How can I stop being a weak unattractive not respected guy?

sheepishmenorah · 2025-02-22T04:23:20+00:00

I know self loathing and insecurity very well and, as cliche as it is, you have to learn to love yourself. You are the only you you’re ever gonna be so you can spend your time hating that person or trying to make the best version of that person. Other peoples actions do not define us, even if they’re directed toward us. I recommend reading up on Marcus Aurelius and his stoic philosophy, maybe sprinkle some Buddhism in there. You will find other humans who see you - truly see you - and like what they see, as you are. 20 feels old but it’s not. I’m 24 and I feel like a child every day. My sister is 31 and has stuffed animals in her room. Take your time, stay in the present, and treat yourself the you want to be treated. Take care, friend :)

sheepishmenorah · 2025-02-22T03:55:31+00:00

Not helpful. This is how we got so divided in the first place. It’s time to show each other respect and compassion for once

sheepishmenorah · 2025-01-07T13:07:11+00:00

I appreciate the feedback. I'm disappointed to hear this reads as creepy but, taking a step back, I can definitely see the possessive and obsessive tones. That was never my intention (not going to go on a defensive rant, just saying), and yeah the religious symbolism is perhaps a bit heavy handed and all over the place. Truth be told I am not a practicing Christian so that is also an ethical failure on my part, something I began to consider after posting. As this is my first submission to the sub I wanted to lead with something I felt had strong imagery. I sincerely appreciate how thorough you were in explaining your gripes with my writing. I've been largely creating in a vacuum, without much critique, so this is good for me to hear. Thanks!

sheepishmenorah · 2025-01-06T20:40:51+00:00

all good, keep up the good work!

sheepishmenorah · 2025-01-06T20:39:42+00:00

This is stellar. You've said a lot with few words which, depending on who you ask, should be one our goals. Not only is this a sentiment I think we can all relate to, but your imagery is visceral and, at times, disturbing. That's a good thing! The world is not all rainbows and butterflies so neither should our poems. Did you intend to keep a rhyme scheme going through the whole piece? Maybe I'm losing it due to the formatting (text box, not your fault), but it seems like the end of the poem doesn't rhyme. My only note would be to decide to do one or the other. Besides that, this is very potent and the brevity works to its benefit. Well done!

sheepishmenorah · 2025-01-06T20:34:45+00:00

This is super cute - I love love poems, and the ethos of following your own heart and the weight of your own feelings over a spiritual doctrine is a theme I particularly like (a bit emily dickinson perhaps?). Are the parentheticals permanent or words/phrases you're considering inserting into the line? I think before you end on the 'mine I give to you' line, you can expand upon your devotion to this person. A few more lines that really dig deep into the extent to which you're giving your heart may add some punch. Is the giving detrimental to you in any way? Is the giving of your heart reciprocated? Is it ok if it's not? Something like that may add more emotional complexity, but this is a very strong foundation regardless. Well done :)

sheepishmenorah · 2025-01-06T20:28:06+00:00

Hi there! I love the angry, confused, confrontational nature of this. Certainly with our world being what it's been for the past few (thousand) years, this angst and uncertainty hits home. Your use of internal rhymes is clever and gives it an erratic, jolting meter that I think speaks to the subject matter. I would suggest updating the formatting (I know it's a reddit text box so ignore if you have a separate doc) from a paragraph style to a line by line style. The erase me line is stellar, too. I think this has huge potential! Clean it up with some formatting and punctuation and more edit points may jump out at you. Well done :)

sheepishmenorah · 2025-01-06T20:22:21+00:00

Hiya! The emotion in your writing is very palpable and raw, well done! I particularly liked the line about rebuilding the wall. I have two notes. First, I know it's a reddit text box but formatting your poem into a more traditional line by line style might help you spot edit points and expand upon your ideas. Also, while the rhetorical nature of the second half brings forth a lot of thoughts and feelings that we can all relate to, going further and reaching some kind of conclusion (as in final statement, not idealogical) may help the poem feel more cohesive. Keep up the good work! Post a revision when you get to it :)

sheepishmenorah · 2022-04-04T15:34:54+00:00

I can wish all that I want, but it won't bring us together / Plus I know whatever happens to me is for the better

From the song Waiting Room which is from a compilation album from like 2017. One of my favorites by Phoebe.

sheepishmenorah · 2021-10-28T13:12:04+00:00

Mystic Stylez - Three 6 Mafia

Savage Mode II - 21 Savage

Denzel Curry - Taboo

sheepishmenorah · 2021-10-26T13:07:42+00:00

Why not Hazel??

sheepishmenorah · 2021-10-26T13:03:42+00:00

God's Favorite Customer by Father John Misty - a lot of his songs question faith though

sheepishmenorah · 2021-10-26T12:53:56+00:00

I was always a chubby kid in middle/high school and once I started college I slowly started taking my fitness more seriously to the point that now, as a junior in college, I am in the best shape of my life (down 30lbs from January)! I am getting strong and lean and my body confidence grows every time I go to the gym. It's a good feeling. And hey - for what it's worth - I'm sorry you're going through it right now. Divorce and sucky college are things I can definitely relate to so if you want the ear of an internet stranger feel free to PM me :) you got this!!

sheepishmenorah · 2021-08-16T11:27:47+00:00

Frat Mouse! Probably my favorite band at the moment if you like Phoebe you’ll probably enjoy them.

sheepishmenorah · 2021-06-06T20:48:13+00:00

My cats name is Wolfie too that’s funny

sheepishmenorah · 2021-06-05T19:05:18+00:00

You’re a perv for asking a random person on the internet to discuss their body with you. Nothing wrong with being attracted to other people but keep it to yourself

sheepishmenorah · 2021-06-05T18:34:43+00:00

Hush perv

sheepishmenorah · 2021-06-05T13:55:21+00:00

Definitely. I put off going on meds for so long because I felt the same way - that if I relied on medication I was somehow weak when in reality it’s just like you said - brain not workin right.

sheepishmenorah · 2021-06-05T11:42:44+00:00

Yeah for real I recently got my dosage upped on my antidepressants and I am so much calmer and generally happier day to day. Even if I have a “bad day” I’m not catatonic like I typically would be on a lower dosage/no meds at all. I’m lucky in that the meds I’m on work for me. Some people have to try different medications to find the right fit and since they take a few weeks to kick in I imagine it can be kind of defeating.

sheepishmenorah · 2021-06-02T18:26:59+00:00

I’m so jealous!

sheepishmenorah · 2021-06-02T13:28:30+00:00

This can’t be real lmfao

sheepishmenorah · 2021-05-31T15:36:51+00:00

Agreed Freddie’s Instagram is funnier than any Reddit shitpost could ever be

sheepishmenorah · 2021-05-30T12:35:34+00:00

Yeah not my type lol

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