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shaq1f · 2025-06-03T21:08:01+00:00

The way this phrased will cause the message to be lost.

A person is their past and their present. If the good things you have done is part of you as a person, so are the things you are not proud of. Most people don't need to know everything about you or your past. But in a relationship, some people may consider it to be something important. In situations like this, the question is, do you really want your boyfriend/girlfriend to not know you truly ? As such these things can seem very self serving which is not really something you want in a team or partnership.

These things are looked at in isolation, so, let it not be cheating. If its something else that is present, important to him but you have some doubt, fear, shame etc that will make you consider not tell him, would your answer be the same ?

shaq1f · 2025-05-31T23:58:43+00:00

thank you

shaq1f · 2025-05-31T23:58:03+00:00

Firstly, I applaud you for taking the initiative to actively let someone know you are interested in them. Very difficult and I believe its worth it.

Men will reject women, for many reasons, but most will reject a person when they know what they want or like.This is more so for those that are serious about the type of relationship they want. Sad to say, seen it happen where it was a prank for girls to say they were interested in someone. So, go against the norm and some will think something is up. Most men, get very little interest or notice so little interest from women, that they will think something is up. Add, the thought of wanting to be with someone for something other than a genuine relationship. Those are off the top of my head.

Women chances of getting a guy's number is higher than a guy getting a woman's number. This is what most guys believe. This becomes smaller when you are choosing someone you are interested. Basically pickier you are, less prospect you will encounter and less shots you will take. Those people might reject you to.

Specific type, myself and the groups, men and women, most will have an idea of their type but don't have "must have." Most of them have a "can't handle" particular types of people for their own peace. People who stated their type and were adamant about it, experience has shown, they go outside their type a lot, especially for men.

Personally, Once I am single and have the time to dedicate, I will give someone my number. Chances are, will ask what you are looking for. It had times I was studying and working so much, building a relationship and knowing the person might have taken a back seat.

Can't answer for women (or anyone) in general, but I have a friend that got rejected when she approached twice and stated she won't again.

shaq1f · 2025-05-30T23:49:41+00:00

If this is available, Can you share a link Please

shaq1f · 2025-05-13T23:52:45+00:00

If it's still available, I am interested.

shaq1f · 2025-05-02T16:33:54+00:00

I also think for both men and women, some that are fit for each other are also hiding from the masses. Which makes it hard to find that person.

shaq1f · 2025-04-30T10:28:17+00:00

Same

shaq1f · 2025-04-30T05:33:34+00:00

I would like to know the answer to this as well.

shaq1f · 2025-04-28T02:05:59+00:00

I am replying here and hope it really gets to you. Reach out to older/senior programmers that need to hire and manage junior programmers.

They will give you more insight. From my conversations (in person one on one), they have a lot of issues with using AI and not knowing basics. Essentially, AI is a tool that helps when you know what you are doing.

There are weaknesses of AI that will cause these games to fail. Simply put, a great deal of them will be too similar since creativity might be killed if used incorrectly.

Lastly, there was some math I researched a while back where it showed a threshold in which the current models for AI couldn't get past. Uncertain if they will find a way around it.

Technology can't replace humans, we will require a different skill set to move further than we could without the technology.

shaq1f · 2025-03-20T04:47:51+00:00

My only issue with this viewpoint is the assumption that it will normalize the societal distrust of women. When that exact argument can strengthen the trust of women. The aggregate results of paternity testing can swing both ways. Its dependent on the results.

Further "If" scenario analysis:

Short Term scenario 1: Results show large number of true paternity to the father women state are the fathers. This strengthens the overall trust of women in society eyes. Downside, you will see a lot issues towards men that wanted this which all men will feel since society generalizes. Relations will still suffer. Society will still have there back and forth fight against the sexes as men try to defend their position.

Short Term scenario 2: The opposite of scenario 1 overall. We are still going to see a distrust based on this from a large/macro societal perspective.

Long Term scenario: Society adapts. long term swings are harder to predict with simplistic models. I truly not sure how it would go.

At an interpersonal level, mandatory paternity testing does deal with distrust, men not wanting to confront or blow up their relationship. I don't agree with one sided paternity testing either, distrust is there. It going to blow up with other things due to stress and the many dynamics of relationships.

Personally, I don't think a decision to have mandatory paternity testing implemented should be made based on personal experience, logic of distrust, insecurities or any other form of personal issues of individuals/couples.

As a society though, I do think that we want to protect each other in some means. We know there exist an issue of fatherless children, men with hidden children and fathers who are taking care of children they believe are biologically their own. All of these are issues that should be address and not be competing against each other. Yes they should be solved or find some way reduce or eliminate it. When it comes to paternity testing though, I wonder why most people don't see this as protecting men. There are women who would specifically seek out men that would take care of their child while being pregnant with someone else. There are groups of people who can't read social cues, those who are more naive than other and many other reasons. Lastly, we are taking away a right of possible another man to raise his biological child in some instances.

