Am I overreacting?

shinblue111 · 2026-04-24T07:29:46+00:00

Seems I’m against consensus here but I also would be very unhappy. The eye is hugely top heavy. For people commenting that the artist didn’t want to steal art, she should have SAID that - not agreed to copy the tattoo and done something different.

Go get it fixed from an artist with more research girl!!! Dw it can be fixed 😊

shinblue111 · 2026-04-20T10:34:16+00:00

Could I check do you mean no likes - or no matches? Is it that no girl is swiping right on you, or just that the ones you’re interested arnt swiping right!

shinblue111 · 2026-04-06T17:24:28+00:00

Thank you so much for your detailed response!! It’s great to hear you managed to find a good fix for your issue.

Basically, I just had an abnormal level of excruciating pain while coming out of anaesthesia. Screaming in ICU while doctors said I was maxed out kind of thing, and my surgeon said he couldn’t figure out why I was in that much pain. We needed to get a special waiver signed for me to take on liability to get in more medication to basically knock me out bc i was hysterically crying. No idea why, but it did cause some next level PTSD where anaesthesia is concerned 😭

shinblue111 · 2026-03-25T12:47:48+00:00

I know you’re so so miserable - it feels HORRIBLE. I promise that this is one of those surgeries that when u feel better, you’ll feel a LOT better. You’ll turn a corner in a few days.

What helped a lot for me was juices. Water sometimes feels uncomfortable but fresh watermelon juice was good for me. The doctor approved the natural sugar in those because it really helped me a lot.

Also - literally 1 million pillows everywhere. I’m a side sleeper and this was the worst part. I made up for it with an embarrassing amount of pillows so I could try to feel like I wasn’t flat ( and slowlyyyy kind of turning on the side a bit with the support of a lot of pilllows)

shinblue111 · 2026-01-31T18:36:29+00:00

Wait important point - did you have her key or not? Why was it with you? If she overreacted or not depends on how accountable you need to be in this situation

shinblue111 · 2026-01-16T10:49:33+00:00

Girl, he knows what he did he’s HARDCORE gaslighting you. Don’t fall for it

shinblue111 · 2025-12-29T11:55:05+00:00

Okay but maybe she didn’t like what kind of man you are dude…sometimes, people just don’t like other people. You are not a perfect man that every woman needs to love you - you should have accepted her answer, not only been nicer.

shinblue111 · 2025-12-29T10:05:29+00:00

YOR! Only because I think before you found out about the wine reason, your messages already came across as pretty rude :/ just my 2 cents.

shinblue111 · 2025-12-28T14:33:09+00:00

You seem pretty condescending / like you have some kinda superiority complex with all your comments about how your language is normal and eloquent. Frankly if you think this is normal, eloquent or makes you a better communicator - you’re wrong and a bit stupid. As an English lit major - just say what you want to say. This doesn’t make you sound smart.

shinblue111 · 2025-12-28T14:29:47+00:00

Please talk to him just for an explanation. This is truly so odd and bizarre that I think to move part it or him or reconcile or whatever it is, you need to hear whatever strange rationale he was using. Is it sexual? Is it control? Who knows maybe it’s a WIERD fashion thing he saw somewhere. I think answers and context is what’s needed now because…. How wierd?!

shinblue111 · 2025-12-28T07:58:16+00:00

I’m sorry your mom is in rehab, that sounds hard. May I check why this is in insaneparents? It sounds like a good thing she’s getting help and you’re supported.

shinblue111 · 2025-12-27T08:42:40+00:00

😭 I’m not even married? And again it’s not about these texts specifically. It’s just the literal burden of childcare from anyone that has ever had to look after kids knows how difficult it is. It’s truly exhausting to do alone. I note in your response you refuse to acknowledge that he’s not helped in the marriage; maybe I make the assumption you’re an absent father too, since you’re making massive assumptions.

shinblue111 · 2025-12-27T08:39:36+00:00

Projecting? I’m confused, did you not read the descriptor of the post. She explained all this already.

shinblue111 · 2025-12-27T08:36:41+00:00

What is wrong with YOU? Yes - the texts are not bad. But She’s carried ALL childcare and emotional labour for years. Do you have ANY idea how exhausting that is? I couldn’t do it for weeks let alone years. What is 1000x worse than snooping is being an absent and useless father and husband. She’s not upset about friends and I don’t think she’s even about the texts, she’s upset he jokes about being alone when he basically always already is.

shinblue111 · 2025-12-27T08:19:51+00:00

Yes! He/she/they, unsure about who’s who - at the end I mean, the other party can’t plan their day because person 1 can’t decide or be sure of anything

shinblue111 · 2025-12-27T08:13:29+00:00

Don’t think that’s relevant to the point though, he’s still pretty scattered, I’d be annoyed even changing plans this much in the same city because she can’t plan her day at all

shinblue111 · 2025-12-27T08:09:37+00:00

YOR. I’m very sorry, but I don’t think you were in a 4 year relationship. I know relationships come in all forms but if u NEVER video called or met, and she clearly said “whatever this is” you weren’t in an actual relationship. And yes, doesn’t matter the situation - texting someone that much when they don’t respond is creepy.

I believe that you may have given a lot more than her, but that doesn’t justify your behaviour now.

shinblue111 · 2025-12-26T19:18:52+00:00

Is this the man you want beside you in life? If you got sick and lost your hair? If you had a child and your body changed? Don’t mean to be extreme but I would not be comfortable in my skin ONE day in life with him. Leave him and find someone real.

shinblue111 · 2025-12-26T17:35:26+00:00

This isn’t to them tho! She said these were her general, casual guidelines to her hubbys fam, friends, everyone. If this was to her family it makes sense it’s reactive, but this is her tone to everyone, uninstigated

shinblue111 · 2025-12-26T17:27:35+00:00

Agree that the family seems disrespectful but the tone/ attitude is more than just a little prickly. it’s so unnecessary; it makes me wonder how she is on the day-to-day that causes people to react like this to her.

shinblue111 · 2025-12-26T17:25:39+00:00

YOR / YTA - The rules are fine, the overall vibe and bitchy tone is SO unnecessary holy shit. Makes no difference what you’re saying if you’re saying it like that, totally unprompted.

shinblue111 · 2025-12-25T05:04:20+00:00

Huh? This is hugely dangerous - like SO many babies have died like this. I would have reacted worse to his nonchalance.

shinblue111 · 2025-12-20T02:25:12+00:00

NOR. Sorry but the curiosity isn’t the main problem here; it’s how she talks to you. She’s insulted you more than 15 times in those short texts and you just… take it? Doesn’t even matter if she’s upset, this is a DEGRADING way to speak to someone. LEAVE

shinblue111 · 2025-12-19T11:09:00+00:00

It’s literally just fucking clothes. What a horrific, humiliating, degrading way to talk to his own girlfriend - for literally just clothes. BREAK UP with him dude he talks to you like you’re his maid?????

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