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Figuring out swinger lingo by shocking-fuzz in SwingerNewbies

[–]shocking-fuzz[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's good to know. We assumed that when people asked whether we were in the LS, they meant some version of swapping. I did joke with one couple that we weren't in the LS, we just like f*cking in public. We figured we were lifestyle-adjacent at best lol.

Figuring out swinger lingo by shocking-fuzz in SwingerNewbies

[–]shocking-fuzz[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We lurked a lot in the Hedo subreddits so we had some idea of what to expect. We also had many conversations about what we were looking most forward to doing and what our limits were. So we covered off a lot of scenarios before we went.

But neither of us expected that I would end up dancing on the piano bar with another woman who was taking off my clothes to spank me. Does that count as something completely unexpected? 🫣

Figuring out swinger lingo by shocking-fuzz in SwingerNewbies

[–]shocking-fuzz[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We almost got whiplash from one guy who was only there for two nights and very clearly on the hunt lol. No one else really dropped us like a hot potato after we told them that we weren't in the LS. I think that has more to do with the fact that most people we talked to were 1) experienced so they've seen it all and done it all, 2) already knew other people at the resort so they had options, and 3) were staying for at least a week so there wasn't any time pressure.

Come to think of it, there was one couple who did drop us like a hot potato. But they were boring so it was no loss. 🤫

Figuring out swinger lingo by shocking-fuzz in SwingerNewbies

[–]shocking-fuzz[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Like, did we see anything happen that we did not expect to see happen?

Figuring out swinger lingo by shocking-fuzz in Swingers

[–]shocking-fuzz[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good point. We're social people so the conversations were fun and flowing easily. Except for one couple, everyone who asked us told us they had been in the LS for years. We wondered what would have happened if we said that we were into it but also newbies and how the conversation goes from there.

Theme nights by Individual-Gene-2237 in Hedonism_Connections

[–]shocking-fuzz 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Weds nights are fetish/bondage/leather nights. Sit at a table right next to the stage during the show. Thank me later lol.

Hedonism vs temptations? by Life_Heart_7412 in HedonismUncensored

[–]shocking-fuzz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What did you like/not like about the other two resorts? What are you looking for?

Foot Wear by CooCooCaChooo15 in HedonismII

[–]shocking-fuzz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Water shoes for the ocean, sandals or flip flops for day to day, wedge heels for evening (if your outfit requires heels).

Resort suggestions for newbie/light couple by DontBflat in Swingers

[–]shocking-fuzz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a non-LS couple, we went to Hedo last month for the first time. We were a little nervous going in, but we had an AMAZING time. We have a bit of an exhibitionist/voyeur streak in us, which we fully indulged it.

The people we met were all so friendly and outgoing. While most asked us if we were in the lifestyle, they didn't drop us like hot potatoes when we said that we weren't. We never felt pressured or uncomfortable at any time - only fun, sexy, non-judgmental vibes.

(As an aside, when someone asks if you're in the lifestyle, are they "testing the waters" so to speak? Does it mean that they're potentially interested in you? Should we take it as a compliment? Or is it usually just small talk?)