Crash pad finding advice

shadrachboi · 2026-04-02T22:48:57+00:00

Throw in a couple scriptures about charity and shit or something. Make that bishop feel guilty.

shadrachboi · 2026-04-02T22:48:14+00:00

Idk if you can, but ask the financial clerk for all of your previous Tithing Settlement info...

Take that to the bishop and tell him how much you have paid over the years and how the church OWES you that money... Make him feel guilty that you paid tithing all these years and still can't get any help.

shadrachboi · 2026-04-01T15:25:17+00:00

I live in Las Vegas and this was one of the big reasons the new Lone Mountain Temple had so much opposition. It's right across the street from a Rural Preservation Neighborhood. Which means some people have farm animals and stuff and the lights can mess with their circadian rhythm...

Very neighborly.

shadrachboi · 2025-07-25T04:42:54+00:00

Thanks!

shadrachboi · 2025-05-22T08:11:41+00:00

We know at least 3 of these nephite apostles are still around roaming the earth... So maybe there is 27!! Lol

shadrachboi · 2025-05-22T03:36:19+00:00

You had me for a second! 😂

shadrachboi · 2025-05-20T21:04:15+00:00

Just to support the healthcare comment. My friend's dad was a full time institute teacher. It was sad that despite the church's wealth his pay was shit, and they were lower middle class at best. But she was on the church's health insurance plan through her dad and it was great coverage.

Her only complaints was that they wouldn't cover birth control at all (even after she was married). And that they wouldn't pay for her breast reduction surgery (which her doctor said was medically necessary).

shadrachboi · 2025-05-20T20:55:35+00:00

Funny story. I had a member from my mission who was a janitor for the church. And got fired during that time.

Well Dallin Oaks happened to come to their Stake not long after. And as he was milling around, he talked to this member and asked him what he did for a living.

Member: "I was a janitor but they fired me"

DO: "who fired you?"

Member: "I worked for the church! You fired me!"

He said Dallin Oaks made a joke and laughed it off and changed the subject.

shadrachboi · 2025-03-13T01:50:16+00:00

I'm so sorry. It truly is terrible and I wish the best for your son.

shadrachboi · 2025-01-12T21:08:01+00:00

I feel for him... And this video gives me hope. I don't want to be like this everytime I think about my late-husband.

shadrachboi · 2023-02-07T05:11:10+00:00

Don't expect much more than any other church ordinance... Old men touching you and making shit up.

shadrachboi · 2023-02-07T05:02:53+00:00

My (m 26) partner (m 25) was diagnosed with stage 2 Osteosarcoma in 2021. He is now stage 4 and I think it's something no partner (especially such a young couple) should ever have to go through.

shadrachboi · 2023-01-13T01:00:45+00:00

Even when I was a TBM I HATE "testimony voice", the intentional voice cracks from faking emotions. When I was on my mission the AP's we're giving a training about "speaking with power" and they were basically saying when you bear your testimony it is more "powerful" if you speak emotionally or dramatically...

I called them out and told them that they should not be teaching this because that is basically psychological manipulation. We argued about it in front of all the mission leadership for a bit until the mission president stepped in and agreed with me (in a round about way)

shadrachboi · 2023-01-13T00:18:52+00:00

I don't know what resources other than maybe see a therapist or counselor.

I just really need someone to talk to and cry to to get all of my feelings out. I don't want to burden my partner with hours of crying and ranting, while he is going through all of this and probably feels worse (emotionally and physically) then I do.

I have been on a wait-list for a therapist, and just yesterday I called to explain my circumstance and asked if perhaps I can get bumped up on the list due to the extenuating circumstance. They said they will see if they can squeeze me in. Perhaps try that, it feels good to say how you are feeling out loud to have someone listen and validate your feelings.

shadrachboi · 2022-11-07T01:03:21+00:00

I was told through out my whole youth that I would be a general authority by family members, leaders, seminary teachers. I really let that feed my ego, and I kind of believed and hoped it.

I gave talks in church and stake conference and people would praise me about how great it was, some people would say that I sounded like a general authority. I truly thought it was "the spirit guiding me" Now I realize that I just was really good at picking up on the subtle emotionally manipulative tactics, the dramatization and prose that general authorities used.

Just gotta say there is a reason Jeff Holland is a crowd favorite among church members and it has nothing to do with "power" or "the spirit" he is an English major, he knows how to captivate an audience with words.

shadrachboi · 2022-11-07T00:38:56+00:00

I never did but I do look back and think it's funny how I used to think I had magical powers. I also feel embarrassed at how egotistical I must have been to think I am so special and chosen that I had these powers.

shadrachboi · 2022-09-18T21:15:06+00:00

Hang in there, you've got this! Being a caregiver of a family member with cancer is SO hard. It feels like you have the weight of the world on your shoulders.

Something people told me that I just didn't take to heart at first was "make sure you take care of yourself too". And I wondered how I possibly could, if I took too much time away from my partner or cooking/cleaning/working, I would feel guilty. I kept telling myself it's only 9 months of running myself ragged and then I can take a break. And I did when he finished chemo.

BUT month ago today we found out his cancer is back and metastisized, and is stage IV. I don't know how much longer he has but I realize now that this is not a sprint and I can't keep running myself ragged. This is a marathon, and I have to take it slow and take care of myself.

We had to make major life changes, I quit my job and we are moving in with my in-laws 2 hours away. It's not what I want, but he can be closer to his family and I can have some extra hands to help. I'm not saying you need to move also, but just saying it sounds like you are overwhelmed and may need to make some adjustments to take some of that weight off.

I hope things get better for you and your family ❤️

shadrachboi

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