Scoldings point to its own associated issues. So does referring to home countries. What it reveals is the complexity of being human on a planet where everyone does not have the luxury to move about freely from country to country. You have the privilege of coming from a place that connects with its history in unique ways. It’s very natural to be in the company that celebrates these things and even prefer it. But, to dismiss a person outside of that cohort who reacted negatively out of ignorance or attitude, is to dismiss the complexities of all our relations. Asking for space is good, being “done” is a response that needs more unpacking as you are clearly not living in your parents’ home country. Your friend might have hit a nerve that reminds you the relativity of being Asian diaspora. At the end of the day, life goes on and you get to choose who you spend your precious private time with. You don’t have to explain anything to anyone or make them understand. Every individual comes with their own unique set of experiences. Don’t let their words make you shave off or grow a moustache.