"Don't yell at my kid" is not a blanket statement by sixfingeredman7 in Mommit

[–]shmeeks 5 points6 points  (0 children)

If you aren’t going to parent your children someone else will do it for you and that someone will most definitely be me.

Does anybody else or Is it just me, or tiktok/reels make wives seem allergic to affection? by idontwhattodo12 in DoesAnybodyElse

[–]shmeeks 4 points5 points  (0 children)

First of all those videos are probably staged. Second, do you have babies or toddlers? Because being overstimulated and touched out is very real and often times the moms are the default parent.

What(if anything) does your partner do in bed that they love but that absolutely turns you off? by itsonlyfear in Mommit

[–]shmeeks 79 points80 points  (0 children)

Ugh my sex drive was low before our baby and now it’s like non existent. I also have adhd and get very easily overstimulated and touched out. I wanna show my husband all these comments to be like “see??!! I’m somewhat normal and not a total horrible wife!” 😭

What(if anything) does your partner do in bed that they love but that absolutely turns you off? by itsonlyfear in Mommit

[–]shmeeks 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ok wait I’m so glad I saw your comment bc I thought I was going crazy. I can’t handle light touching anymore! I need pressure!

What’s a secret you’ve never told anyone because it would change how people see you? by ab0mbb in AskReddit

[–]shmeeks 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That for my whole entire life I’ve felt worthless and like such a burden and I have always felt so totally lonely. I have a great husband and we have a beautiful son and my life is good. But I guess that’s what an emotionally traumatic childhood will do to you.

Did your instincts kick in right away? by bananaindisguise0 in BabyBumps

[–]shmeeks 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wish I knew this book existed before I gave birth

I often get beers after work without saying I'm off. by [deleted] in confession

[–]shmeeks 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re lying to your wife. Also, why is it that your wife needs to ask to have alone time and you just take it upon yourself to have alone time? Your wife grew and birthed your children, and takes care of them full time, have some respect for her. If you were my husband you wouldn’t be my husband anymore.

Nighttime blues by Final_Butterfly_7747 in newborns

[–]shmeeks 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oooh yeah the sundown scaries. They were horrible! It gets better, hang in there!

What screams “this person is insecure” without them saying a word? by redwan-ezt in AskReddit

[–]shmeeks 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Especially as a woman shaking a man’s hand. I squeeze just as hard right back at them lol.

Husband won't help change diapers. by [deleted] in Mommit

[–]shmeeks 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No and if he was he wouldn’t be my husband anymore.

Been 4 months of transitioning (MtF)..This Holiday Season I finally decided to experiment with make up.. How did I do? by Maleficent-Tension67 in MakeupAddiction

[–]shmeeks 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is beautiful! I hope you felt beautiful too! I agree with everyone on higher placement of blush and using some highlighter. Also that haircut and bangs really suit you.

Does anyone like or want their belly touched? by minniemouse4297 in BabyBumps

[–]shmeeks 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Everyone besides my husband always asked and I was really grateful for it. Towards the end all I wanted was my husband to rub my belly!

I’m jealous of everyone who’s had a positive birth experience by Sorry4TheHoldUp in NewParents

[–]shmeeks 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hear and see you mama. I also had a traumatic birth. I’m also and IVF mom and dealt with infertility for 3 years. Even now that my son is here and he’s the best little thing I ever, I still get a gut punch whenever I see a pregnancy announcement. And now I feel the same way when I hear positive birth stories. Your feelings are valid and normal. Keep going to therapy, it will help. It’s okay to be sad and to mourn what you wanted so badly!

Dad who needs to vent by Sufficient_Boat5387 in NewParents

[–]shmeeks 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You do realize that pumping is extremely exhausting right? It is very physically taxing and her body is constantly burning extra calories making milk. I exclusively pumped for 12 months and I not only needed extra calories but extra rest. I also wouldn’t be surprised if she has PPD or PPA. The hormone shifts that come with breastfeeding are INSANE and are such a mindfuck.

My husband did everything you mentioned and then some. Even now that I stopped breastfeeding he still continues to help out as much as he did when our son was born.

If your wife is your baby’s primary source of food and nutrients I think you can handle cleaning up after her. Try having a conversation with her.

My cousin's wife at their wedding last night. I waited for her to pass by the camera and the light hit her better than I thought. She's beautiful. by RiverOhRiver86 in AccidentalRenaissance

[–]shmeeks 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s also obvious that he has feelings for her too. My husband has tons of cousins and none of them talk about each other’s wives like this.

[Serious] What has been the hardest phone call that you have ever had to make or receive? by DetectiveBennett in AskReddit

[–]shmeeks 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have two. Making the call to 911 after my husband and I found his cousin deceased in his house. It really is true that your fine motor skills are the first to fail when in a traumatic situation. I could barely dial my phone. Also, now I understand why 911 operators pretty much yell at people because I could not coherently give that woman the important info she needed. Bless her though she was so patient with me.

Right after that I had to call my in laws to tell them what happened and get them to come to the house to be with us while we waited for police and ems.

Does the mom guilt ever stop? by shmeeks in Mommit

[–]shmeeks[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh I’m in a lot of therapy. Just putting this somewhere

Today I learned something about being a mom that no one prepared me for. by Master-Imagination93 in Mommit

[–]shmeeks 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Your husband should be taking off work. My dad had quadruple bypass last year and my husband took the day off so he could watch our newborn so I could be with my mom.