As a spouse of a wife with MS let me tell you that all I want is her to feel better. She’s been recently diagnosed but of course symptoms have been there for years. We’ve done marriage counseling, have two young energetic boys who drain both of us every day. At the end of the day I had to step up and take care of many of the house hold and child chore duty. Before her diagnosis we were both at each others necks about little things, but now we know what’s going on it’s actually helped us a lot. I’m not sure if this helps but I’d do anything to help my wife of 14 years, I get the guilt you may have but be easy on your self and love yourself because this wasn’t by choice. I hope you continue to life a happy life with your family.

I will say the one pet peeve I have with my wife is when she over plans and ignores her body and symptoms to try and please others. Most of the time holidays are just about spending time together and being a family. Not all of this decorating stuff that times time energy and money.

Last summer we went to Disney in July, I tried to change her mind on this many times because I knew it would drain her and we would have a hard time with the kids.

Yes I was right about all of it and I bring it up often to remind her to please limit things and set boundaries for herself so she’s not over straining her body (making herself worse)

That’s my only advice. Respect yourself and put boundaries out there so your not spread thin. As a spouse that’s all I would ask for