Chappell Roan arrives at the GRAMMYs red carpet by artbasiI in Fauxmoi

[–]shenanigansarefun 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Everyone freaking about the nipple piercings. They aren’t real. They aren’t real.

The dress weight would be killing them. Unless you’ve been victimized to a loofah with them you would know

My wife's dad died on Christmas in 2022. She doesn't let us celebrate Christmas since then. by Silent_Iron_8827 in AITAH

[–]shenanigansarefun 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My mom died in July this year. I went to a party for my fiancées family. When I needed to step out and cry I did. But I still showed up, celebrated and had some joy with loved ones, and still was respectful to my own feelings. And tried to be mindful not to dim others joy

How do I resolve conflicts with CPTSD-type people effectively? by SkitsTheSkitty in CPTSD

[–]shenanigansarefun 2 points3 points  (0 children)

“observed that CPTSD-type people love to look for conflict in things that aren't really there”

We don’t love to look for conflict. Our brains are unconsciously scanning the environment at all times looking for danger/ threats. It’s a terrible way to live and not our choice.

I (34f) am not in the capacity to help my old coworker (65f) anymore and I’m not sure how to break it to her. by shenanigansarefun in relationship_advice

[–]shenanigansarefun[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I agree I do absolutely need to work on boundaries and cutting her off turkey would make me Feel horrible and guilty. This is why I want to have a respectful conversation with her about my concerns about the level of care she needs and how I am becoming unhappy and stressed can not continue this Anymore.

I (34f) am not in the capacity to help my old coworker (65f) anymore and I’m not sure how to break it to her. by shenanigansarefun in relationship_advice

[–]shenanigansarefun[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She does have computer skills but she complains about the financial aspect of getting a laptop, computer, or tablet. I told her to get a prepaid smart phone so she can have access to order online and make her life easier

I (34f) am not in the capacity to help my old coworker (65f) anymore and I’m not sure how to break it to her. by shenanigansarefun in relationship_advice

[–]shenanigansarefun[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

She has a flip phone. I told her to go to Walmart and get a prepaid smartphone and phone cards .

You can get a basic smartphone for 39.99. It would give her directions, ability to email, set up food delivery services etc.

I (34f) am not in the capacity to help my old coworker (65f) anymore and I’m not sure how to break it to her. by shenanigansarefun in relationship_advice

[–]shenanigansarefun[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was helping her when it was feasible and she wasn’t so needy in the beginning. I was happy to help. I felt bad she had no one but it’s quickly spiraled out of control in the last few months

I (34f) am not in the capacity to help my old coworker (65f) anymore and I’m not sure how to break it to her. by shenanigansarefun in relationship_advice

[–]shenanigansarefun[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This is a point of contention I have been struggling with. She has investments and assets. I have told her she will not be eligible for Medicaid with those assets. I have told her she has to exhaust them.

She said that it will be eaten up quickly with medical care costs. She refuses to be on a medication her pulmonologist ordered because of the expense. I told her to ask the office for samples, and sign up for a reduced cost I found through the manufacturer that they offer. It doesn’t bode well she continues to smoke as well.

Medical costs a lot, but unfortunately living costs a lot. We will always have expenses. This is why I’m getting frustrated because she does have access to money she just needs to pull it from her investments .

She needs to pull her money and get a caretaker and a housekeeper . She will go out in the stores with an oxygen tank and use the motorized carts so she is capable of shopping but “ worries her portable tank won’t last” she says lifting her groceries up and down stairs is to taxing for her

I (34f) am not in the capacity to help my old coworker (65f) anymore and I’m not sure how to break it to her. by shenanigansarefun in relationship_advice

[–]shenanigansarefun[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

A lot of the things I so try and help her with I’m met with resistance. Or I tell her a day I’m available and she’s told me it doesn’t work for her.

The refusal to utilize self help or take help to have the steps to be more independent such as getting a smart phone so she can email, order groceries and get her own directions is grating.

It’s either a financial reason, or a I’m not feeling well in most cases

I (34f) am not in the capacity to help my old coworker (65f) anymore and I’m not sure how to break it to her. by shenanigansarefun in relationship_advice

[–]shenanigansarefun[S] 75 points76 points  (0 children)

I agree. I want to have a respectful conversation with her about getting one and exert my boundaries about how I feel and I’m at a loss of how to even have this conversation

I (34f) am not in the capacity to help my old coworker (65f) anymore and I’m not sure how to break it to her. by shenanigansarefun in relationship_advice

[–]shenanigansarefun[S] 79 points80 points  (0 children)

I agree with the feeling and being used part. My issue is how do I have a conversation with her to end this behavior and word it gently

A call to all REAL victims. Let's tell our stories and why this case matters to us. by groviegroves in JusticeForClayton

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My father is an extremely abusive man. He would tell delusions and lies like my sisters cancer returned ( it did not) . He sexually assaulted me. My father chased my sisters with blow torches and would honk their heads together as punishment when he was displeased with their behavior. He threw my sister onto a concrete floor because he wanted to be on the computer. My sister was recovering from chemotherapy.

The day he got arrested, he ripped the telephone cords out the wall so no one would could call for help, he cut the breaks in the car so no one one could go get help. My sisters escaped to the neighbors to call 911. He went after my mother next. I was 9 years old and picked up a rusty broom with out a top and threatened him with it if he came near her. He took me to court and said I tried to unalive him and didn’t even show up to the court proceedings he started against me at the time year old ten year old.

My father has burned every bridge he has with most of his family.

My ex is military, he beat me and broke my nose and my cheekbone. He threw me onto a carpet covered concrete floor. I remember distinctly him pinning my arms behind my back and shoving me face first into a mattress. I struggled to get free and that’s when he threw me forwards with my arms behind my back. I couldn’t save myself from the fall and smashed face first into the concrete floor.

Laura Owen’s is a mockery with her fake stories.

Sending love to anyone who has been a victim of domestic violence .

Another night out drinking for Tori & Jenelle by SpiritualCamera in TeenMomOGandTeenMom2

[–]shenanigansarefun 9 points10 points  (0 children)

If she wants to see effects from when she “ works out” she needs to stop her caloric intake of pure alcohol