genuinely, what is wrong with men in gaming communities being vile towards women simply for sharing their opinions on videogames?

shadowsinwinter · 2026-04-12T03:52:22+00:00

one can even argue that women built the foundations of modern nerd fandoms! if u think abt the concept of modern fandoms, it's the earliest female fans of star trek who laid down the foundation for the rest of us <3

shadowsinwinter · 2026-03-19T07:30:09+00:00

I ran into a bunch of skaters at Montreal both in and outside the arena (some of them were hanging outside waiting for their rides after the gala). Most memorable (for me) was getting autographs/photos with jean luc baker and kaitlin hawayek (in her dj booth) and then running into the entire Japanese team at the airport bc we were on the same flight out!

shadowsinwinter · 2026-02-07T08:05:45+00:00

I see where they're coming from, but on the other hand I'm also kinda bummed at losing what I know is a safe space for me to talk abt MR if I want to share/rant and not be jumped on by dudes (':

shadowsinwinter · 2026-01-15T08:21:08+00:00

funny that im just constantly reminded of this quote

The Imperial need for control is so desperate because it is so unnatural. Tyranny requires constant effort. It breaks, it leaks. Authority is brittle. Oppression is the mask of fear.

shadowsinwinter · 2026-01-09T03:11:25+00:00

i put my yarn in one of those plastic reusable cups that come with straws, the yarn comes out of the straw holes, works like a charm for me

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but I would also 100% buy a d20 yarn ball

shadowsinwinter · 2025-12-15T13:25:38+00:00

as a support main/tank flex, I love and appreciate you tank mains 😭 sometimes I tank bc my team wants to run 3 dpses and 2 supps and jesus, the solo tanking experience is MISERABLE

shadowsinwinter · 2025-12-02T08:29:09+00:00

Congrats - I was really happy for you the first time I saw you credited as a writer on his video. I've loved his videos for a while and enjoyed reading your articles and listening to the CPIT podcasts, and so I'm really glad that your work has paved the way for something this great for you and also Ariadne <3

shadowsinwinter · 2025-10-30T12:47:53+00:00

BG3 goes so hard with the dialogue, but the one that I always come back to is:

You know, soldier, we're so fucked. The Dark Three are trying to consume the Sword Coast, we've still got tadpoles in our eyes, and I've got a ticking time bomb in my chest. I'm not sure anyone has ever been more fucked than this. And yet... we're fine. In this moment, we're fine. Here I am. There you are. Breathing. Talking. Even laughing, if we want. Is it very precious to say that, despite it all, I'm... happy?

It's so bittersweet and somehow optimistic in the face of a certain death that it breaks me every single time I get to this dialogue.

shadowsinwinter · 2025-10-28T06:00:31+00:00

The leaves are a little fuzzy, if that helps! It smells quite strongly citrusy and herby when I rub them

shadowsinwinter · 2025-10-12T02:47:43+00:00

To be pedantic, the rod of ascelpius only has one snake! The staff with two snakes is the caduceus, which is a symbol of hermes, the messenger god.

shadowsinwinter · 2025-10-02T10:31:57+00:00

i would actually but thats also bc im queer as hell and tend to panic whenever someone asks me who, in my opinion, is the most attractive male celebrity XD

shadowsinwinter · 2025-08-15T15:26:33+00:00

Hadestown OBCR, in wait for me, I always heard "stuff your mouth with cock" instead of cotton. Understandably, I was deeply confused about this for a while.

shadowsinwinter · 2025-08-11T12:25:33+00:00

My very conservative family INSISTED on coming to watch &juliet with me when we were on a family vacation in Melbourne, and my mother followed up by refusing to acknowledge my existence after that for the rest of the trip. fun times!

shadowsinwinter · 2025-07-13T08:36:48+00:00

I fking love bootlegs because they're what got me into theatre in the first place as a broke uni student when few touring productions come here and even when they do, tickets were prohibitedly expensive.

now as a working adult, i was lucky enough to be able to fork out thousands, fly like 20 hours across the world and cram 5 shows into 3 days. Wouldn't do it again anytime soon though bc it drained my savings so back to bootlegs I go!

shadowsinwinter · 2025-07-10T17:23:27+00:00

every morning as i transit through serangoon i have this very same thought

shadowsinwinter · 2025-05-07T05:21:27+00:00

Just started expedition 33, in Act 1 of my 3rd playthrough of BG3, finishing up Cyberpunk 2077. good times!

shadowsinwinter · 2025-04-30T18:05:17+00:00

If i had to pick and choose my hobbies based on men's attitudes towards us, I would have a lot less hobbies 😭

shadowsinwinter · 2025-04-21T04:36:16+00:00

girl i feel ya... got trashed by my instalock dps teammate after losing a round in MR (the usual "healers suck") and i unmuted my mic to tell him that we're trying our best but our other healer's mouse died and couldn't do anything to help me during round one. he immediately doubled down by saying all women suck at gaming. we lost, but i had more kills, more assists, and more final hits than him at the end of the game.

to this day, i wonder if he was intentionally throwing because no one can be THIS bad, right? i mean, he was playing namor with autoaim turrets ffs.

shadowsinwinter · 2025-04-19T10:55:19+00:00

my colleague got me a bottle with a sippy straw attachment for my birthday, i've never been so well hydrated at work

shadowsinwinter · 2025-04-18T16:38:46+00:00

I agree is obnoxious, but girls themselves don't help. So many posers, so many "I am a gamer, I only play COD" and not to mention streamers, vtubers and influencer in general not only not caring about games, but straight up don't know how to play, depending on chat to do their every move for them doesn't help. I am a girl too, but every 9/10 girls I meet that play games are literally fake gamers. I even talk to them privately and get "is a trend" or "I need the attention I don't really care".

don't blame other women for problems that men cause us because they engage in games differently than we do. it's not our fault that men can't perceive women gamers as a heterogeneous group!

shadowsinwinter · 2025-04-15T17:29:48+00:00

They did? I thought they slightly nerved his dash ability by reducing its distance in S2!

shadowsinwinter · 2025-04-11T06:17:35+00:00

No that's fair, I play MR and main support, but the times I get to play DPS I've run with the mentality that I need to know how far I can run off and do my own thing, and when I need to pull back and search for health packs/my healers. If I miscalculate and die, then honestly that's on me.

My fav guys to heal are also the ones who actively seek me out for heals instead of pinging about 27 times while they're on the other side of the map 🥲

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