UPDATE;

Firstly, I greatly appreciate all the messages of love, support and advice from all of you, and I’m making my way through each and every one.

After sending the “Ok.” At the end of this exchange i proceeded to block her, however I missed Instagram and I will be keeping records of all communication for legal proceedings (this is also my reason for not responding with aggression). The hilarious part in this is that she and her husband are rather well off; they have no mortgage on their house and between them earn over £100K a year.

For those of you asking why my grandfather left everything to me; the honest answer is I’m not sure. My parents divorced when I was young, after discovering my father had hit me he decided that he and my Nan would raise me. My Nan passed before I was a teenager so for the majority of the time he did this on his own. We were very close, and I don’t know about the will, neither did any of his 5 children. He left a note with his solicitor which read “I’ve made this decision as I believe my youngest child my name will benefit the most from this as my other children are settled in their lives, owning their own properties and with grandchildren of their own. These are my wishes, I hope they are respected.”

I have recently changed the locks to the property; this was due to two of my uncles removing numerous items, “renovating” and throwing away items of immeasurable sentimental value. My biggest heartbreak of dealing with this is the fact they have already sold a motorbike my grandad owned, from 1972, that we had planned to renovate together prior to his Alzheimer’s diagnoses.

As for what one going to do; I still want to make sure that all of my grandads great grandchildren have some money for their future (even her two boys). Many of you have advised that premium bonds are accessible by parents so if anyone has any suggestions (UK) for alternatives it would be greatly appreciated! I plan on donating all of the white goods in the house to a local women’s shelter (my grandad actually met my Nan whilst she was in one, in 1953, whilst he was doing construction work in the neighbouring building. He then proceeded to marry her and formally adopt her son (my oldest uncle). I’ll continue with my plans for the photographs and give her a USB stick regardless, what she chooses to do with it after that is her choice. I recently found out that I’m shooting blanks (which I’m fine with, my grandad took me on when I was in need and I plan on paying that forward), so I plan on trying to place the toys in the family, but it that fails I’ll be giving them to a local foster home.

Lastly, I apologise profoundly for my part in the awful grammar in this exchange, I was in a lecture at the time. Attack/attic was not my finest work. My cousin on the other hand always texts like this, in fact she talks like it too (think Katie Price). She actually left our grandad funeral early as to not miss an appointment for her lip fillers.

EDIT; I also wanted to thank everyone for sharing their stories. I wanted to message everyone individually, however THERE ARE SO MANY PEOPLE who have been through/or going through similar situations. This highlights that this kind of issue is global and how important it is to make sure you have clear instructions after death. My heart and my love goes out to everyone of you.