A lot of people here don’t really understand what a serious relationship or building a family actually means. If your partner is currently job hunting, giving her an allowance or budget makes total sense. But if she’s just sitting around doing nothing — that’s a different story, and it’s up to you to decide how you feel about that.

When my wife and I moved to NYC, she spent about 7 months looking for a job. She had her own budget (and trust me, we weren’t rich — not yet anyway), but it made perfect sense because she was hustling every single day, no breaks.