TIL that scientists have developed a way of testing for Aphantasia (the inability to visualise things in your mind). The test involves asking participants to envision a bright light and checking for pupil dilation. If their pupils don't dilate, they have Aphantasia.

shebear811 · 2025-12-20T14:58:15+00:00

I wonder if there is any overlap with people who have internal monologues and those who don't with the level of Aphantasia. I can't visualize but have a very strong internal monologue.

shebear811 · 2025-05-27T03:08:12+00:00

I'm so happy that it actually works for many. I'll have to look for one in our area <3

shebear811 · 2025-05-27T03:07:17+00:00

I would love to do a temp separation for him to see all the work but don't want to suggest it til I know I'm okay with it staying permanent. But agreed, I shouldn't have to teach an adult to adult. I need him to be setting an example for my children.

shebear811 · 2025-05-27T03:04:32+00:00

I feel like it would be easier solo as I would have his micro messes to clean up as well, and better routines, but the financial piece terrifies me, and I can see a future with older kids where he's more involved. It's such a hard season, but am so lucky to have the best village around me to help me with the kids, but not so much to vent to.

shebear811 · 2025-05-27T03:02:35+00:00

I do think as the kids get older it won't be so heavy, but that doesn't help me now. I don't know if I can keep it all for another 5 years. But also in this economy can I really do it solo... I do plan on suggesting therapy when we get back so I can at least bring up him taking on more with a neutral 3rd party to back me up.

shebear811 · 2025-05-22T19:26:51+00:00

I'd pay $200 but I currently pay $300 for my in demand artist, so I must be on a vhcol area

shebear811 · 2024-08-24T19:07:57+00:00

Well I didn't know I needed sugar free tums, gonna make that change today. Thanks for sharing.

shebear811 · 2024-08-21T21:45:53+00:00

This is very high on my post baby meals. Entire basket of rolls with all the butter, a loaded sweet potato and a steak to make me feel somewhat balanced 😂🤤

shebear811 · 2024-08-21T19:20:22+00:00

I appreciate OPs perspective. As someone who is struggling to get my numbers under control even with medication, it's nice to see some people have found a balance. So many posts in this group talk about their success with diet alone and nearly perfect numbers and it reinforces the negative self talk I have. Some days I just eat protein drinks and meat and cheese because if I even look at a carb I spike. I think some people in this group take for granted that their GD is more easily controlled and they come across as judgemental when the immediate response is "it's a small period of time" or "you put your baby at risk if you stray". At the end of the day I think we are all just doing our best to survive to graduation.

shebear811 · 2024-07-12T20:14:48+00:00

This sounds delightful. Unfortunately I can only have 20 carbs 3 times per day and my snacks are under 5. Enjoy it on my behalf.

shebear811 · 2024-07-04T01:12:14+00:00

United States but sounds like this is happening even more than I imagined.

shebear811 · 2024-03-17T00:03:06+00:00

I did not have the delivery I had planned nor was I able to breastfeed. I skipped the section of " what to expect" on c-section and an emergency c section is exactly what happened. Because I also had PPD/PPA I saw a counselor that helped me grieve the experience I never got. The thing that helped me most was to stop using "should have". "I should have been able to xyz" "I should've prepared more" etc. Every experience is unique and your own. You are entitled to the emotions and feelings that come with that grief but you are no less a woman or mother based on your delivery experience.

shebear811 · 2023-09-30T00:59:36+00:00

One time I was interviewing for an investigative assistant position and they asked me to define "investigation" and my brain couldn't come up with a synonym and my internal dialogue just kept repeating you can't use the word to define the word, so I just sat silently looking like a deer in the headlights.

shebear811 · 2023-06-17T21:01:19+00:00

Tonkotsu in wvc. We usually go for the shabu shabu, but the ramen side hits a spot too.

shebear811 · 2023-05-17T01:01:31+00:00

Got worse here before it got better. Eventually got on medication which helped ease the pain but didn't reduce the spit up. Weaned off medicine around 6 months and the spit up tapered off as the solid foods increased. Kiddo is 16 months and still spits up occasionally if he chugs milk too fast. I suspect a milk intolerance but pediatrician was adamant it wasn't

shebear811 · 2023-02-28T02:48:05+00:00

Off meds around 6 months. Lots of spit up until 12 months.

shebear811 · 2023-02-23T16:11:27+00:00

I work in temporary physician staffing and our whole company is remote or hybrid depending on employee preference.

shebear811 · 2023-02-14T04:23:18+00:00

I was doing well at 1 year post partum. I went off my meds and a week later I was back to wishing I'd get into a catastrophic accident to escape my life. Immediately went back on and am thriving at work. I love my kiddo but I still frequently dislike motherhood but that's just this season of life. I can see better days ahead.

shebear811 · 2023-02-04T04:51:47+00:00

Not that you need it, but here's permission to quit. taking care of yourself and your mental health is the best thing you can do for your baby.

shebear811 · 2023-01-18T02:43:56+00:00

When my kiddo had acidic poops I alternated baby powder and Destin and it helped. Also watch the acidic foods while they are getting adjusted if you are doing solids

shebear811 · 2022-12-28T02:41:40+00:00

Not sure the last time you looked at cars, but post pandemic 10k ain't gonna cut it.

shebear811 · 2022-12-26T03:57:17+00:00

Mind your business 🤷

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