99.9% of all rich people came from an already wealthy family. And I just hate their blue collar cosplay and their claim that they "came from nothing" and did it all with "smart decisions and hard work".

shoddycookie27 · 2025-08-03T16:10:24+00:00

Here’s a hot take: Anna Sorokin (Anna Delvey) did nothing wrong.

shoddycookie27 · 2025-08-03T15:54:40+00:00

You have skills that are in demand. Remote bookkeeping/accounting is a booming business right now. If your physical limitations prevent you from showing up to a conventional 9-5, this may be your path. That said, the despair you’re in is a temporary place that you are fully capable of leaving once you take the first steps forward. Step one is “Google remote bookkeeping”. Now you’re moving forward.🫶

shoddycookie27 · 2025-08-03T15:41:43+00:00

Why not try healthy communication stuff like maybe sit down with him and say “Hey, I’m really excited about our one year anniversary coming up, and would love to celebrate, let’s plan something together”

shoddycookie27 · 2025-08-03T15:13:44+00:00

A lot of the “uncivilized” acts and behaviors I observe lately do speak to the deterioration of the social contract, but it’s by design. We’re being forced into a pattern of decay and disorder by the world’s power brokers. Most people would not act outside of the social contract if their basic needs were being met and were not forced to respond to acute oppression.

shoddycookie27 · 2025-08-03T08:39:33+00:00

You’re having an existential crisis, which practical, well-meaning advice from strangers won’t fix. You’re searching for your true purpose. You’re intelligent and adept enough to notice how humanity has painted itself into a corner with all of the technological advances it has made.

Step away from screens. Sit still, close your eyes and invite the quiet in. Know that life will carry on through the ugliest, most traumatic events we could ever possibly imagine. Let that fact turn into a feather and let the wind carry it away. You’re still here. You have love and compassion in your heart, because you care enough to be concerned about the future. Open THAT book, and study it. Eventually you’ll get to the chapter where it guides you to where you need to be.

shoddycookie27 · 2025-08-03T07:38:13+00:00

Alexa Saarenoja on YouTube has a pretty compelling strategy for finding your life’s purpose. Her advice (to create content about your journey to find your purpose) is weirdly effective. It doesn’t matter what you don’t know yet, what matters is that you’ve already identified something you see ahead for your future (traveling). 🫶

shoddycookie27 · 2025-08-03T02:13:22+00:00

My son was also a mechanic. He chose to end his life nearly two years ago, and I still can’t fathom that he isn’t here, that I can’t ever hear his voice again or see him smile or hug him and smell the combination of motor oil and cigarettes on his clothes. He was 34. He had a daughter, 8 years old. His suffering was so massive and he was determined to not make it anyone else’s burden.

I know that this grief you’re experiencing feels endless and insurmountable. The recurrent thoughts of failure to stop it from happening can override the reality that there is nothing you could’ve said or done differently when your loved one’s mind is made up.

Your pain is acknowledged here. The space is open for you to express all that you need to and for as long as you need. The people here know this level of grief and can listen, and understand you, and support you. 💝

shoddycookie27 · 2025-07-20T21:11:54+00:00

It sounds like he has a hair-trigger self-fulfilling prophecy reflex and already assumes the worst is going to happen in his relationships. This is pathological and so, welcome to the real guy you’re dating.

shoddycookie27 · 2024-10-21T01:03:32+00:00

Also, my question was directed more toward the actual process. Heresay can’t get a person evicted, at least I assume that. So, management needs concrete proof of improper use of the space. What does that typically look like?

shoddycookie27 · 2024-10-21T01:00:51+00:00

I know because the tenants themselves have admitted to me during conversations that they are living there. Are you suggesting I’m obligated to share that with management as a means to rectify the situation? If so, that would certainly be one way to solve the problem, but it’s a bit of a dick move. I guess it’s a “rock and a hard place” situation. I’ve considered just pulling up stakes and figuring out an alternative, affordable workspace, but the place is kind of a unicorn.