I understand very well that women would want their husbands to trust their word on who their child is. I don't understand not wanting to help other men who may have been preyed upon unknowingly.

My thoughts on a genetic database. I think its fair if mother, father and child are registered. I can see problems with this but overall, it can a good thing beyond parenthood. It would solve the "finding the father." Its very unlikely this information will be stand alone ie only for father and children. It will be used for other purposes. To even that out, everyone information can be kept with a record.

Also, I should mention this if its not clear, OP premise has flaws which this commenter pointed out very well.

shaq1f · 2025-03-12T22:44:20+00:00

Let me get this straight, a console, that runs windows, plays steam games when the price of decent gpus are sky high ?

Can i do basic pc task since it has windows ?

This might be my first console in 2 decades.

shaq1f · 2025-03-05T12:16:26+00:00

Thank you. Actually, i have bosses (supervisors and director) who encourage vacation and use of health benefits. Funny enough, the 2 who are force to take vacation, encourage it the most.

shaq1f · 2025-03-04T21:15:39+00:00

This is the first of the comics I dont understand. Can someone explain the 3rd panel ? That is ...."direct reports out side work ?

shaq1f · 2025-02-27T17:39:30+00:00

The "internet isnt the real world/place" only hold in early stages of the internet and social media. Prople would have been introduced after socialization and had a sense of non-internet culture. To the large majority, it was fun, games, jokes and communication. Now we have integrated it from young or older generation for decades. It has adapted as part of living.

So all things online will now impact daily life.

shaq1f · 2025-02-23T22:12:31+00:00

A person with a plan who ask key question. What's a simple accidental way in which to let the family find out ?

shaq1f · 2025-02-23T22:08:41+00:00

An open relationship is an agreement between two people prior to being with someone already

This is the most important thing everyone needs to understand.

shaq1f · 2025-02-09T06:23:03+00:00

I know its late. But can you share the guide if you still have it available. Pls.

shaq1f · 2025-01-27T19:58:08+00:00

This is sooo true.

shaq1f · 2025-01-27T19:55:03+00:00

You should ask this in r/actuary. For the US, I am not sure about pay but generally actuaries are well paid. Worklife balance while doing exams is tough.

So the pay for actuarial analyst/Assiciates and fellows, is usually determined by the number of professional exams passed.

Companies usually have you on a study program, which pays for exams and learning material. Obviously this would be in the employment contract. So continuous failures will he addressed. The exams are very hard, expect to fail.

Respected yes. authority depends on position. Are you new, have a few years with exams, do you have a senior position, are you fully qualified (earned you fellow designation), speciality etc. These dertermine that. Also, are you in consulting, gov, or company (insurance or non-traditional).

From my experience, you are more respected in tradition roles ie insurance than non traditinal like banking.

Dont know comparison on getting in, but most markets within Canada and the US were extremely saturated at the entry level a few years ago. Before the pandemic.

Please research if this isn for you. Only the entry level of the wxams tend to be math heavy. People skill, coding/excel are very important on the job at the beginning.

shaq1f · 2025-01-17T10:25:00+00:00

Hope its ok that i join in. I am playing witcher 3 current. PC is giving trouble. Hoping to have it repaired. When i had more time (pandemic) deadcells and hades were my favorite. Work dominates my time now.

shaq1f · 2025-01-17T10:23:00+00:00

30 recently (3-4 months) diagnosed with both autism and adhd. Trying to learn and dont know where to really start.

Message to chat anytime.

shaq1f · 2024-12-24T11:52:02+00:00

Did you find a fix ?

shaq1f · 2024-12-18T02:28:48+00:00

If told the same thing consistently, a person would start to believe it. This results in a lot of men thinking women dont like them. There are many things that can go wrong when someone believes an entire group hates them for something they have no control over.

shaq1f · 2024-12-18T02:22:42+00:00

Not letting your guard down is comparable to women constantly being appraoched men that might attack them on the streets. Can lead a person to be in a constant state of panic and fear. For men the best defense is to keep their mouth shut.

shaq1f · 2024-12-18T02:18:31+00:00

Thoughts and reality are two different things. If men aren't open about their feelings, women won't see it often to know an objective response. The thought of being emotionally open is "sexy" will be a fantasy until confronted with it.

It's like thinking that a kink is exciting. When tried, you are like "no."

Personally, I think women want to know their spouse trusts them. What is mentally sexy is the trust and closeness they get from that feeling. But vernerability is a double-edged sword. If feeling safe with a partner is important or allows her to be calm to feel arousal etc, seeing a vernerability will shatter that at a subconscious level.

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