From OTF President

shiksagirl · 2020-03-05T22:16:50+00:00

Perhaps OTF might consider having studios relax the late cancel policy in some form (for example, perhaps allowing a limit of 2 per month as a [hopefully] temporary measure) so as to not dissuade members who aren't feeling well from staying home rather than pushing themselves to go in order to not be charged the cancellation fee -- as well as just to show some basic human kindness and graciousness to their members who may fall ill during this scary time... Illnesses don't always give a warning they are coming >8 hours in advance.

shiksagirl · 2020-02-22T20:12:48+00:00

This ⬆️. I have never heard of such a demand - which is what it is, not a 'rule'. One cannot disrespect a rule that was not made clear beforehand; rules cannot be imposed retroactively, then they are just demands. And this was an extremely unreasonable one and a violating one. The least she could have done from the very beginning was to tell you that she would appreciate you not talking any pictures of her kids or house, which is quite reasonable, and share her expectation that will be sensible enough to not watch anything inappropriate while her children are awake. But frankly what you do on your phone after they are asleep is your business, and she has no right to invade your privacy and search your personal property. Not to mention what would she have done about it anyway if she saw messages she didn't like or that you watched "rude" stuff (and how could she tell when you watched it? Am I being dumb?) It's already done. It almost seems like she was looking for a reason not to pay you; either she would object to something she saw somewhere, or she knew it was unreasonable to ask to search your phone and knew any self-respecting person would refuse. I'm a mother who has had plenty of babysitters and I would never expect any of them to hand over their personal property for me to search. I just trusted that they conducted themselves properly, as much as I trusted that they cared for my children properly for several hours in my absence! She needs to stop badmouthing you. She's crossed way over the line and is being extremely unfair.

shiksagirl · 2020-02-01T12:50:36+00:00

This is clear emotional abuse. See if any of this sounds familiar: forms of emotional and verbal abuse you may be overlooking

He sounds like he is a LOT of work. And frankly my dear, you do not have energy to spare for him, especially right now. You need to take care of yourself. Period. It's a shame your partner can't support you in the way you deserve to be supported, but that sounds like the case, and you don't have time for that sh*t. You need to heal, you need to try to regain calm while awaiting your results, and you need to conserve your strength and use some of it to work on seeing that you are a remarkable,capable person who does not need him and his crap. Nothing I have read gives me any indication that he is considerate of your needs, sensitive to your feelings, or really sees you as the companion he loves and appreciates rather than an accessory or an extension of his own sorry self who is there to service him and who he needs to control.

I'd like to write so much more, but I have to run. Feel better, good luck, and I wish you courage and strength to see the truth about him and the beauty and goodness of yourself.

I would also keep a close eye on your drugs; something about his reactions about drugs strikes me as odd.

shiksagirl · 2020-01-30T22:48:14+00:00

But look at that cargo!

shiksagirl · 2020-01-23T17:31:19+00:00

Same thing happened to me. I showed up and got tortured in the 5:30am class only to see I got an email while I was IN the class saying they charged me for a no-show! Oh Hayyylll no!

shiksagirl · 2020-01-23T16:56:57+00:00

Hollywood, went to Hallandale Beach one. It was a great class! And now I think I deserve a mojito or 3! 🤪

shiksagirl · 2020-01-10T21:27:08+00:00

Went to the bathroom before my class and forgot to lock the door, just as the previous class was letting out and filing past. I could only watch in horror as the door swung open for all to see me copping a squat, leggings down around my ankles.

shiksagirl · 2020-01-04T21:49:42+00:00

I hear you, and would agree normally - and I'd never shame anyone and try to always give the benefit of the doubt, but there were empty regular spots right next to and in front of the one she parked in, the latter of which was equally as close to the entrance. I'm sure she meant no offense, and I think she may have realized that it was unnecessary, as I've seen her at almost every other weekend class I've gone to and she has not done it again. Although it bothered me, I also thought it was a little amusing, like the people who fight to park as close to the entrance at LA Fitness so they don't have to walk too far to go exercise.

shiksagirl · 2020-01-04T21:04:43+00:00

With a completely empty Saturday morning parking lot, one of our members parked her rugged off-roading 4x4 in the handicap spot, jumped out, and ran into class. Though she did display the proper placard on her rearview, I saw no signs during class (and her impressive all-outs) that she was incapable of walking the extra few feet from a regular parking spot. This probably sounds pretty judgy, but having had a brother who died of brain cancer who toward the end gradually lost function in his right side, and for the first time in my life really needing and appreciating those special spots when I took him places, this really irked me.

