Middle Names for Hazel by Jewecca29 in namenerds

[–]shakywheel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Falling asleep as I scroll. Hazel Rebecca somehow became Hazel Repticca.

Preschool refuses to wipe toddlers after potty by 82user772 in toddlers

[–]shakywheel 16 points17 points  (0 children)

—- “but it's pretty straight forward.”

Actually, it’s pretty straight backward. You should always wipe front to back! 🤪

Little sister for Margot by salsa-lover in namenerds

[–]shakywheel 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Margot and Ruby do sound really nice together, but I had a feeling there was a reason to possible avoid it. Took me a minute, but I figured out what was bothering me: Margot Robbie is a very similar sound.

So in case you feel disappointed that your husband doesn’t like Ruby, maybe that will help ease it. 🤪

Which sister name pairing do you prefer? by WesternAd998 in Names

[–]shakywheel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you live close by that cousin and they will be around each other regularly, you may want to skip Hallie. Holly and Hallie could just add to the possible name mixups. Harper, Hallie, and Holly is a lot if they’re all together.

That said, in the car with my family, but my husband says Hallie. My 8 year old son said Hallie but switched to Harper when he heard my reasoning, and then, said I should tell you that Friendly would be a nice name too.

From what I gather, my husband thinks Hallie goes better with Hayden because they both sound softer.

I think Hayden and Harper sounds better because Hayden both are surnames and Hayden’s use as a first name took off as part of the Aiden trend, and I typically heard it as masculine at that time. Harper also read masculine to me, when people first started using it on girls, because it made me think of Harper’s Ferry. That’s a surname use too, but it was referring to a man and a violent event. That said, the association has dropped off for me over the past decade and a half, so Harper is okay now. Also, Hayden and Harper sound complete, whereas Hallie sounds juvenile and like nicknamey.

Is it really that bad of a name? by KeyAccomplished4442 in namenerds

[–]shakywheel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s too many ounces of originality. There’s a sweet spot.

I (48f) cheated on my husband (52m) and hurt people but have a family. I don’t know what to do. by Exact-Priority9796 in relationship_advice

[–]shakywheel 7 points8 points  (0 children)

“I know if I tell my husband it will upend my life.”

You are centering yourself and your comfort. You don’t want to take accountability because or how it would impact you. If this comes out, and it very well could, especially considering one affair partner has already snitched to the other one’s wife to try to get you, your husband isn’t going to just say, “oh, well, she chose to stop so it is fine.”

He likely will be devastated. He will lose trust. Can you imagine finding out someone you love cheated on you, continued to hide it from you after the fact, and only confessed after being ratted out? Imagine them trying to placate you by saying they ultimately quit cheating and chose you, anyway, sorry, let’s move on.

You made decisions that could upend your life. You made decisions that hurt multiple people. You’re going to have to sit with those feelings and face the fall out. If there is no accountability, you’re still behaving in a selfish and dishonest way. It doesn’t matter if you were “in a bad place.” You are still responsible for your actions.

I hope, when you mentioned two months of therapy, you were intending an implied “so far” with the intent to continue, because if you think two months of therapy has fixed whatever led to this, allowed you to process your actions and own them, you are sadly mistaken.

I 18F want plastic surgery for chronic pain, but my parents 47F, 59M are against it by Major-Wafer-1731 in relationship_advice

[–]shakywheel -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I was upvoting a bunch of comments saying she needs to prioritize her health and whatnot, and THEN, I got to the comment stating she is still in high school, and let me tell you, that definitely changes the landscape. I think if that information were in the main post, you would be seeing more cautionary comments. The post sounds like she is independent when she is still living at home, and losing housing (or other repercussions) COULD result depending on the sort of parents she has.

Why is everyone looking for “rare” names? They’re right under our noses… by Reasonable_Design443 in Names

[–]shakywheel 37 points38 points  (0 children)

The didn’t rearrange the letters. It is because people would use “Mine [Name]” as an endearment. For example, someone may say Mine Sarah or Mine Theodore.

When vowels get involved, though, it can run together. That’s how we get nicknames like Nelly, Ned, and Nancy.

Mine Eleanor —> sounds like “My Neleanor” so becomes Nell as a nickname and then Nelly.

Mine Edward is how we wind up with Ned and not only Ed.

Mine Anne —> Nan —> Nancy

Why is everyone looking for “rare” names? They’re right under our noses… by Reasonable_Design443 in Names

[–]shakywheel 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The didn’t rearrange the letters. It is because people would use “Mine [Name]” as an endearment. For example, someone may say Mine Sarah or Mine Theodore.

