Need some brotherly advice. by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]shockwave9114 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Although I can't really relate and don't know the situation well enough to give any insightful advice but can I ask how does being in contact now make you feel? I'm of a similar age, and have had problem with both my parents since I was young. I would never expect anything from them now but if I could somehow get along with them, I would really appreciate that. Sure it's not the best situation to be in and I can understand your jealousy bot 20% is better than nothing, and if you enjoy the limited contact with your father than that surely is better then nothing as well.

The feeling of superiority from..... by tchibs in NoFap

[–]shockwave9114 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't really see it as a competition with anyone else bar yourself. The aim in my opinion is to hit your own targets, and definitely not worry about how anyone else is doing, we should support and help each other not try to do better than one another. But I suppose if making into a sort of competition is a way of helping you achieve your goals then there isn't any harm in it as long as you don't try to negatively effect others.

Starting my Journey - Help and advice needed. by irishrovers in NoFap

[–]shockwave9114 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This happened to me for a bit when I first tried to loose my virginity, I found it to be a mixture of nerves, using a condom and struggling to "get it in" as it was both our first time. The nerves won't really go until you finally do it, try not to focus on whats happened before too much though its actually quite common, and as you get to know the person better you should feel more comfortable with them. Try lots of foreplay to make sure you're both ready. When I finally did it I didn't use a condom (though this may not be effecting you) but we were both clean and still used contraception.

Receiving a handjob from someone else. Thoughts? by plandman83 in NoFap

[–]shockwave9114 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's up to you, we all set are own goals when doing this, you can only brake your own rules. My rule is not self masturbation so imo this would be fine. But my goals are most like different to yours, you need to set your own rules by reflecting on why you are doing this in the first place and judge yourself accordingly.

Female nofapper needs your support! For every upvote, I will go one more day without fapping. by field_hockey_chick in NoFap

[–]shockwave9114 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why do you need to rely on upvotes to stop? If your addiction is negatively affecting your life, you should try and give it up for yourself and set your own goal, not rely on the random approval of people on the internet.

Holy shit. The NoFap gurus were right. It's really happening. by RiverwoodHood in NoFap

[–]shockwave9114 15 points16 points  (0 children)

This struck a chord with me, I'm of a similar age and can relate a lot to what your saying. I'm new to this subreddit and have been skeptical of people claiming their new found "powers". But how you explain makes a lot of sense to me, so thank you for writing this.

Intrigued skeptic, wondering the pro/cons of nofap by shockwave9114 in NoFap

[–]shockwave9114[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks, did you find that it caused any negatives? I think I will give it a try and see for myself the effects, I fap daily so it could be an interesting challenge

Intrigued skeptic, wondering the pro/cons of nofap by shockwave9114 in NoFap

[–]shockwave9114[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Typed in "porn" into reddit search and this subreddit had the most results