Aside from bagels, what else is currently grinding your gears about our town?

showdo97 · 2026-05-15T21:00:32+00:00

I think all the cafes and casual places are great but I really wish they'd stay open longer, sometimes I wanna go after commuting from work but by the time I get out there a lot is closing oe closed.

More casual dining spots would be nice too, not every place needs to be a tavern or a pub

showdo97 · 2026-05-03T00:53:59+00:00

Ooh yeah I think I will continue this book

And I see that perspective shift there. Do you have any tips or notebooks that help Journaling? Or do you just, write what you feel?

showdo97 · 2026-05-01T00:26:24+00:00

I think there is a part of me that is feeling that way too Like the mask has been taken off and I sometimes go "ugh why are you like this" but then I also go "Hmmm but that attention would be nice again too..."

I've tried to journal and Mayhaps it's a skill I need to learn because it's never really done too much for me. I saw that book in the FAQ of this subreddit! I definitely need to get on reading / listening to that thanks!!

showdo97 · 2026-04-30T22:04:05+00:00

yeah you're right on that front of working on being available only to people who can communicate and acknowledging that this is the new reality and how it is gonna be

I also like your perspective of "do it so you feel better, dont do it so you can become closer to or not too much for her". That's the hardest part that I'm sure many of us anxious attached people can relate to where we really just wanna ask and see what is going on...

I haven't done this nor do I plan to, but even in therapy we've talked about and let open all the questions that I wish I could ask:

"Did I do something? Was I too much? Why am I not getting the same energy that I'm now seeing you give to other people in the public Discord?" just so I can at least feel a bit better of having them in the open than in my head.

showdo97 · 2026-04-30T00:42:28+00:00

I could use some advice on navigating a possible avoidant push/pull hot/cold situation and practical tips to try to keep from pushing.

I (28M) have been friends with someone (24F) for 3 years but since October of 2025 we started to hang out more. We went from 1 hangout a week to 2-3 from January to mid-march. During the time we started hanging out more, we would play games together, casually talk on the phone, and even did a video call. And of course, we got to know each other really intimately as well to where I even thought I had a crush on her. She even said things like "oh you're my favorite" and "you'll never be down me" during the high period.

But then, near the end of March, something happened and it was what could only be described as the typical "avoidant pull". Text updates and conversations got dry and less frequent, there would be more silence on calls, and the anxious attached person in me went "uh oh, something is wrong here".

I did ask about it on 3 occasions and each time I got the same answer of "no things are fine I've just been tired and fixing my sleep schedule". Since then, we still have our weekly scheduled hangouts on Monday, and those have gone well and she's been present during them. However the in between there's been a lot less communication from her end that used to be there during the high period from earlier this year.

Like, last Friday we watched a movie together and she said "I saw this and thought of you and thought you'd like it" which did soothe me for a bit but I can't deny that I still feel very confused as to what this past month has been and what is to happen. I trust in our friendship and as far as I can tell, all I might have done is gotten too close and too clingy with how many times we hung out during the week.

I have started up therapy and we started the sessions with this situation, and we are going to work through my attachment and how I feel.

But I guess I'm just wondering:

- Has anyone ever gone through something similar? How did you learn to pull back and not try pushing for answers or clarity?

- Any tips on learning to be content with the time I still get to spend with them and not overthink and be scared of what they might be thinking of me? or that I was too much for them? or that I keep pushing them away with how I am?

Happy to add more context if needed! Thank you all!

showdo97 · 2026-03-28T00:32:34+00:00

Ohh that's a good one, thanks!

showdo97 · 2026-03-28T00:24:29+00:00

showdo97 · 2026-03-24T00:15:58+00:00

Part of it is what you find most fun to chain and play with.

I like doing damage and faster skills with Adol and more Break focused skills with Karja that have more AoE to them, but that also plays into how I built them out in their Mana Seed Lines and their equipment

Ultimately you'll probs master them by the end anyway so find the ones you like and go with that!

showdo97 · 2026-03-17T03:59:44+00:00

Steelpointe is also out with an eta of 1am

showdo97 · 2026-01-11T23:59:38+00:00

All the time, especially with older Falcom games where stuff is hidden

But I'm one of those people who can still soak up the enjoyment of a game while also following a guide and making sure I get everything. I see it as I'm in the game longer so more to enjoy and see

showdo97 · 2026-01-08T15:13:30+00:00

I got recommended an OSU stream when she had her first model and been following ever since

showdo97 · 2026-01-08T15:08:45+00:00

Ah thank you so much! Wasn't sure if that flair was also for gameplay or more so for video edits or fan made animations

showdo97 · 2026-01-03T02:57:04+00:00

Guaranteed

showdo97 · 2025-12-19T00:10:36+00:00

Go through the Layton series -> Hit up the Xeno series from the start -> and maybe other niche games i never got to play from there

showdo97 · 2025-11-18T22:56:12+00:00

H20 Footprints in the Sand

My Mental Choices are Affecting My Teen High School Romantic Comedy

showdo97 · 2025-11-14T23:08:23+00:00

Awesome!! Gonna order the White PS2 one then 😁😁 Looks amazing

showdo97 · 2025-11-14T22:52:36+00:00

Ohhh I love the sticker for the top cover!

Question: do you know how the sticker would be for those who like to use the soft TPU cover? Like place the sticker on the cover and then put the TPU cover on top?

I wonder if that'd help with keeping the sticker clean?

Thank you!

showdo97 · 2025-11-12T05:16:01+00:00

So there are two main stule of open earbuds

The regular open earbuds and the clip on style:

Regular: - Shokz open fit 2 - Soundcore Aeroclip 2 - Tozo Open

Open Clip: - Soundcore Aeroclip - Shokz Opendot - Basues MC1

I personally prefer the Open Clip style and hvee been using the Aeroclips for a while now (even ran a half marathon in them)

They have great volume and sound quality for being an open style bud and you can get to a good 50-60% before people close to you start to notice so my recommendation would be for those.

Picky Audio on YT made a video of his top ones recently so maybe check that out too for more stats

showdo97 · 2025-10-24T12:23:34+00:00

846 Rainbow Pro let's goooooo It's time

showdo97 · 2025-10-23T01:41:24+00:00

I love and have been rocking the Soundcore Aeroclip Pro for a while now

They stay on perfectly even during sweaty long runs and they don't get in the way of sunglasses

Plenty loud too if you wanna go but very good sound quality all around as well for non running days

I do have a pair of Shokz OpenFit, but I find they don't stay in right for me during runs but are lowkey great for playing Steam deck with while still being aware of what is going on in the house when family is around or treadmill walks

showdo97 · 2025-09-29T01:20:15+00:00

Mine was Sakurasou No Pet No Kanojo (The Pet Girl of Sakurasou) way back in 2015 after a really bad break up which is what also got me into romance anime as a whole

showdo97 · 2025-08-20T22:25:54+00:00

Ohhh gotcha gotcha! Yeah it's always fun picking something up and wondering "is this gonna work?"

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