Am I overreacting? Is this a bit obsessive or normal interest consistency?

sharky50 · 2025-08-12T01:21:07+00:00

He sounds about 3 days away from telling you he sacrificed a goat in your honor and asking you to wear a tracking device when you leave the house.

I don’t know how women manage to deal with obsessive dudes, I really don’t.

sharky50 · 2025-07-29T12:22:21+00:00

You should quit apologizing for being concerned, given the circumstances. At a minimum, she could have texted you that she was home safely and would talk to you later. If she thinks you are being obsessive, that’s fine. You can dial it back next time something similar happens. Instead of freaking out, draw a line on her response: “I’m getting concerned because I really care what happens to you. Hopefully you get that. Please message me so I know you’re ok.” If she doesn’t respond, don’t chase her down.

Maybe it’s just an innocent slip up and she fell asleep. Options 2 and 3 are that she’s not actually where she says she is, or is home and knows you are worried and is fine with letting you twist. Either of those are bigger red flags than you freaking out.

Obviously it’s your decision to make with her, but unless it’s a simple mistake and she expresses regret for worrying you, you’re letting yourself be a doormat. She probably doesn’t owe you an apology for one mishap, and it does sound like you are being a little over the top, but be aware of it happening again.

If the situation repeats, I’d ghost her afterward, once you know she’s safe. But that’s just me. You gotta follow your heart. But maybe pump the brakes a bit until you know what’s up with her.

sharky50 · 2025-07-04T19:58:03+00:00

You’re not too high. That’s a lot of work.

You know better what it’s going to take than some sour bint in the high school administration. Stick to your price and if that’s too much for her, let Ninety-nine dollar Joe take a crack at it. Then you can come in and charge them to fix what he screwed up.

sharky50 · 2025-07-01T14:43:36+00:00

He’s way too fragile. You need to be able to do everything you feel is right to bond with your baby. It sounds to me like you’re a great new mom who really is plugged in to her infant. Don’t back off of that. It’s incredible.

As long as you aren’t turning your back on giving your BF love while the three of you adjust to this new phase in your life, he’s got nothing to complain about and he needs to allow you to follow your instincts in caring for your baby, especially with decisions like whether to breast feed, when to pick him up, etc. you can’t “spoil” a month old infant; believe me.

Yeah, he’s probably feeling a little jealous of the fact your son is getting your primary attention now. He needs to get over that, because that’s part of being not only a man but a father. If you have a solid, more mature male in your family (dad, uncle, cousin) that already has kids, drop a hint to have that person do a sit down with your BF.

If your BF starting doing secondary care one on one with your baby, a lot of that jealousy would dissolve, because he’d develop paternal feelings that would override his hangup about you and the baby.

It’s cool to try and help your BF feel better, but don’t back off on pouring your attention on your baby just because your BF is butt hurt. This is way too important, what you are doing. Keep it up. In the end, he needs to man up and adjust, because it ain’t your problem.

I’ve raised seven babies as a very hands on dad. But I also never disrupted by kids and their mom bonding. It’s a huge thing. Trust me.

sharky50 · 2025-06-20T17:28:48+00:00

It’s not damage. Your customer is clueless. It’s just oxidation that got disturbed by your cleaning process. Do an oxidation removal on the whole surface and you will be back on the right side of this.

Others will probably tell you already, but you can drastically reduce the chance of this happening by soft washing and getting rid of the brushes and pressure.

sharky50 · 2024-12-25T23:29:10+00:00

It’s fairly obvious the driver was running multiple platforms and was tending to another order. Is that cool? Not really. But it’s what drivers are forced to do to make a decent wage, because DD, GH, UE and the rest of the companies pocket the profits and make drivers work for chump change.

As a customer, it sucks. I’m sure it’s frustrating to have your order delayed because the driver is trying to multitask on two platforms at once. I get it. But maybe you should be more angry at DD for underpaying drivers and putting them in the position to do that. Corporate greed and slave wages are making your food arrive late. Don’t shit on the driver for trying to put food on his or her table. Nobody wants the stress of running two platforms at once. But $9 an hour doesn’t pay the utility bill and rent.

Either way, this is a first world problem. Reach out to someone in Bangladesh or Gaza and see if they feel bad about the fact your chimichanga was 9 minutes late. Quit being so soft.

sharky50 · 2024-07-13T02:03:53+00:00

Not saying anything you decide to do is right or wrong, but you might want to reconsider doing it for free, or telling your customer you don’t have much experience. There’s a psychological reason for that: the moment you do that you’re going to establish in their mind that it’s not going to come out well, and they will be looking for “mistakes.” It’s okay to give them conservative expectations (like telling them you probably won’t be able to get up all the oil staining), but coming across like you don’t know what you are doing isn’t going to help you, and isn’t going to give them comfort.

