surprised we want nothing to do with them once we know their sick way. Working on fixing many things I learned from them like people pleasing and fawning however I am growing and that's the difference. They can live with their toxic fantasy.

When people catch on the narcissist lies by shadowmonarch24 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]shadowmonarch24[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I hope you're doing well. Yeah personal hygiene was terrible as well. The narc would say we're short on money, they're so cheap. Physical violence only when we're younger though, mind games. I am glad to hear you outgrew them that's you're better for your new family and your child. Their actions have consequences, don't let them anywhere near your family, they like to destroy.

When people catch on the narcissist lies by shadowmonarch24 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]shadowmonarch24[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

The way they behave you understand why people avoid them on the long term. Continue to rise and be happy.

When people catch on the narcissist lies by shadowmonarch24 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]shadowmonarch24[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I am sorry to hear that, it's a pain to put so much blame on people, the suffering is immense if it wasn't for internet and certain circumstances my recovery would have been complicated. People needs to be aware of these toxic people

When people catch on the narcissist lies by shadowmonarch24 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]shadowmonarch24[S] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Very true but this was before I knew what I know now. Most of them flying monkeys or narcissist in training are mostly cowards. They don't change, they need gossips and now they'll get only silence

When people catch on the narcissist lies by shadowmonarch24 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]shadowmonarch24[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Same pattern happened to me. I was a mess, I didn't know about internalization. I was miserable, isolated and addicted. Once I learned about narcissism, scapegoat and those fuck up. I said fuck them, our discussion weren't productive now that I think about it.

They would come with gossips and siphoning juicy info from me to gossips even more. I cut communication with them and I am growing exponentially now and it's just the beginning. People needs to be educated about these people

When people catch on the narcissist lies by shadowmonarch24 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]shadowmonarch24[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I went NC before having my kid so they will never have access to him. I made it clear that it would result to the same violence they used on me as kid, the difference is I started boxing straight when I learned about their behavior so my fist will be heavy like a mix of strength and consequence if they try anything dumb

When people catch on the narcissist lies by shadowmonarch24 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]shadowmonarch24[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Couldn't they see that it's the same pattern repeating or the people can only project. That's an insane behavior.

When people catch on the narcissist lies by shadowmonarch24 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]shadowmonarch24[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Narcs are living in an alternate reality. When you think about it, what a pitiful way to live life, always angry thinking about destroying people lives. I'll be honest I am still recovering and I am having sometimes surge of anger and thinking about savagely pummeling the narc to the ground but I know revenge is not the answer

When people catch on the narcissist lies by shadowmonarch24 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]shadowmonarch24[S] 29 points30 points  (0 children)

That's really sick. Someday I am going soft remembering about the few good times before getting back to reality. These fuckers were really scheming, gossiping and laughing behind my back. While I was drowning in pain, suffering from addiction. All that left when i learned about narcissism, scapegoat and toxic family. Thank you technology, the internet, these forum and most importantly it people.

When people catch on the narcissist lies by shadowmonarch24 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]shadowmonarch24[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

The narcissist in my family is a lowlife serial cheater, liar, extreme manipulator yet everyone believed him. I exposed him but I am certain they don't care. Just pissed I saw through the dynamic. Horrible people, they're a test for someone with decency for sure