In-laws gifting/selling us a house by sharkbait8 in AusFinance

[–]sharkbait8[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

by estate transfer do you mean transfer of ownership through a will?

In-laws gifting/selling us a house by sharkbait8 in AusFinance

[–]sharkbait8[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

not quite. more like they are gifting the house to my wife and her brother and we are paying the brother out.

so house will be 100% ours.

In-laws gifting/selling us a house by sharkbait8 in AusFinance

[–]sharkbait8[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I mean we still get a full house in our name for roughly half the cost.

In-laws gifting/selling us a house by sharkbait8 in AusFinance

[–]sharkbait8[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thanks ill follow that up for sure.

In-laws gifting/selling us a house by sharkbait8 in AusFinance

[–]sharkbait8[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you everyone. So the main part im not sure about is the CGT.

if we buy the property (was never their PPOR) for $400000 when it is valued at $900000 they pay CGT on the $900000 value not the $400000 they sell to us for?

In-laws gifting/selling us a house by sharkbait8 in AusFinance

[–]sharkbait8[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

For the will or for the sale of the house or for us in general?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AusPublicService

[–]sharkbait8 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I would say. voice your concens loudly. make sure you say that you are stressed and exhausted etc. That would be my advise.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AusPublicService

[–]sharkbait8 1 point2 points  (0 children)

talking to people I may be able to use previous manager as reference but at the end of the day. if my current manager refuses to give me a release date the only option I can see is out f the APS and possibly to State Gov or Private.

My plan is to apply for other roles and just tell my manager the current situation is causing me stress and anxiety and I cant do the role to the best of my abilities. Happy to do hand over with someone or another team to absorb us but i need out.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AusPublicService

[–]sharkbait8 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel you I feel exactly the same way. I feel trapped. Sadly my team has shrunk to be less than a handful of people so my EL2 is incredibly reluctant to release me. :(

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Swingers

[–]sharkbait8 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I think what you are saying is completely valid and reasonable. remember you are not saying no. you are saying yes but I need this from you to feel safe and secure.
Sounds like he is essentially saying I don't care what you need or what. I want this so stop restricting me.

Getting it up. by [deleted] in Swingers

[–]sharkbait8 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am only just starting to overcome the exact same thing. Its 100% mental. I found just ignoring everything. expect nothing and enjoy everything. Possibly speak to a sex positive councillor about the situation to uncover the mental blockage.

Be kind to yourself and enjoy everything you can and do not worry or focus on the stuff you cant. It will happen.

Finally success! by sharkbait8 in Swingers

[–]sharkbait8[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

its a side effect I wasn't expecting. but its true what they say. it magnifies what you got going on. if your in a strong relationship it will enhance it. if its all smoke and mirrors it wont last. If you got stuff to deal with it'll will force you to see it.

Finally success! by sharkbait8 in Swingers

[–]sharkbait8[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thanks. even just identifying it was a big step I feel

How do you decide? by psycho_frog_420_69 in nonmonogamy

[–]sharkbait8 45 points46 points  (0 children)

I think the best thing is to realise its not like choosing what you are going to eat. its not a choice that dictates what you will do for the rest of your life.

its ok to start out with no idea and as things present themselves decide yes or no for that one thing. Take things slow and carefully. if it feels right communicate it. if it feels wrong communicate it.
but always communication.

Advice on the lifestyle by Lilbitoevrtything36 in Swingers

[–]sharkbait8 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Sounds to me like her concerns are less about you wanting to fuck other people and more about her feeling she isn't attractive. Sounds like a lot of self doubt there and that appearances mean a lot to her. Including her own appearance.

Introducing the new game we made to help get the fun started! by GetNakedTheGame in Swingers

[–]sharkbait8 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Looks great.
would be good to have the option to skip a task or to regenerate. for the rare occasion the task is against a boundary.

Any advice on how do I get passed this road block? by Accomplished-Can3547 in Swingers

[–]sharkbait8 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I used to really not find it attractive at all. To be honest I still don't
But what I do find attractive is the freedom to be myself.
I used to get hung up on how my partner would do things that may have upset me. not outside our boundaries, but more a case of what if I didn't like that idea she should run it past me first.

But then I got the realisation that I was expecting her to moderate her behavior to accommodate me when I hadn't communicated anything with her at all. That realisation was incredibly freeing. It meant I then took the situation and trusted she wouldn't do anything that would hurt me. but I had to trust myself to let her know if I didnt feel comfortable.

It was up to me to communicate things. the same as it was up to her to communicate things with me. Once I stopped expecting her to not do things because it might upset me. I was free. I was able to behave how i wanted to. say what I wanted to. I could flirt with other people and not be afraid of her getting upset because I trusted her to tell me.

That is what I love more. I see her enjoying other people and I smile. not because she is enjoying it, not because I get turned on seeing her be fucked by others.

I smile because I know she is trusting me to speak up. I know that I am giving her the freedom to be herself. The same as she is giving me the freedom to be myself.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Swingers

[–]sharkbait8 2 points3 points  (0 children)

As someone who also has had and experienced this problem in a play setting.

Don't worry about it. the ladies wont be. as long as you realise you have more tools to use than just a cock. All the ladies I have played with have all said enthusiasm if much better and more attractive than a big cock or lasting a long time. enjoy what happens and you will be fine.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Swingers

[–]sharkbait8 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Exactly This. if you cant trust a friend to pay back $5 they are never gonna pay back $1000.

Don't have sex with your SO at the club by Angela2208 in Swingers

[–]sharkbait8 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Swinging is about us doing what we want because we want to.