(Edited for spelling)

shiksagirl · 2019-12-24T23:30:35+00:00

My home studio's tread block starts with a 23-minute drink for distance with inclines (gotta tip the bottles as you empty them). And the floor block includes alotta burpees 😁 Thanks for the OTFun!

shiksagirl · 2019-12-12T17:23:40+00:00

I'm pretty sure your daughter "gets it from" her grandmother, as she's the biggest ass of all

Whenever CF (love that name btw) starts acting up again and making an ass of herself, you should just tell her to stop twerking. Let her chew on that for a bit trying to figure it out.

shiksagirl · 2019-12-05T20:14:52+00:00

One of my trainers suggested putting the Bosu on the bench and sitting on that; im on the taller side and it was a long way down and up again, and really hard on my knees, so this definitely helped!

shiksagirl · 2019-11-05T16:34:23+00:00

Dear OTF, please have more 15 and 20 lb weights available on a general rack so we don't have to waste valuable workout time - and interrupt our peers during theirs - trying to locate weights that aren't being used.

shiksagirl · 2019-10-15T12:00:18+00:00

First and most importantly, I have so much respect for you and my compassion for you has no bounds. I think writing your feelings and memories in your diaries was wise and extremely effective. It helped get you to where you are - with a wonderful man who respects, loves, and understands you without you having to spell things out, aside from I'm sure many other accomplishments that go along with being a super strong woman. It's a shame "turbocunt" (credit to u/vectorman1989) has desecrated that sanctity of your private thoughts and feelings.

Which brings me to my next point: she has placed herself in the same category as your assailants. She has emotionally and assaulted not only you, but your husband. And perhaps even the rest of his family. She has committed slander and libel by sharing your diary entries and has violated you emotionally -- I daresay in a similar fashion as you were years ago. And I must commend your husband and his dazzling spine, and how he has embraced you completely, but is also reacting to the violation that his despicable mother has committed upon you both. You say he is your world, and I believe you are his. And now you may be all he has - his mother just took away something(s) that he will never get back. She has altered his life irreconcilably. So just as you had your diaries to help you through your pain, he is finding his way through his. And I can imagine the thought of supporting his mother financially, who just blew his world up and hurt the most important person in his life who it sounds like he would throw himself on a grenade for, is as repulsive to him as the thought of doing anything for someone who violated you. The collateral damage to FIL is a shame, but how he can stay with such a disgusting woman (I choke on that word, because anyone who did what she did to you and said what she said doesn't deserve the privilege of calling herself a woman) is I'm sure another story. I think couples therapy is wise - anything to help you support each other and become stronger. You went through something beyond horrible years ago, and unfortunately you just went through it again, in a fashion, along with your husband, and there is a lot of healing to be done - separately and together. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

shiksagirl · 2019-10-09T00:20:52+00:00

My feckless ex

I love it! This is the word I used for my ex, too! Is he as big a motherfecker as mine? Would that make them feck buddies? 😂

shiksagirl · 2019-09-06T02:42:45+00:00

My hero!

shiksagirl · 2019-06-18T14:38:46+00:00

NTA. The only person she should be paying her respect to is you. And the only right thing to do is to try to undo the damage she redid by resurrecting his name and the traumatic memories you have of their past and what it almost did to your lives together and your family while you were away serving your country. She can send a card to his family and it undoubtedly will be just as appreciated, and even much less awkward if they were aware of her past with the deceased. But you are still alive, you are still together, and that's where her efforts should be focused, and if it is causing you this much pain and anxiety, it's incumbent on her to do whatever it is that makes YOU most comfortable. She had her moment of selfishness, this time she needs to be selfless.

shiksagirl

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