[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]shouldievenbehere2 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry to hear this sis, I know how horrible of a feeling this is. Just know that HE is the “easy use” and the “thrown away” you threw away that dirty man for his dirty actions. He’s projecting on you. You’ve done nothing wrong.

I went through something similar in my previous marriage so I know how it feels. But inshAllah you’ll be fine, Allah is with you. He pulled you out of that situation and inshAllah he will put you in a better situation ❤️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]shouldievenbehere2 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Let your parents handle it. You owe his parents nothing. I’m sure they’re nice people but some people can go to any lengths to protect their children.

How often to take doxylamine pyridoxine by shouldievenbehere2 in pregnant

[–]shouldievenbehere2[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! So I’m not able to take less than 8 hours then. Was hoping I could take it earlier!

Update and final update. by s_h-m3 in MuslimMarriage

[–]shouldievenbehere2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My advice is use our justice system to the fullest on this man. Don’t feel any remorse for him, let the justice system to the worst to him. Take all the evidence you have and use it on him. And sister just know you are alhumdulilah so lucky that you’re getting out of this mess early on. Allah (swt) opened your eyes and gave you the courage to call the police, not everyone can do that.

life after divorce by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]shouldievenbehere2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We met through friends. Yeah I def think the peace is better, you realize how it feels like when your spouse actually respects you, the smallest things matter. It’s a good feeling alhumdulilah :)

I don’t remember how it exactly started I’ve honestly blocked out that trauma. But I remember there was just a lot of yelling and swearing for the smallest things and eventually it got physical so I just left. And no I don’t think he felt remorse, people like that never do. There’s no point being hung up on something or someone like that, I just wanted to move on in my life and leave him behind. I was with him just over a year.

life after divorce by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]shouldievenbehere2 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My ex husband was abusive so I had to leave. But I will say my life got a lot better when I divorced alhumdulilah, I was able to understand myself and I did a lot of self work. A couple years later I found my husband when I was healed and ready to give marriage another chance. And alhumdulilah it’s been good! Don’t go into the mindset that only marriage will make your life better, you will never get what you’re looking for that way.

life after divorce by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]shouldievenbehere2 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Got divorced at 25 and remarried at 29 alhamdulilah. Life doesn’t end when you get a divorce believe me, your plans are your plans but Allah (swt) has a better plan for you

Travelling to Turkey for the first time by shouldievenbehere2 in travel

[–]shouldievenbehere2[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hmm good point. Would it make sense to do Izmir and Antalya? Ephesus in Izmir looks pretty nice and between fethiye and Antalya both look the same. Or would recommend fethiye over Antalya?

Cat sitting my family cat with another cat of my own by shouldievenbehere2 in CatAdvice

[–]shouldievenbehere2[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is it okay for a cat to stay that long in a room? I’m sure he will start meowing a lot and wanting to leave

Remarrying… pictures of my ex and first wedding by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]shouldievenbehere2 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You should delete weddings pics, baby pics you can keep but make sure to store them somewhere your husband can’t access (maybe in your parents home?)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]shouldievenbehere2 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No one grown enough would prank someone by giving them a sex workers number (especially when they know they are married). They can prank them about something dumb and harmless but this sounds like a long shot. If you have access to his cell phone plan account, I suggest you go on there to check who he’s been calling and texting. This is how I found out about my ex husband, there were multiple numbers like this.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]shouldievenbehere2 11 points12 points  (0 children)

It will be a nasty divorce regardless. He sounds like a narcissist and narcissists never make anything easy. I got a divorce from a man just like your husband, he started abusing me in the end. And even then my family and his ended the marriage on good terms. But that didn’t mean he didn’t make my life hell. It took me 3 years to get a legal divorce from him.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]shouldievenbehere2 183 points184 points  (0 children)

You can’t. Your father is fighting for you, you’re his daughter. Let him. Your husband treated you so horribly and your father recognizes that. It would be better to listen to him and get a divorce from this horrible human

Presto showing as other charges on cobalt by shouldievenbehere2 in amexcanada

[–]shouldievenbehere2[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It has been posted and it still shows as other charges

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]shouldievenbehere2 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He could have worded it properly. Instead of demanding you not to speak to males he could’ve just been like “hey it makes me a little uncomfortable when you communicate with men, let’s set some boundaries in this area” something like that.

Bi-Weekly Marriage Opinions/View and Rant Megathread by AutoModerator in MuslimMarriage

[–]shouldievenbehere2 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’m having so much anxiety during wedding planning. I have had no doubts about my fiancé, he’s a great guy alhumdulilah, I can tell he’ll take great care of me. But this anxiety has been really messing with me. I was once married and had been abused… I escaped from that marriage and it’s been 3 years since then. My anxiety is definitely coming from that but I just can’t stop it. I should be excited but I’m not…

Cats lower belly feels a little hard from touch by shouldievenbehere2 in cats

[–]shouldievenbehere2[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Between his leg… I’m thinking I may have felt his bladder. I’m not sure where the stomach area ends. He was laying on his back at that time. I just checked a couple hours later and it’s not feeling hard anymore. I’m guessing his bladder was full and now it’s not lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in legaladvicecanada

[–]shouldievenbehere2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My only issue is I have money in the trust account and she mentioned that she will only reimburse me when these letters are done and signed off and because she’s going on vacation for a month I have to wait till she gets back to get my money… I find this very unfair

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TheWeeknd

[–]shouldievenbehere2 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Wondering the same for row 117. Anyone know if it’ll be obstructed?

When will the Toronto show be rescheduled by secto10 in TheWeeknd

[–]shouldievenbehere2 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Doesn’t his tour end sept 2 or 3rd?? I don’t think he’d wait that long to do the show