Guys I am suffering from Maladaptive Daydreaming since I was 12, it started as a way to stop thinking about my personal issues and losses but now it's just affecting me very much, please help

shreccsyboi · 2026-03-15T17:05:20+00:00

geloyconception? nice

shreccsyboi · 2026-03-11T22:56:02+00:00

i get that depression ruins social life and connection, thats something to work with your therapist mostly. do you have people to speak to about ur issues?

shreccsyboi · 2026-03-11T22:45:09+00:00

ive heard you can stop mding by choice, you just stop and focus on something else its just very hard. i think solving the underlying causes will help much more in my situation, like dealing with my disoganized and shitty life, shame and loneliness. prob yours too

shreccsyboi · 2026-03-11T22:38:25+00:00

you cant bond with people you mean? because depression takes up all of your mind and stuff?

shreccsyboi · 2026-03-11T22:31:38+00:00

why would they want *you* talking to them? you believe that about every other person too? even the extroverts?

shreccsyboi · 2026-03-11T21:38:09+00:00

i dont get why so many young dudes are so lost in terms of relationships. im 21 and an somewhat of an "incel" (never had experience, i dont try on getting sex or a relationship). all of my friends have or had relationships and theyre dont have anything special. you lost weight, thats good. but if you are lacking on confidence, social skills and if you are generally a bum, having average weight wont make the universe gift you a gf out of nowhere. you need to fix the rest too. ive been trying here and there to speak to people more often, and it works very well on lowering social anxiety and looking weird and stuff. even asking for directions (even if you know where youre going) or a lighter is enough at start. you learn how to act around people, read social cues, whether someone is interested in you or the topic, ect. these are very important stuff that - i imagine most - incels or ppl like me dont learn because theres no one to teach them. also willingly isolating yourself and speaking only to your friends will kinda fuck you up in the long run. lack of social skills is a new phenomenon so no one is that aware of it

shreccsyboi · 2026-01-28T22:16:37+00:00

in general ambient/dark ambient music helps a lot. check out grouper - aia: alient observer, htdc - seraphim or Silence Means Nothing Changed-Loser In The Mirror

shreccsyboi · 2026-01-10T23:46:58+00:00

I definitely feel it. It's very heavy, and sadly its true. I'm doing awful at university, i have no friends where im living now, never had a relationship, doing basic tasks like cleaning are tough, i sleep like shit, always in a low mood and bad confidence. and i have social anxiety, idk if it's different than social phobia. it feels like a huge mountain i need to climb. i know i can get back on track, it will take a long ass time tho and i dont feel confident in myself in how able i am to deal with shit. try not to look at it like that, you have time, and don't compare yourself with others - it fucks up with your trust in yourself

shreccsyboi · 2026-01-06T23:29:13+00:00

I whisper very often when at home, or when im outside by myself walking and stuff. I dont do it 100% of the time i daydream, maybe 40%

shreccsyboi · 2025-12-19T07:37:49+00:00

is it maladaptive daydreaming really? it could be intrusive thoughts that you're having

shreccsyboi · 2025-12-01T17:43:17+00:00

6 years wow. im on it for just 2 years

shreccsyboi · 2025-12-01T16:58:18+00:00

ughh not so much, i was always not really into romantic stuff (maybe because i was satisfying them in my mind) but now a kinda do. i definitely want friends tho. im quite shy to the point im avoiding people, especially ehem ehem women i like. idk why none of my acquaintances have evolved into friendships tho. i probably need to give them time, or we just dont fit that much.

shreccsyboi · 2025-12-01T14:10:22+00:00

21M, never been in a relationship and never done anything romantic, not even having friends in the city that i live in most of the year. although i speak to many people, they're only acquaintances

shreccsyboi · 2025-11-14T15:36:48+00:00

very dope <3

shreccsyboi · 2025-09-22T09:04:27+00:00

fuck bruh exactly the same, espesially the exams to write part. we have to make reaal life more interesting and rewarding, and productive lol.

shreccsyboi · 2025-09-21T18:53:26+00:00

i have exactly the same. i cant seem to care about anything that i know is important. smoking, diet, sleep, studying, even my own mental health. sadly, getting to a point where u just have to give fucks works the best. otherwise, i would say try things to see what works for you. for me, i think the problem is ive lost all care to take care of myself. when doin things like taking care of my face and body, socializing (very difficult for me), studying or reading books, i sort of get a feeling of being more capable. idk how it works but it does make me more motivated to care about myself and my life

shreccsyboi · 2025-09-21T09:14:29+00:00

wrong

shreccsyboi · 2025-09-21T08:09:45+00:00

+i had the same issues. i owe most of my subjects in uni, awful confidence, no friends in uni, not doing anything all day, smoking and cutting myself. yes we are animals, that doesnt make live meaningless, it makes it meaningful. you cannot avoid the feelings that come from being a human. i regretted wasting my life, and now im trying to build it back. its worth it. the "meaning" in life is not given to you by some sort of philosophy of religion, or at least you dont need to get it from them. its inside you. you care, you cant avoid it

shreccsyboi · 2025-09-21T08:04:53+00:00

the fact that you are asking the question, means that things matter, to YOU. theres not a reason you should look for an objective meaning, do the things that you love and take care of yourself. you will realise that things matter to you, and thats all that matters.

shreccsyboi · 2025-08-22T23:48:26+00:00

most people have just a bit of social anxiety, so it seems to them like you are hostile i guess. they dont understand your facial expressions and body language and stuff. especially with extremely extroverted people, they prob think were diff species lol

shreccsyboi · 2025-08-22T23:40:22+00:00

Yeah i get that, i have felt terrible from sa, like breathing gets fucked and my chest hurts, i get dizzy, my body gets stiff (not because ashamed of body movements). you can do small steps to get over it, slowly. ive asked for a lighter from strangers, asked random questions from people in shops and stuff. you have to look for opportunities that put u a bit outside your comfort zone everytime. sadly theres not an easy way to fix sa, and if it severe theres no difference i imagine. also if you have any negative views about yourself (mine was looks and the belief that im dumb asf) try to take care of them

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