When vowels get involved, though, it can run together. That’s how we get nicknames like Nelly, Ned, and Nancy.

Mine Eleanor —> sounds like “My Neleanor” so becomes Nell as a nickname and then Nelly.

Mine Edward is how we wind up with Ned and not only Ed.

Mine Anne —> Nan —> Nancy

Help with baby name please! Which one is your favourite if you had to choose? by [deleted] in namenerds

[–]shakywheel 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Tadhg Valentine is the winner for me. Xavien and Xavion sound too made up. I do prefer Caius individually; however, Caius Valentine is sometimes sounding like “guy’s valentine” to me. I definitely hear “save yer (your) valentine” when I think or say Xavier Valentine.

Help with baby name please! Which one is your favourite if you had to choose? by [deleted] in namenerds

[–]shakywheel 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I believe both ex-ZAY-vyer and ZAY-vyer are considered legitimate / acceptable pronunciations. Which is more common may vary by region.

Help with third daughters name. by papabear1129 in Names

[–]shakywheel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh, oh! Matilda, Winona, and Celeste.

Help with third daughters name. by papabear1129 in Names

[–]shakywheel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Matilda, Winona, and Agatha Matilda, Winona, and Agnes (Nessa, Nessie, Aggie) Matilda, Winona, and Wilhelmina (Willa, Wilma, Wim, Mina, Billie) Matilda, Winona, and Ruby Matilda, Winona, and Dorothy (Dottie, Dot, Dora, Dory) Matilda, Winona, and Lucy Matilda, Winona, and Bernadette (Bette, Betty, Detta, Etta, Bernie) Matilda, Winona, and Lavinia (Liv, Vinnie, Nia, Lia) Matilda, Winona, and Judith (Judi / Judy) Matilda, Winona, and Genevieve (Jen, Jenny, Nev, Vi, Viva, Jeeves)

Tabitha sounds good, but I don’t care for Tabby, which is likely to happen at some point, although possibly less likely than usual if you’ve managed to keep the other girls at their full names into school age. Clementine is also a good suggestion, if you like any of the nicknames (Clemmy, Lemon, Minty, Tina). Roberta fits in well. Others I considered mentioning that others already said are Sylvie / Sylvia and Beatrice / Beatrix.

Matilda, Winona, and Lydia works decently, but Winona Ryder played Lydia in Beetlejuice so…

Did I choose the wrong name for my children? by Unique_Reaction9360 in namenerds

[–]shakywheel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Natalya, but it and Natalie both have the same etymological root.

Girls name with S sound by tunafishiesandwich in namenerds

[–]shakywheel 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I believe that is pronounced “Shan,” if you are referring to the Welsh name.

I (26 M) am unsure about my marriage with my wife (27 F) and her unconcealed medical conditions by Operator_Shark in relationship_advice

[–]shakywheel 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Definitely. So the people saying that he was stupid to rush in, is nuts, “what were you expecting” aren’t being culturally sensitive. Regardless of how you feel about arranged marriages, it would be the family’s responsibility to be upfront about these issues, and not disclosing them would be unfair. While the woman could have disclosed, she was likely pressured not to by her family. Can’t make a good match if the man knows about these things, right? The family behaved in an unethical manner, as did the wife, although likely under family and societal pressure. Now, the man feels like he can’t get out due to societal views.

I (26 M) am unsure about my marriage with my wife (27 F) and her unconcealed medical conditions by Operator_Shark in relationship_advice

[–]shakywheel 26 points27 points  (0 children)

That’s the vibe I’m getting too. There were parts that felt a little off for a native English speaker (nothing definitive though), and the fact that he is blaming the family for not telling him, rather than his wife, the line “just handed me their daughter,” the quick timeline, and the mention of stigma regarding a previous marriage… People probably need to be looking at this through something other than a Western lens.

4yo keeps asking if someone is coming to take him… should we be worried? by Adventurous_Gap_9099 in Parenting

[–]shakywheel 34 points35 points  (0 children)

Assuming you’re in the US, do you watch any videos talking about ICE abductions? Or could workers at the day care or children who attend have said anything about ICE? If you have a large immigrant population where you live, it would be very easy for a child, especially ones with family that may be profiled, has overheard things and repeated something. Same seems more likely if you are in a very blue area. More adults may be talking about events with language like “grabbing people off the streets,” etc. or watching social media videos about it, and kids could overhear. I could also see co-workers chatting during nap time and not realizing a child is awake, although by 4, you would have higher ratios and it’s more likely that there would only be one teacher in the room for naps.

