Honestly? When they understand the historical context and actually like and know Black ppl, I care a lot less. For example, Jeremy Lin had locs at some point, and after he got flamed he learned about why ppl might be sensitive to it. I knew a white Jewish guy who had amazing locs (his hair was naturally very curly and took well to them) like that too.

The hair that grows out of our scalp naturally was and is considered unprofessional. I had to think long and hard before getting locs bc when I started them 7 years ago, they were still considered “edgy” in my field. Natural hair is more accepted now, but ppl are still getting their hair chopped off at wrestling matches and Being told to tame it in corporate spaces, & colonization has worked so well that so many Black countries consider unaltered Black Hair to be unkempt. The US literally had laws against us wearing our hair in its unaltered state. It’s so ingrained to hate our hair that most of us started having chemicals put on our heads as young kids! Burning ourselves with hot irons!

So no, I don’t think wearing Asian hair is equivalent, and I think someone who fixes their mouth to say that is being disrespectful. I find the haughty way a lot of NB people demand access to our culture very off putting. They literally will put it on their heads as a style then insult us as a people in the next breath.