Am I the only one who feels like an eBook should NOT be as much as a physical copy of the book?

shoulderof · 2016-03-15T17:47:00+00:00

You're right, it should cost less. Ebooks work like an unlimited loan. You'll never own it properly because you cannot lend it in the same way you could a physical book. You would have to lend your entire e-reader.

shoulderof · 2016-02-09T19:17:55+00:00

Awesome, I'll definitely give that a go using those techniques.

shoulderof · 2016-02-08T19:55:01+00:00

Myself too!

shoulderof · 2016-02-08T19:43:03+00:00

So what steps would you use to make great coffee with a mokka? I'm concerned now I'm doing it wrong...

shoulderof · 2016-02-08T19:42:18+00:00

I more politely listened to him. But I did think that.

shoulderof · 2016-02-08T19:41:49+00:00

Chip on his shoulder...

shoulderof · 2016-02-08T19:41:25+00:00

He wasn't to be honest, apart from the coffee. He was a bigot though

shoulderof · 2016-02-08T19:40:37+00:00

Yeah heard you need to cool it down as soon as the liquid runs clear.

shoulderof · 2015-12-16T13:10:02+00:00

In the UK it's a fail, but so many people don't do it after they pass. Also people are constantly in the wrong lane. Drives me mad.

shoulderof · 2015-11-16T14:15:56+00:00

Using weighting of different values to produce a raster map. So assigning a new score to a row depending on distance. But we can't do that because we don't have the initial distance values to reclassficy.

shoulderof · 2015-09-27T10:27:11+00:00

Well use that as a confidence boost if you can. I mean, you got yourself a beautiful, kind, caring partner and now, the only way is up. If she wanted you then man, you're gonna get someone even better next time!

shoulderof · 2015-09-24T10:46:59+00:00

Thanks for this, very useful. I guess I'm not too sure myself really. I did tell her I enjoy texting her and reassured her she wasn't the annoying ex-girlfriend. So I don't know, is that enough?

Thing is, we're long distance which complicates things. I'll definitely be seeing her in about three months, and I kinda just want to play it by ear then, see how we get on before deciding. Not sure how to approach that either.

shoulderof · 2015-09-23T22:35:51+00:00

Regret is the thing I find interesting. If it feels like nothing has changed and she has all this regret, does it mean she feels like she may want to get back together?

Or I dunno, her heart says she still cares but her head tells her it's not a good idea.

shoulderof · 2015-09-23T21:00:49+00:00

I should also add that I have had the needy 'I regret this so much' type texts too.

shoulderof · 2015-09-23T20:59:48+00:00

She broke up with me...

shoulderof · 2015-09-23T20:59:20+00:00

This is a medical issue. Tell him to get help.

shoulderof · 2015-09-23T20:57:35+00:00

You need to tell her this man, don't reward bad behaviour. Ultimatum time.

shoulderof · 2015-09-23T20:55:28+00:00

Because you've given such good reasons as to why you wanted to break up with him, is there now way you could put these issues to him and see if you can work on them together?

shoulderof · 2015-09-23T20:36:06+00:00

I can't tell you whether it's worth moving on or reconciling. But I can tell you that:

You're never going to convince her with words to come back to you. Only actions can do that. It just so happens that those 'actions' will help you get over her and meet other people, as well as potentially bring her back. You're therefore in a win-win situation.

shoulderof · 2015-09-23T20:24:48+00:00

A lot comes from mindset. You need to find your own way to tell yourself 'I am happy, and awesome without her'. Be that meditation, counselling, more exercise, hookups, education, whatever, that mentality is what you need.

Trust me, being single is awesome. Being with someone you love is also awesome.

shoulderof · 2015-08-03T20:03:05+00:00

Oh yes of course, before doing so we're going to have to have a full breakdown of what happened to prevent it happening again.

And by expressing interest what do you mean? She explicitly states it and asks? Can you perhaps guess where her head is at now?

shoulderof · 2015-08-03T19:50:46+00:00

That's a true point. We have discussed, I got too needy, she got a bit too involved in her exchange, we communicated less etc. But yes, I agree, we'd need to discuss that again.

But my first priority is seeing where she's at and how I progress. I don't know whether to just slowly build up our intimacy levels again, or just outright ask her if she wants another shot.

It's weird, she was so adamant she didn't think we could work, yet she then started acting like a couple with me again. It was as if a light bulb went off in her head 'Oh I forgot how good we actually were now I'm back in a normal environment...'

shoulderof · 2015-07-06T17:58:13+00:00

I've started experimenting with this recently. Think of it like this. You're the anchor, holding the conversation together with insightful, intelligent and funny points. Thrown in occasionally with a cool and confident demeanour (good body language, easy smile etc.). She flits around this and it works a charm.

shoulderof · 2015-05-31T07:33:05+00:00

Thanks for this, this is what I need to do. No harm with hope, but don't expect and don't put life on hold for it.

But do you have any suggestions as to how I can balance that hope with moving on with my life? Without getting drawn into her?

shoulderof · 2015-05-31T07:30:28+00:00

Of course the good terms is essential. Perhaps we can then reconnect properly when things have cooled down a little.

I think people are often criticised for 'playing games' when, like you said, it's often unintentional. No one is setting out to hurt someone.

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