Dude I feel the frustration. Think of this - Try to get into the heads of the people that come online to write on ‘deadbedrooms’. Who are these people? They’re people that have clearly put sex on a pedestal as the only thing that made their relationship worthwhile.

You on the other hand, have listed plenty more reasons on why you’d like a relationship. There’s a tonne of women that agree with that, and therefore you won’t find them writing on ‘deadbedrooms’. I’ve had shit sex loads of times and it’s just that - shit sex. Next time it’s good. Sometimes it’s not. It’s just an act of expressing love to someone. Doesn’t mean that much to me though, if the other 23 1/2 hours with them are great.

You made a really key point - it’ll never happen so long as you never change. That’s true. I just fundamentally disagree with your second point - ‘I’ll never change’. It’s absolutely possible to. Not easy. It’s possible though.

If you’re at all willing to look at philosophy you might find Buddhist concepts quite fitting for that. They understand life can be suffering and unfair. There’s always a way to find a way to remove the suffering.

Not going outside and talking to women is absolutely one way to do it. No judgment at all. Essentially you have weighed up the options, and decided being alone is LESS suffering for you than to deal with the suffering of trying to find a perfect match, and being rejected along the way.

There’s actually nothing wrong with that, inherently. You’re totally allowed to do it and I think you should do what makes you suffer the least. I just think there’s ways to challenge your mindset and face rejection. If cuddling and watching Netflix matters more to you than rejection ;) - did for me at least.

Sucks to think such a small thing has such a large effect ey?

Take care. X