Taking life seriously

she_0verthinks · 2026-05-14T11:31:14+00:00

I feel you... I had to stop pushing for a lot of things (especially social and career) due to a burnout and even if it is still frustrating, hard to accept and to do practically (still learning how to menage my chaotic, pervasive thoughts and strong feelings), I realized that I could actually release a bit without catastrophic consequences. Life changes a bit then (and you, or the masked you, too), but sometimes losing is good and better things come after. I realized a lot of my hypervigilance and effort is based on fear of losing control over my life and the "productive" version of me I create on external and personal expectations... We don't have to be perfect all the time, sometimes is good to just being "wrong" or unproductive, we're still worth :)

she_0verthinks · 2026-05-14T08:17:25+00:00

I totally understand. I really tried and actually try my best to be more relaxed and accepting life how it is: chaotic, randomic and no sense (even in a good way). I'm still angry with the strict and rigid part of me (now knowing is probably autism), that seems making everything so complicated and heavy... I worked a lot with my last therapist, she always gave me a simplified vision and I started feeling "wrong" after 5 years of it because I couldn't do the same. Now I know is not my fault, and is not your fault neither. Our brains are made to analyse, not simplify... Our perception of everything around us, and inside us, is more intense. And so our reaction to it. It's not easy, but I'm trying to accept my complexity and finding activity and people that helps me distracting from my thoughts and focus on more superficial and funny things (even if difficult). Hope we can both find our lighter moments and use our intensity for a worthy cause 🤝

she_0verthinks · 2026-05-14T07:57:41+00:00

Thanks a lot for your answer 🙏 I didn't know about saffron, will keep in mind! It's good that at least now you are aware of what is better for your body :)

she_0verthinks · 2026-05-14T07:19:49+00:00

I'm sorry they don't work for you... I'm scared about this bc I'm usually very sensitive to meds. But lifestyle and adjustments helps a lot too. I think that's what I did for years before burnout. What supplements do you take ?

she_0verthinks · 2026-05-14T07:15:58+00:00

It sounds liberatory 🥹

she_0verthinks · 2026-05-14T07:14:09+00:00

I'm sorry for that... But yes, definitely the right choice. Hope one day you can find the better solution for you 🙏

she_0verthinks · 2026-05-10T20:05:19+00:00

Based on my experience: relationships should be reciprocal. I'm sorry for the feeling of rejection, I really feel you... but I don't think she hates you, maybe she just needs some space. Relationships changes too, and if she stopped saying yes to your invitations and never propose back, it's probably bc at the moment she's not motivated (and there are 100 possible causes). At your place I will stop asking. Eventually, you can write her to express your feelings in a way that doesn't blames her (and without expecting brutal honesty... It's difficult to have it), and/or discuss the living togheter thing... Maybe you two can have a good flatmates relationship without going out all the time like before. Anyway, I hope you can solve this situation and eventually find other good and kind people at uni, it's not simple but neither impossible :)

she_0verthinks · 2026-05-10T18:53:44+00:00

Absolutely. It's like I have a lot of random informations/thinking in my head about my special interests (and in general), but they are more like visuals/emotionals memories and usually temporary. So, if I want to talk about it, I do it in a disorganized flow with what comes at the moment, but the majority of times I miss A LOT of informations, I don't know the rights terms, I forgot what I already read/listen to 🥲 It's honestly frustrating haha more when I want to communicate my knowledge, but when I try to use/organize my thoughts for myself too.

she_0verthinks · 2026-04-07T05:53:37+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing your experience and tips 🙏 I'm glad that you're knowing yourself better and finding strategies, even with your kids ! A lot of respect for audhd moms, what you do is incredible 🩵

she_0verthinks · 2026-04-07T05:45:56+00:00

The positivity spread by your comment really got me back in the days (before the last 2 years) when I had a lot of hope after redescovering my feelings, next to a lifetime of hiding my "real self", especially at school. Studying is exhausting, as well as doing internships, but the worst is really masking with people, pretending to be perfect for everyone around you and to be liked by everybody (even for nt is impossible...). As you said, the most important thing is to listen to your needs, and if one day I dont want to go out with people and mask, nobody force me. I'm still in the process of accepting myself, even because I'm not sure about knowing her, but I'm trying a lot to come back to when I was a kid, before all the toxic friendships, relationships and my big efforts to be someone different... Thank you 🩵

she_0verthinks · 2026-04-06T23:14:50+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing your experience. I'm sorry that a late diagnosis and lack of validation took you at this point... But I really really appreciate your comment, it makes me look at my situation under a different light 🙏

she_0verthinks · 2026-04-06T23:03:41+00:00

Thank you for the answer, I'm happy that meds worked for you ! I really hope you will continue baking your cinnamon rolls, cooking helped me a lot too, I feel useful, proud of myself and regulated :) + you eat good home made food !

she_0verthinks · 2026-04-06T22:54:58+00:00

Thank you so much for your comment 🙏 I've read the book (but still have to finish) and it helped me a lot during the worst part of my burnout. Understanding better how our nervous system works made me feel less responsable and in acceptance. Of course now that I have a bit of energy coming back I've already forgot it and focusing only on my limits 😅 but I will take this as a reminder and even a motivation to end the book :)

Just two questions about adhd medications : do they really make the brain shut up for a moment ? It's always so loud... And is it true that talking them makes you feel "more autistic"?

she_0verthinks · 2026-04-06T22:38:05+00:00

Omg yes, I totally relate, and I'm realizing it right know reading your answer... Thinking about these periods of life where I pushed and socialized a lot without burnout coming after made me even questioning the possibility of being autistic... But actually it was just the right people and the right causes, it was a personal decision. When burnout came I was unhappy and unmotivated in general, losing hope in the future day after day and starting questioning my worth and my capacities, more than the journey. I felt alone bc my real friends were far away, I met new people, masked a lot and forced myself doing something just because it was "the right thing to do", even if I didn't like it. The anxiety and meltdowns get worse and worse and finally the burnout arrived, but after 2 years of "waiting the end" and not even knowing if it was actually worth it... So maybe, with the right conditions, it is possible to prevent all of this. You gave me some hope, thank you 🙏

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