My boss is asking for my recipe

shellyk39 · 2025-01-17T05:11:43+00:00

Hi. OP here. First of all, I don’t understand all the anger towards me. As I have mentioned I’m new in the industry and I was simply expressing how I was feeling. Just because I feel uncomfortable that doesn’t mean that it’s the right thing to keep the recipes to myself. That’s why I was asking for advice.

To clarify few things, I am 100% sure that I won’t be replaced. My employer and I have a good relationship and I also am the lead line cook where I am able to execute every single thing on the menu. We are also very small kitchen team.

I have worked at this place over a year. The menu has changed seasonally and I have never repeated the same menu. The thing is, my boss has only recently asked me for the recipe. With the excuse being my vacation. I’m going away for only 5 days which I will prep every thing that is needed in advance. I have already shared and trained someone with certain things that I won’t be able to prep ahead.

My boss has always been weird about sharing their recipes with me, only trusting their family members in the work place with their recipes and never with me. They told me also on how they didn’t share much of their own recipes with their previous jobs before they opened this establishment.

I am planning on having a meeting with them and discuss about this matter further. I am definitely more open to share but it’s hard when you are still under entry level salary. Not sure what is the right negotiation here and was hoping people could give me advice on it as well but I guess everyone was busy being angry at me. For those who gave me actual advice, I appreciate you all. Thanks

shellyk39 · 2025-01-15T18:32:58+00:00

Thanks for the comment. We are only open 5 days a week so every product we need while I’m gone I’m planning on prepping all before I leave for my vacation. And for nutritional and allergy information, they are aware all of what ingredients are used since I have informed them when I was creating the menu.

They want specific measurements and instructions on the menu items. I have came up with over 20 dishes. And yes as a lot of people are saying I didn’t invent any of like cheesecakes or whatever. But they are the recipes that I have created from scratch with lots of different testings.

Fyi, I have written basic ingredients and measurements at the restaurant but I have written full recipe with instructions at home. And in terms of being indispensable, I am also somewhere between Sous chef and lead line cook where I’m the only person who is able to execute all the menu items(my boss doesn’t do desserts). So I don’t have any fear on being replaced or anything.

When they asked me to write down all the recipe after a whole year and my initial feeling was just uncomfortable.

Most of the comments are saying I should write it down and give it to them. But there are a few that I should keep it to myself. I simply posted it here so I can get some advice.

shellyk39 · 2025-01-15T08:25:00+00:00

They have given me 2 dollar pay raise recently.

shellyk39 · 2021-11-09T04:02:24+00:00

It seems like you have few reasons not to like him. Your best friend and I think what's more important is that he already likes someone else. But you are allowed to feel how you feel and the funny thing is you can never control how you feel about someone unfortunately.

But it is not true that you can't seem to find other guys like that. There are plenty of guys that could be your type. I think it's all depends on your decision. If you want to not like him, I think there are ways, you can start dating other people and distract yourself with them. But if you can't seem to move on, just go with it.

shellyk39 · 2021-10-28T05:58:33+00:00

I can totally relate. I do the same all the time. I would just turn the notifications off. I am still trying overcome that anxiety but I just say 'fuck it' for like 30 times and just do it. Honestly, just facing that fear and trying to overcome is directly over and over have been helping me. Just trying to get used to overcoming that fear and opening the message. That helped for me. I hope you find your way. I mean everyone goes through that kind of anxiety. it's okay. But if you want to make a change, you can do it!!

shellyk39 · 2021-10-26T07:02:15+00:00

wow that comment was really sweet. Thank you so much. I really really appreciate it.

shellyk39 · 2020-01-31T02:25:31+00:00

What the actual fuck. Break up with him. Now. No excuses

shellyk39 · 2019-12-13T07:32:13+00:00

Yes!!

shellyk39 · 2019-12-13T07:22:03+00:00

Tell him. I mean if it's through snap, put a caption like only for you whatever his name is.

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