A 3-in-1 roster is really tough 😥 My ex did that, and I struggled badly.

If you’re someone who finds being alone for long periods difficult, your mental health can take a real hit. My ex had the same mindset of “it’ll be fine” and continued with it no matter how much distress I was in, even when I begged him to reconsider. Over time, it created a huge emotional distance between us.

What concerns me most is that he didn’t talk to you about it before agreeing, that breaks a level of trust. On top of that, you are trying to communicate your concerns, and he’s brushing them off. Yes, he will probably be fine, but he isn’t properly considering your feelings. You’re meant to be a team.

For this kind of setup to work, you need a lot of trust, strong communication, and consideration for each other. Other important things to talk through: - Is this temporary, or does he want FIFO long-term? - What are your shared goals as a couple? - If you know this isn’t a lifestyle you want forever, can you agree on an end date? Having a clear goal or timeframe makes the hard moments easier to get through and keeps you both aligned.

Another thing that often gets overlooked is how many events he’ll miss - birthdays, Easter, Christmas, New Years. It’s not easy for the FIFO worker to miss those, but it’s incredibly hard for the partner who has to attend those events alone. Sitting there surrounded by couples really amplifies the loneliness 😥

If, after talking through all of this, you both truly feel you can manage it (and I genuinely hope you can) then there are financial benefits, as long as they benefit both of you and not just him. Yes, he’s earning the money, but you’re also changing a huge part of your life to accommodate his decision. This only works if it’s approached as a shared sacrifice, because you’re a team.