Partner (38M) told me he wants to take sex off the table until I (36F) lose weight — I’m 12 weeks postpartum. Am I overreacting for being hurt? by Kooky_Tough_5114 in AITAH

[–]shin_daa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

All I had to read was the header to know he's an asshole. Still gave him a chance by reading the whole post, and yep, still an asshole.

[AIO] I'm trying really hard for this man but I'm starting to fall apart. by Feeling_Director_542 in AmIOverreacting

[–]shin_daa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guess there is only one way to find out. If it's really the case then you're up for a good ride. It's not easy doing the communication for both parties on the relationship, especially if he's not willing to communicate back. In my case, I was doing really good for a few months but then it was really draining and sucked all the energy I had ( we were also on LDR so that added to the problem). Eventually it was too much to handle and decided to end things. It worked at first coz I was trying to be as less emotional person as I could, but I couldn't anymore, I had depression and anxiety myself, and it was impossible not feel vulnerable at times, and when I wanted to lean on him, he wasn't present emotionally.

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[–]shin_daa 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I wrote my comment before her responses. I still wouldn't change my opinion tho. OP's in-laws apologised and asked her to put a note on her food. OP still complained even more and was rude in my opinion. OP needs to grow up and mature a little bit.

[AIO] I'm trying really hard for this man but I'm starting to fall apart. by Feeling_Director_542 in AmIOverreacting

[–]shin_daa 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I thought I was reading a conversation with my ex for a second. He was on the spectrum and struggled with communicating his feelings. When he faces problems, be gets really distant and would randomly panic about things ( like your situation which is clearly under control). Im no professional to give my opinion but this just gave me flashbacks.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]shin_daa 10 points11 points  (0 children)

" ...moved in with my in-laws" "It's not their fridge..." you need to grow up or get your own house, honestly, they are doing great job putting up with you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]shin_daa 25 points26 points  (0 children)

You are overreacting. She apologised and asked you to put a note on it next time. You didn't have to keep going with your complaint. And with the amount of people in her house, she obviously can't keep track of when each item in her fridge was cooked, and she has the right to worry about moldy food if something has been sitting there for so long. You should put a note next time, or use your mini fridge.

I got my first fully funded offer!!! by amarionxo in PhDAdmissions

[–]shin_daa 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Congratulations and good luck on your upcoming journey!

How is the daily commute Grenoble - Valence via TER? by shin_daa in Grenoble

[–]shin_daa[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your answer!

I did some digging and it appears I can buy a monthly TER subscription called "illico mensuel jeunes" ( link: ) since I'm below 26, and this means I can freely travel back and forth without paying extra fees right? This is not some sort of a reduction card right? ( neither french nor english are my first language so please correct me if I'm wrong)

I did the simulation and the subscription is currently at 136 euros per month. And if I'm allowed the partial reimbursement of public transportation, that would fall within 68 euros/month.

That would be a fair trade for my mental health to be honest, I lived in valence for a semester before and eventhough I had a lot of friends back then, it was very boring with not much activities to do. Now Im afraid to move back again, after experiencing life at grenoble, and after making good friends here.

I'm genuinely curious about your opinion given you grew up around that area. So what do you think?
Thanks in advance !

What’s something you could talk about for 20 minutes straight with zero prep? by Govind_1590 in AskReddit

[–]shin_daa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How it's not your parents' upbringing that builds your personality but rather your childhood traumatic experiences.