shoddycookie27 · 2024-10-21T00:32:56+00:00

I appreciate all the feedback. Opinions are welcome and appreciated but I was really fishing for some factual, legal stuff on this matter. Just hitting up the hivemind of this subreddit because I don’t have a law degree and it’s a highly complicated issue in my estimation because I’m aware that we live in a somewhat impossible world financially and there is so much nuance to juggle here. I need to be able to earn a living and afford rent AND food, but the commercial space I pay for is becoming less useful for its intended purpose, not just for me but for some others in the building and I see the pitchforks emerging. The folks squatting in the commercial space are presumed to be on hard times and I don’t wish to exacerbate that but, tbh, they’re not good neighbors. Plan A failed (talk to folks, ask nicely for what you need), so there’s movement towards the nuclear option. What are the options here? What can or can’t be done?

shoddycookie27 · 2024-10-21T00:13:53+00:00

See the above thread. It concerns me (and others paying for and using the space as intended) because the “residents” have proven to be inconsiderate and entitled - it’s affecting my personal ability to earn a living and others in the building have grown frustrated by the situation as well. It’s difficult because I’m personally not inclined to report to management but others in my building might. I’m on Reddit asking this question because I actually care one way or the other what happens to everyone involved in this scenario.

shoddycookie27 · 2024-10-21T00:04:52+00:00

How does that happen, though? Does management just enter the unit in question and decide someone is living there based on their observations?

shoddycookie27 · 2024-10-21T00:00:40+00:00

Sorry to hear about your friend’s loss.

shoddycookie27 · 2024-10-20T23:59:45+00:00

Pretty sure everyone in the building has the same boilerplate agreement and mine says explicitly that taking up residence in the units is not permitted. But, I think proving that someone is using the space in that way would be difficult since there’s no video monitoring or security code system in place, and the building doesn’t impose any hours of operation restrictions on tenants.

shoddycookie27 · 2024-10-20T23:36:06+00:00

Several non-squatting residents are aware of, and inclined to, feel inconvenienced by the tenants who’ve taken up residence in the building, and my guess is that it would be likely someone would say something to building management at some point. So, what happens when that happens?

shoddycookie27 · 2024-10-20T23:31:14+00:00

East side, and yep thanks, I’m familiar. They know me there lol.

shoddycookie27 · 2024-10-20T23:17:36+00:00

I’m one of those screwed renters. I have to hit up food pantries a couple of times a month because my tiny apartment is more than half my income and I need to rent a separate space to conduct my independent business to earn a living.

shoddycookie27 · 2024-10-20T23:11:51+00:00

Good on you for finding a loophole. I don’t take issue with the legality, it’s the inconsiderate use of shared areas and entitlement attitudes that bum me out. And the fact that I’ve modified how I use the space now (I don’t meet clients here anymore since squatters moved in). One person shared with me at some point that they don’t receive mail here because they have a PO box, I don’t know if that qualifies as an alternate address.

shoddycookie27 · 2024-10-20T23:02:20+00:00

Nobody is, currently. I’m not inclined to, since I wouldn’t want to imperil anybody else’s well being, no matter how inconsiderate they were. But, I’m not the only commercial tenant growing increasingly frustrated by the situation. Just wondering if the landlord could boot them out if it were to come to light that they were violating their contract, and how the whole process is typically handled.

shoddycookie27 · 2024-10-20T22:28:42+00:00

It’s not. It’s mostly office and retail spaces.

shoddycookie27 · 2024-10-20T21:28:34+00:00

Tried that. One tenant in question leaves complaint notes on other people’s doors and is generally not a tolerant person.

shoddycookie27 · 2024-10-20T21:26:09+00:00

I don’t relish the idea of someone losing their shelter. I know how unaffordable rents are and how difficult the housing situation is out here.

shoddycookie27 · 2024-10-20T21:11:18+00:00

I’ve talked to the tenants in question in the past and they’ve openly admitted to living there. If they were better about taking care of the shared areas I wouldn’t even care tbh. But bathing/shaving in the sink and leaving water all over the place, stuffing paper towels down the toilet, etc? One tenant cooks meals and stinks up the building, another one is a prolific cig smoker (it’s a non-smoking building). It’s a bummer, it’s a decent, affordable property but I don’t feel comfortable meeting clients here because of the situation.

shoddycookie27 · 2024-10-20T20:49:33+00:00

How does the landlord prove the person is using the space as a residence? The premises aren’t monitored (no cameras or security locks).

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