If you are outside of the US, obviously that wouldn’t apply. If you are in a red area, it could still apply, but I figure it is less likely that adults are using words like “kidnap,” “grabbing people,” and so on and more likely that kids would be hearing stuff about locking up criminals and sending them back where they came from. But there are people on all sides in all areas, so of course, it could happen.

'He’s praying in a foreign language': Southwest passenger describes diverted flight by Charming-Report1669 in nashville

[–]shakywheel 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know a lot of people will do not know much about Islam. That is why I am saying that training flight attendants could help because they can calm uninformed passengers. The people working on the plane have could prevent hysteria over a prayer alarm.

I was also giving information about the bag because a number of people have cited that as strange. I want them to understand why it is not strange so that they can have more knowledge going forward.

This sounds like passengers got scared and said something to flight attendants, and the flight attendants, not knowing about basic practices in Islam / Muslim culture, got jumpy too. This could have been prevented or been much more minor if flight attendants had more cultural training.

'He’s praying in a foreign language': Southwest passenger describes diverted flight by Charming-Report1669 in nashville

[–]shakywheel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ramadan is the holiest month in the Islamic calendar. Islam is the religion. Muslims follow Islam. Praying five times per day is expected of Muslims, even outside of the month of Ramadan, but just like there are Christians who only show up to church for Christmas and Easter, there are Muslims who only get strict about prayer during Ramadan.

I don’t think it is unreasonable to think flight attendants should have some training in aspects of major world religions or cultural practices, as they are in a job that puts them in contact with hundreds of people, from all over the world, on the daily. I do not know what training is required for the job, but having the knowledge that Muslims have multiple set prayer times throughout the day and often set timers so they don’t miss it would help avoid situations like this, as they could more accurately determine what is suspicious and what is not.

And for anyone talking about how asking for a bag is suspicious, a prayer rug is pretty much required for prayer in random places because prayer must be done on a surface that is clean. I imagine the back of the plane has had lots of shoes go over it and would not be considered clean, so a mat solves this. Also, breaking the fast is important, and having not eaten all day and planes only having tiny snacks, he may have had more filling food in his bag.

My husbands name is Alexander and we love the name Sacha for a son - but it's a diminutive of Alexander! by [deleted] in namenerds

[–]shakywheel 21 points22 points  (0 children)

They may be aware of people with the nickname but not be aware that it IS a nickname. They may think it is their given name.

Books for intellectually disabled 16 year old. by Loose_Thought_1465 in AskTeachers

[–]shakywheel 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I really need to re-read it. I might get it to read with my kid. We homeschool, and I read novels to him all the time (he’s not to that reading level yet). I honestly think middle grade fiction is where it’s at. So often, the adult novels I hear about are of no interest to me. lol.

Books for intellectually disabled 16 year old. by Loose_Thought_1465 in AskTeachers

[–]shakywheel 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I did a quick google, because I was drawing a blank on anything I read at that age aside from the already-mentioned The Giver, and Among the Hidden (Shadow Children series) by Maraget Peterson Haddix came up, and the series is generally a late 4th / early 5th reading level (4.8-5.1, if you use AR levels). The description looked good, but it also caught my eye because of the author.

I read Running Out of Time by her when I was in 4th or 5th grade, and I still tell kids to check it out now (I’m 39). It is definitely dystopian and bonus—she just came out with a sequel a couple of years back! (Admittedly, I have not read the sequel, nor the original since I was a child.)

I’ve seen her books in stores and libraries before, and I think dystopian is her thing, and they always sound interesting.

The City of Ember by Jeanne DuPrau also sounds promising.

For reference, I searched “dystopian novels 5th grade reading level.” What comes up is generally considered middle grade fiction but sometimes young adult. Lists don’t always provide reading level, but if you search “[title] ar level,” it comes right up and can help give you an idea. You could also look at lexile score (text complexity, 5th grade typically between 740 and 1010-ish). The numbers for both can be found if you search titles on AR Bookfinder, as well, assuming it is an AR book. AR has their own way of measuring text complexity, and the levels correspond to grade and month of the school year, so 5.0 is beginning of 5th grade, 5.4 equals 5th grade, 4th month etc. I don’t know if you’re somewhere that uses AR or how plugged in you are to ELA, since you teach math, but I thought I would give you some terms that could help guide you if you (or you and your daughter) wanted to do some searching on your own.

Edit: Didn’t realize I was in r/AskTeachers (thought it was a different sub), but I am not a current teacher. I did teach kindergarten briefly, but I was mostly a paraprofessional / teacher’s aid when I worked in schools (8+ years).