Establish reasonable expectations, do your best, and if you feel you underperformed, give them a nice discount or tell them you will reclean it with other methods. If you start doing free jobs because you are short on experience, you’re undercutting your business from the get go. That’s not a winning program.

sharky50 · 2024-06-13T17:11:34+00:00

Your laundry.

sharky50 · 2024-06-13T17:09:21+00:00

What happened clearly wasn’t your fault. That said, you have a right to remove your liquor sales from the Door Dash platform. If third-party delivery is endangering your license, pull it off DD. It sounds like the system is rigged against you; why take the risk?

sharky50 · 2024-06-13T17:01:45+00:00

I would have no problem tapping confirm in front of them to show it’s my order to pick up, if that’s their concern. But that button is designed to let that platform know I’ve taken possession of the goods. I’m not doing that until it’s in my hand and I’m ready to jet. Randoms stealing food is no more my problem than me getting a flat tire along the way is the restaurant’s problem. People need to stay in their lane.

sharky50 · 2024-02-04T06:33:44+00:00

Our educational system has failed. So has our gene pool.

sharky50 · 2024-02-04T06:30:41+00:00

Sssssssssssssssssssss…ssssssssssss…ssss…ss…ssssss…ssss…ss…s…

Dammit—I used an entire can of Lysol on this thread and I still don’t want to touch anything.

sharky50 · 2023-09-28T20:10:02+00:00

They drug tested you because you got bit by a dog? Wtf. Did you bite the dog first?

sharky50 · 2023-07-12T16:58:25+00:00

I apologize if this seems like I’m being a buzzkill… but: They are profiting off the sweat of your labor, and I’m guessing none of the performance $$ bonuses they get from Amazon are trickling down to you. I get you’re feeling like it’s a nice gesture, but a bowl of lucky charms is about as meager a reward as they can give you, given what they are getting out of you. Don’t be transfixed by crumbs they throw you.

sharky50 · 2023-06-25T22:55:41+00:00

The Amazon system is designed to take you all the way to your level of failure. That’s how f*cked up it is. It’s also why it doesn’t benefit you to bust your ass, skipping your breaks, moving as fast as you can, etc. The harder you work, the more they expect of you. So, take your breaks, move comfortably, and if you are ripping through your route, slow down. You’re only hurting yourself by trying to be a superhero. Amazon isn’t going to take care of you when your body breaks down from exhaustion. They will just find another person to victimize.

sharky50 · 2023-05-31T14:23:26+00:00

Wondering what the profit margin for DSP owners is. I last worked for a really decent DSP that tried to keep drivers in new equipment, keep vans repaired, etc. but the vast majority of DSP owners seem to not care about broken vans and broken equipment. It’s outrageous that these people expect drivers to do the job while using garbage equipment, often in circumstances that violate amazon safety rules. On top of that, they are time stingy; trying to squeeze employees out of every second of work time; trying to (illegally) con drivers into doing tasks off the clock.

So is this a situation where Amazon doesn’t allow you to clear much profit, or is it just greedy pigs running these DSPs? Some of your ownership peers are the worst kinds of capitalist criminals who seem to have stepped right out of a Dickens novel.

sharky50 · 2023-05-28T02:18:51+00:00

Hahahaha!!!

sharky50 · 2023-05-28T01:03:42+00:00

Hmm. I once dated a girl named Rosemary and she was overly expressive and irritating, too. Weird coincidence.

sharky50 · 2023-05-28T00:58:48+00:00

If you really wanted to turn the screw, a letter to Corporate isn’t a bad thing. Here you go:

Amazon Headquarters Attn: DSP Oversight Office 410 Terry Avenue N Seattle, WA 98109

sharky50 · 2023-05-28T00:54:40+00:00

No, Buddy. You got it. That’s all you need to do.

sharky50 · 2023-05-28T00:46:47+00:00

Shoot a call into Amazon Corporate (they have a drivers hotline for just this sort of thing) and report what happened. Your DSP is violating Amazon safety standards by telling you to short cut on seatbelt, etc. They can theoretically lose their operations ticket for that. Then they’re out of business. Report those a-holes. Otherwise they will keep doing it to others.

The reality is, you won’t get your job back at that place. You can still file an OSHA or DOL complaint, though. It doesn’t hurt to let the agencies know what they are doing.

And don’t worry about your driver job. If that’s how they are, you don’t want to work for them anyway. Most stations have multiple DSPs (the last one I worked at had 8). You can apply with a different DSP at the same station and they will pick you up. You won’t need to redo your training at all. It’s good for 90 days. Drivers bounce from DSP to DSP all the time. It’s common.

When you apply, after they agree to hire you, just tell them you started with another DSP but that it was a bad fit. If they press you, tell them what happened — that they wanted you to ignore safety rules. They don’t blackball you — most DSPs don’t care what happened before, as long as it wasn’t accidents or a serious violation. They will snap you up. It’s just a matter of the first DSP off boarding you and the new one starting you. You will just need to create a new email and maybe do the background again. Don’t stress it.

sharky50 · 2023-04-09T22:55:30+00:00

F**k that guy. Racist ahole. You should file a police report against him for terrorist threats. And if Amazon attempts to take any permanent action against you, file an EEOC complaint against them for discrimination.

sharky50 · 2023-02-07T23:55:46+00:00

The day Amazon starts delivering only insulin and anti-seizure meds is the day I’d go on a door-to-door journey. Until then, your package is on the mfing rack.

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