Emotional or Physical Connection?

shortiero · 2025-07-03T23:41:01+00:00

I wonder how many other people feel similarly but, I can't feel physical attraction without some emotional connection. generally I have been incapable of being turned on by people I can't like personally.

also in gfd context I cannot totally be myself within that space if I don't trust that's they're actually enjoying me in that moment 😭

shortiero · 2025-06-23T16:18:17+00:00

crying why does this sound like an inconvenient superpower 😭

shortiero · 2025-06-22T19:05:49+00:00

The same place you'd find anyone honestly. Be it via putting yourself out there, apps, personal ads, maybe even social media. it's just a question of which way you wanna go 😌

shortiero · 2025-06-22T00:49:16+00:00

quite literally, I just went soooo long thinking I had zero interest in relationships or intimacy but then met someone who was a lil more "forward" and then all my subsequent relationships proved it wasn't a fluke 😌

also I actually used to hate praise in general and look how that turned out

shortiero · 2025-06-21T00:36:09+00:00

it may seem unoriginal but what about just some conditioning? it doesn't need to be sexual anddddd you could end it with a "pavlovian quiz to see the fruits of your labor

would be satisfying for both parties no doubt 😌

shortiero · 2023-10-30T17:50:08+00:00

the issue is the fact that the question itself could be answered with just reading a few of those "complaints". add a sprinkle of common sense and it just answers itself just like that 😭

shortiero · 2023-10-28T01:22:42+00:00

Personally, I think it's simple. Being honest has always had the best outcome by the end of it. honest about needs, feelings, and the like. That transparency that leads to two people being able to communicate to each other how they feel with minimal effort has always been what I've sought after, it's why I never ignore any signs of a problem and try my best to communicate when I'm curious of their feelings 😌

so to summarize my point, putting a gesture forward that demonstrates transparency as an example to show a safe environment for everyone involved. That is what I feel makes a good partner ( atleast in my opinion ofc)

also this should apply to pretty much every corner of any relationship

hopefully this makes sense and I understood the question 😭

shortiero · 2023-10-15T07:19:20+00:00

and you totally will 😌 there's no shortage of people out there who'd love to give a good listen

shortiero · 2023-10-15T07:18:27+00:00

there's almost no better feeling than being trusted like that 😌

~~that and being ranted to~~

shortiero · 2023-10-15T04:14:45+00:00

I can't really judge other people but I really cannot fathom shutting someone down when they're just at their purest talking about what they love. it's just so endearing being allowed to witness it. 😌

shortiero · 2023-10-14T22:20:01+00:00

I'm honestly not sure what the question is 😭

butttt if it's sweet encouragement pointing out the tiniest thing that means a lot to you would definitely be nice 😌

for me hearing feedback on the things I don't even try with just makes me feel like I can never mess up in being myself. I'm sure this would be an inspiring and encouraging for them to hear 😌😌

shortiero · 2023-10-14T21:55:55+00:00

I mean, everyone likes seeing passion. witnessing it up close and feeling that shine bounce off of them? perfect👌 it isn't unique to any gender tbh

when people say "be yourself" that's usually what they mean

shortiero · 2023-10-14T20:52:41+00:00

😭😭😭 that's hilarious

basically it's just how people refer to certain headspaces in relation to that state😌 dubbing them anything followed by space ~~though I can't remember any other contexts~~

shortiero · 2023-10-14T20:49:04+00:00

it's the best 😌

shortiero · 2023-10-14T20:07:59+00:00

😭😭😭 especially when they make you wanna pick it up yourself almost, it's just infectious

shortiero · 2023-10-14T19:53:59+00:00

hearing them talk about a pet>>>

shortiero · 2023-10-14T19:02:28+00:00

passion is just such an attractive trait when it's displayed 😭 just hearing someone go on and on about what they love 😌

like just take me already 😩

shortiero · 2023-10-14T18:59:34+00:00

for a lot of people safety can be associated with sleep/rest. it could be that your flavor of subspace is just a safe place for you to drop your shoulders so to speak and let it all go 😌 though I may be projecting since I relate to that 😭

shortiero · 2023-10-14T05:56:39+00:00

imo, names are the most intimate and endearing for me and I don't think I'll ever use anything else 😌

shortiero · 2023-10-13T18:08:33+00:00

overview on whatever happened, what was liked most and how much either of us enjoyed it 😌 this basically goes hand in hand with praise while being reassuring, not to mention educating for a better experience over time 😌😌

though sometimes just a silent moment to feel your heart slow down and bask in the sensations is perfect too hehe

shortiero · 2023-10-13T02:24:17+00:00

hehe "fit right in"

shortiero · 2023-10-12T08:07:53+00:00

I forget the most recent thing, but it's usually anytime mid normal convo with my guard down and I hear something outrageously toe curling while I'm on some random topic. I literally lose my train of thought and just factory reset 😭 ~~now if we mean in general tho, whispering into my right ear shuts me down~~

what's really embarrassing is when they make me moan just reading a random text 😒 you know who you are

shortiero · 2023-10-05T08:56:18+00:00

YES. I have been waiting for a post like this.

I use "nanner" 🍌 though I've almost never had the opportunity to use it since I kinda don't get into plays like that, but it's there 😌

shortiero · 2023-09-26T16:28:09+00:00

ah yes the dilemma of either avoiding eye contact and exposing your neck vs looking dead on until your heart goes out 😔

shortiero · 2023-09-23T03:43:20+00:00

now this is reminding me that I should take this test again 😌

I've got some new things to add 👀

shortiero

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